Is there anything i haven't tried!!!!

[Queenie23]

Hi all,

I have been happy, sad, hopeful and now just plain angry! I’ve been TTC for 6 months going on 7. I actually feel like I am officially infertile!!

Since my first cycle of TTC, I have been prepared and started of my first cycle by using OPK’s and monitoring my CM (which is a little cleae but never stretchy). Then as soon as my second cycle started I decided to just try everything.
I have used Clear Blue Fertility monitor, OPK's, Monitoring my CM and cervix, Preseed (started 3 cycles ago), I have completely cut out ALL caffeine for 6 months, been taking Folic Acid for the last 5 months and still nothing. My partner even started taking Zinc 3 months ago and stopprf smoking 4 months ago.

I am 23 very nearly 24 and my husband is 28. I would say we are both pretty healthy and eat our fruit and veg everyday!

We both BD on average around 4-5 times a month. I know that doesn’t sound a lot, if I’m honest neither of us have a massive sex drive. Which doesn’t help.

As soon as I get a high day on the CBFM we have sex ever other day, Then as soon as I get a peak we BD every day for 3 days. Then wait until the next month. I know I am ovulating at this time as I use CBFM and OPK and they both say “PEAK DAY” plus I have a little EWCM on those days. So why are we still not pregnant?

There are 45 people in my office at work(men and women) and 8 of the women are pregnant! It’s a joke! I know I sound like a spoilt brat. But I honestly feel like I am starting to feel a little bitchy towards pregnant women and almost jealous. How evil am I!

Does anyone feel as bitter as I do? Can anyone please recommend anything that I have not done that I could try? I have tried so hard not to cry and brush it under the carpet, but i feel like bursting out into tears! I have been telling my husband when i am ovulating and I know he wants it so bad that he gets all anxious when it comes down to having sex becuase he said all he can think about is babies and how badly we want it. I'm worried that the pressure is effecting his sperm.
What do you girls think? XxXxX

 

[SLH]

I feel your pain

The only thing you said you haven't done is take your bbt every day. I don't know how more useful it will be if you use the other things, but it helped me figure out my cycle and I have learned I have a short luteal phase.

Has your partner had a SA yet? Maybe he's the problem.

 

[Queenie23]

I must admit I haven't tried taking my bbt. I may just try that next cycle. It's all I have left really. I am currently 13DPO and just got another BFN on a FRE test. I really thought this month was the month! I just know AF will be here Saturday!

DH went to the clinic today to get his swimmers tested. We hear back in 15 days. I really hope he doesn't have a problem. But all i keep thinking is 6 months of timed sex and still no BFP must mean bad news right? What are all these pregnant women doing to get a BFP? I want some of what they are having xx

 

[Twinkie210]

I understand how you feel. I went off BC at the beginning of the year assuming I would get pregnant fast, but no such luck! I got a BFP in July but MC at 7 weeks. So now I feel like I am back a square one. My DH has a low sex drive too (and to be honest I could do without most of the time, if we weren't TTC). I got him to agree to BD every other day this month, I am hoping this works. I would be lucky to get him to BD twice a week before. I would try charting your BBT, just to confirm O. You can get surges but never ovulate (although that is unlikely to be happening if you have a regular cycle.) Have you talked to your doc yet? I know most won't see you before a year, but it wouldn't hurt to try.

Good Luck!

 

[djkaminski]

only advice i can give is to have intercourse every other day from the end of your period i did this for 14 days and yeh it was hard work and no fun but i have concieved and am 7 wks saturday i had been trying since may but not actually trying that hard just prediciting my ovulating day i got this advice off good old doctor hillary jones on the morning programme and can actually say its worked, I also used preesead lubracant to assist with the overactive sex life ha ha good luck x

 

[Queenie23]

I think I am going to just do that. I know this sounds bad, but i am just going to force myself to do it. It's so hard to get in the mood after a long day at work followed by a big evening meal. I just want to sleep after that! I am 8.9st so you would think I had lots of energy. But I really don't.

Hopefully we can keep doing it that often. Anyone know if Viagra can harm sperm or fertility? Thanks for your help. There is actually a few things I don't appear to have tried!
XX

 

[ellie27]

We done what you done - only 5 times but all those 5 times during the fertile week. Usually twice before +opk, on the day of +opk and 2 next days too. 4/5 times a month at most. But that has been enough for us, and this is our 3rd pregnancy, all after 2-3 months of ttc.

Do you do it at night, so that you are not getting up afterwards and therefor gravity could be allowing swimmers to fall straight back out? Everytime we done it, it was at night, so afterwards I would lay in bed and no swimmers would come out, I would also have my hips/bum up with pillows underneath for 15 mins afterwards to help.

Do you orgasm after OH?? I have heard the contractions of your uterus when you orgasm could possible help suck up the swimmers quicker!!

Good luck!

 

[Queenie23]

Yea it is always at night before bed and I have been putting a pillow under my hips all night.

Oh my god I am going to be thinking all night "I must orgasm just after him" and get all in a state
Maybe I am thinking into this way too much which is why it isn't happening. It's so hard to think of other things when thats all you both want and when everyone around you keeps announcing they are having a baby.

Roll on next cycle so I can get at it

 

[Dimples81]

my doctor told me that for most couples it takes an average of twelve months. as frustrating as it is you are doing the right things and just have to keep trying.

 

[Smiler82]

Yes, agree with the pp. They don't see you til you've been trying for 12 months simply because it can take that long, sometimes longer, and there isn't actually a problem. Humans just don't get pregnant all that easily! Well, some of us don't anyway

I don't mean to pry but do you mean once you've ovulated you stop having sex until your next fertile time? If so, this could be part of the problem. Your partner needs to ejaculate fairly regularly to keep the supply fresh, if you get me. So if he is going 2-3 weeks without ejaculating, when you dtd you may just not be getting his best swimmers!! Also, it takes 3 months for sperm to be produced, so if he only stopped smoking 4 months ago it might just be it's taking his body this long to make the best sperm.

It must be difficult if neither of you have a very high sex drive and it really is no fun when you have to force it. It does sound like you guys are putting a bit of pressure on yourselves though. Maybe you could try to make the sex more fun - don't mean to be cheeky or anything but find out what really excites you both and just go for it!

 

[hope4thebest]

sweetie, it is gonna be alright. at least you are trying with very good weapons - all these tools like OPKs etc etc, you do not do things in the dark + your age.

iam 31 - i can not tell you how disappointing it is not to conceive in my age, you start wondering badly.

best of luck honey...I know you will get there really soon!

 

[harri]

You could try soy? I tried it on this cycle after 15 months trying and it's worked. I have my fx'd for you xxxxx