If you live off base, you get BAH (Basic allowance for housing) that is set to your rank. DH is only an E-3, so as you can probably conclude, we don't get that much, just enough to live from paycheck to paycheck. If you live on base .. all your BAH is taken away & they pay your utilities... everything else is up to you. Basically the higher rank you are, the more you get paid (obviously). However, this makes it very difficult for young military couples (such as DH & I) to make ends meet. What about the price that soldiers have to pay being away from their families for 15 months in Afghanistan? Some, most unfortunately, do not come home.
But that was their choice to make. No one forced him to sign up IYKWIM?
In some cases, no. What about the draft? & to be honest, it was his choice. It was his choice to step up as a man & a father to support his family. It was his choice to not leave my daughter & I to fend for ourselves. It is a choice, but not everyone gets deployed. My brother-in-law was infantry & had one 15 month deployment out of his three year career. His best friend, who had a different job, was in for 6 years & didn't get deployed once. It certainly is a choice, but if you were in DH's & my situation .. an unexpected pregnancy & a will to provide a decent life for a family .. then sometimes the military is the only choice. (This is to each their own, keep in mind)
It is very admirable that your OH signed up to support his family. I did just want to say that there are lots of other jobs however that mean that partners and husbands are away from home, often and short notice. These jobs do not put their lives at direct risk(there are risks but they are not the daily risk which comes from deployment.) but they are away from their families and miss a lot of family life too. I would have thought that when you sign up you must know that you may be deIployed and you make the decision to apply accordingly.
I have lived with an OH who has had to be work away from home, often at very short notice for many years, so I do understand how that is. In all jobs there is a salary scale and when you are near the bottom or starting out you always look upwards at what may be a bit down the road. It is tough for most young couples starting out, no matter what job you do. That is not unique to the military. It is a hard one to decide who should be paid more or not. I do think that lots of jobs are valuable and, especially those in the public sector, are not always paid in accordance to the value they have to society.