Is it normal to feel like this?

[Flossie03]

Hi, I'm new to this site (just joined today) and stumbled accross this forum when I was searching the net for miscarriage support. I had a miscarriage at 7weeks last week, we had been trying for baby no 2 for a few months and were so excited when it happened. Physically I am feeling stronger but emotionally I am so so down, I am trying my hardest to be grateful for what I have and my lovely son and husband but I feel like I am putting on an act, walking around in a bubble where no-one can really reach me. Everthing is such a huge effort and I am scared that I am never going to feel better, I just can't see a way forward at the moment, I'm going back to work next week to try to occupy myself but it all just feels so hard. I guess what I'm trying to ask is are these normal feelings? I think it would help if I just knew that they are; I don't know how I should be feeling, everyone else seems to think I should be getting back to normal now and as much as I want to it seems like that's going to be more difficult then I thought.

 

[Sambatiki]

Im so sorry for your loss

I think think that any emotions that you are feeling are 'normal'. Regardless of how many children you have got I dont think its easy. I found BNB a great source of support when I needed most after MC also at 7 weeks, I really do not know what I would have done without the girls here. I think you need to grieve for your loss and try to stop being so hard on yourself. Give yourself time.... its a great healer.

Thinking of you at this sad time

 

[JASMAK]

I have two kids, but since then I have lost three consecutive pregnancies. Just because we have children, does not make us hurt less when we lose one. Make sure you grieve your loss. I am sorry for your loss.

 

[mjbazz]

yes i lost my baby 2 days ago and everything your experiencing i am to, it feels like i wil never move on and scared all the time

im sorry for your loss i am glad there are ppl out there who knows what were going through
x x x

 

[honeybunch2k7]

What you are feeling is normal.

Is there a support group around you??? You need to talk. This site is great,too.

It's been nearly a year for me. I can't say I'm better or that I'm over it, I just cry less.

I would think twice about going to work if you didn't have to. You may be around pregnant women, women with newborns-that was a difficult part for me. But if you feel you are able to deal with that then I suppose that would be ok.

 

[SJK]

Hi, I'm new to this site (just joined today) and stumbled accross this forum when I was searching the net for miscarriage support. I had a miscarriage at 7weeks last week, we had been trying for baby no 2 for a few months and were so excited when it happened. Physically I am feeling stronger but emotionally I am so so down, I am trying my hardest to be grateful for what I have and my lovely son and husband but I feel like I am putting on an act, walking around in a bubble where no-one can really reach me. Everthing is such a huge effort and I am scared that I am never going to feel better, I just can't see a way forward at the moment, I'm going back to work next week to try to occupy myself but it all just feels so hard. I guess what I'm trying to ask is are these normal feelings? I think it would help if I just knew that they are; I don't know how I should be feeling, everyone else seems to think I should be getting back to normal now and as much as I want to it seems like that's going to be more difficult then I thought.

so sorry for your loss, yes this is normal, its the way I was when I had a mmc in aug, take as much time as you need to grieve for your child, but in time it will get easier xxx

 

[Flossie03]

Thanks for your replies, I am so relieved to find somewhere I can share my honest feelings, it has helped xx