Is the 7 year itch real?

[Nibblenic]

Maybe less of a serious debate, but is been quiet.


So is the 7 year itch a real problem or is it a myth?

Not necessarly 7 years of marriage but 7 year relationship.
Debate

 

[Nibblenic]

Personally My relationship broke down at 7.5 years after only 18 months of marriage. Obviously it was many factors but mainly I was sick of the crap and on the ook out for someone/something else.

I looked at relationship and thought you know what I want more/better. So that was that really.

So I very much believe in the 7 year itch, when me and Oh get to that point Im going to be very aware this time and make sure we work through it.

 

[BlackBerry25]

Yup! I have posted before in other sections, but I think its def. real!

 

[Lightworker]

Great thread! DH and I have been together almost 7 yrs and I wen through a phase at about 6 yrs when I started fancying other people. This could have been down to me as a person, or maybe that we were going through a rough time with regards to our financial lives. I don't know if its a phenomenon or just down to peoples weaknesses. Having said that, I quickly woke from that phase and I realized how in love I am with DH and the romance is back with a bang.

 

[cleckner04]

Yes!!! It's totally real. DH was the one who went a bit crazy and it was literally a few weeks before our 7 year anniversary that things started falling apart. But we pushed through it and are better than ever now! We are coming up to our 7 year wedding anniversary this year(10 years together total), and I worry the seven year itch can happen twice but I really hope not!

 

[blahblahblah]

I've never got as far as 7 years to find out! Personally I've found 2.5-3 years the critical point.

 

[tallybee]

I've never got as far as 7 years to find out! Personally I've found 2.5-3 years the critical point.

Same here! I've been with OH for 2 years and 2 months and my only other relationship to last nearly as long was 1 year and 10 months. I have to say that lately we have been having a LOT of problems, to the point of almost calling it a day. So it's around the 2 year mark that I've found to be critical.

I think it must depend on circumstances really. But there are definitely flash points at certain stages of relationships. Whether we get through them or not I guess depends on how much both partners want it etc.

 

[ShireLass]

Well we've been together 7 years (in February). We're getting married this year and planning to start TTC, so 7 years seems ok for us.

I would say we were rockiest around year 3.

 

[summer rain]

We've been together nearly 8 years now and haven;t had a row for over a year now; and before that the last time was 2008 so no I don't believe in it xx

 

[KaceysMummy]

I don't think its 'real' tbh, if you love someone then whether you've been married or dating for 7 years - really has nothing to do with it - if it's true love, it will last...
Yeah people may get bored and want something else or the 'spark' has gone - but these could happen well before 7 years or well after.
x

 

[3rdtimelucky]

I agree with Kaceys Mummy. I think if your truly in love you will work through anything.
Yes all relationships go through up and down periods but that could be at 2, 4 7 or further years.

 

[special_kala]

For us it was very real and our 7 years of being together coincided with the first year of marriage. We very nearly didnt make it though tbh

 

[SKATERBUN]

It was with my ex, but then again he was a complete nut job psycho throughout my entire relationship, I kinda woke up to my senses and left lol

 

[smelly07]

I agree with Kaceys Mummy. I think if your truly in love you will work through anything.
Yes all relationships go through up and down periods but that could be at 2, 4 7 or further years.

i agree

the 'itch' has change from anywhere between 6 months to 4 years of marriage now apparently lol........... i think if theres going to be an itch there will be one not just as soon as 7 years hits. x

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Yes we had problems after 7 yrs together but we worked through it x

 

[Sarahkka]

I don't think that we hit any crisis at 7 years. Not to sound too Little Miss Perfect, but we've had a pretty rock solid relationship for 12-13 years now and I don't think we've ever had a crisis. We had a few times where we were pretty snarky with each other, but those were circumstantial and didn't happen at 7 years.
I agree that patterns of discord have more to do with the couple and with circumstances than with a time period.

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

i don't think i can comment my longest relationship was only 5 years ! and only been in my current one for 15 months ... seems to be real for some people tho but i bet if u asked it about say 3 or 6 years you would get the same responses x

 

[PeanutBean]

I reckon so! We had a baby at 7 years which distracted us so maybe that's the answer!

There's also an 11 month itch.

 

[Nibblenic]

Ive personally found that

At a year you see if you can continue past that intial rip eachother clothes off spark
At 3 years you decide to make a next step in your relationship (babies moving in together some kind of comitment)
At 5 you reacess wether this is some one you realy want to be with forever then ou either shit or get off the pot. I think a he amount of people get engaged/married at 5 years
At 7 there is the ITCH!

Ive never made it past 8 years, but I hope to with OH infact I hope to make it past 50 years. This time I genuinley think we will

 

[lolababes]

I do yes and I think it goes in 7s too We had a bad patch at 7(ish) years and again at 14 (been together 16) but we are stronger than ever now