Lottie86
Mummy to Findlay & Iona
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Ok I feel a bit stupid posting this as I know that most of you have had/are having a much worse time of things than I have with babies who were really really early and poorly so I hope you don't think I'm being too pathetic.
Is it normal to still be having nightmares, flashbacks and crying episodes after 14 weeks?
I am better than I was as to start with when Findlay first came home as I didn't really want much to do with him as every time I looked at him it just reminded me of what happened and I didn't bond really with him as he has been in and out of hospital since he was born. The past 3 weeks is the longest we've had him home with us since he's been born.
Tonight I was in the shower and noticed the scars on my arms from all the cannulas I had to have when I was in hospital for the 8 days before he arrived and it just brought everything back and I just slumped down in the shower and cried. It only takes the slightest thing to start me off. Even something as stupid as my period the other week brought everything back as as soon as I saw blood it just sent my mind right back there having that big bleed and getting ambulanced to hospital.
I'm also getting myself all stressed as my milk supply has started to drop so I'm worrying I will have to give up expressing soon. I had intended to FF from day 1 but with how he arrived I decided to express just whilst he was in hospital and FF once he came home but I have got it into my head that I failed at keeping him safe inside for 9 months and so I don't want to fail at this too and so I've kept going even though I'm finding it absolutely exhausting especially at the moment when I'm looking after Findlay on my own for 3 weeks as my OH is working abroad.
Whenever anyone mentions formula (the dietician offered me a tub of Neocate in case I couldn't manage to stay cows milk free for him) I take it really personally and get myself all worked up that people think my milk is no good and that I can't even do that right. The thing is I know that what I'm thinking is illogical but I still can't stop thinking it.
My OH has been v good (although he was getting v v frustrated when I was wanting to put Findlay into full time nursery the other month as I didn't want to spend time with him as I hadn't really bonded with him) but he doesn't know that I've been having nightmares etc as everyone thinks I've coped really well with everything but tbh I'm not actually coping as well as people think but I don't want to let people down by admitting it if you know what I mean so I've been trying my hardest to be super cheery all the time.
My gp and health visitor aren't exactly sympathetic (and it's a tiny rural village doctors surgery so not like I can just go and see another doctor) so I can't go and speak to them about it. Will everything just sort itself out in a few weeks and I'll be back to normal again?
Sorry if this post doesn't make much sense. This is the first time I've actually admitted to anyone (including myself) that I might possibly have a small problem with everything and so it's the first time I've tried to put some of my thoughts on the matter into words and I'm in floods of tears typing this.
Is it normal to still be having nightmares, flashbacks and crying episodes after 14 weeks?
I am better than I was as to start with when Findlay first came home as I didn't really want much to do with him as every time I looked at him it just reminded me of what happened and I didn't bond really with him as he has been in and out of hospital since he was born. The past 3 weeks is the longest we've had him home with us since he's been born.
Tonight I was in the shower and noticed the scars on my arms from all the cannulas I had to have when I was in hospital for the 8 days before he arrived and it just brought everything back and I just slumped down in the shower and cried. It only takes the slightest thing to start me off. Even something as stupid as my period the other week brought everything back as as soon as I saw blood it just sent my mind right back there having that big bleed and getting ambulanced to hospital.
I'm also getting myself all stressed as my milk supply has started to drop so I'm worrying I will have to give up expressing soon. I had intended to FF from day 1 but with how he arrived I decided to express just whilst he was in hospital and FF once he came home but I have got it into my head that I failed at keeping him safe inside for 9 months and so I don't want to fail at this too and so I've kept going even though I'm finding it absolutely exhausting especially at the moment when I'm looking after Findlay on my own for 3 weeks as my OH is working abroad.
Whenever anyone mentions formula (the dietician offered me a tub of Neocate in case I couldn't manage to stay cows milk free for him) I take it really personally and get myself all worked up that people think my milk is no good and that I can't even do that right. The thing is I know that what I'm thinking is illogical but I still can't stop thinking it.
My OH has been v good (although he was getting v v frustrated when I was wanting to put Findlay into full time nursery the other month as I didn't want to spend time with him as I hadn't really bonded with him) but he doesn't know that I've been having nightmares etc as everyone thinks I've coped really well with everything but tbh I'm not actually coping as well as people think but I don't want to let people down by admitting it if you know what I mean so I've been trying my hardest to be super cheery all the time.
My gp and health visitor aren't exactly sympathetic (and it's a tiny rural village doctors surgery so not like I can just go and see another doctor) so I can't go and speak to them about it. Will everything just sort itself out in a few weeks and I'll be back to normal again?
Sorry if this post doesn't make much sense. This is the first time I've actually admitted to anyone (including myself) that I might possibly have a small problem with everything and so it's the first time I've tried to put some of my thoughts on the matter into words and I'm in floods of tears typing this.