Is this normal?

[Quackquack99]

Hi everyone, this is the first time I have posted in here. I've been single for since August as my daughter's dad decided to leave. We didn't have a relationship for about 6 months prior to it, we were generally living like best friends but there were some major issues that caused that like his constant infidelity and violence (which he has got help for).

My question is, I've got on with things and handled the break up so well and don't miss him. I have had no issues with going on a couple of casual dates these past couple of weeks. Is that a normal reaction to a break up? a 'friend' told me that I was wrong for considering any dating since it hasn't been that long and that maybe I am looking for a rebound fling, which I am not. I am genuinely happy on my own and frankly she didn't know the full story. Would you date so soon after? It doesn't feel wrong to me, maybe because I accepted our relationship was over a long time ago.

 

[babycrazy1706]

I'm totally over my ex aswell. I'm happy on my own. We split in january. I'd say I'm just about ready to meet someone but I'm lazy (hate going to pubs and clubs) so I can't be bothered yet
I'm more interested in spending time with my son and working part time and saving money.
If you feel ready though then go for it! Xx

 

[Mummy1995]

Agree with above! I'm happy on my own and can't be bothered to go out and meet people. Men cause problems haha!! But if you want to then ignore what they say it's perfectly acceptable for you to as long a you're ready! have fun xx

 

[kimberleyrobx]

I dont see why not! FOB moved out almost two weeks ago now and my friend recommended this dating site so for a laugh i signed up and woooaaah! so many messages! I wasnt allowed to so much as talk to another person with FOB around so it felt amazing to be free to do whatever i wanted. Although apparently (my friend told me) there is a one month no dating rule after you break up! EH?! Idk, i too dont miss FOB and i do not want to get back with him so if someone told me off for going a harmless (or fun) date then i would tell them where to go! xx

 

[Quackquack99]

I'm glad i am not the only one! I dont want a relationship just yet, maybe in the future but surely if a gentleman wants to take me out for a meal, it would rude to decline

 

[Dezireey]

Anytime is good for dating if you are ready and are over your ex. Some break ups have been kind of over for some time for some people ( like yours) but the couple just haven't got round to splitting up yet. So you probably have had tons of time to adjust really.

Happy dating

 

[teal]

Definitely not wrong. As long as your happy and comfortable to be dating then that's all that matters x

 

[Natsku]

Not wrong at all, if you're ready then you're ready! My relationship with my ex died a long long time before I left him so I would have been ready to date straight away if I had had the opportunity.

 

[babycrazy1706]

same as natsku. my relationship was dead for months before we broke up.

 

[Baby France]

I think that it depends on how you feel and only you can make that decision.

My ex left in August but I know that atm I am nowhere near ready in looking for another relationship. I think I have a fair bit of 'mending me' first tbh....but if you are ready for it.....GO FOR IT

My ex wants to come back.....not sure how I feel about it, but

 

[daneuse27]

Its not for your friend to decide when it is ok for you to start dating again That's YOUR business and yours only. And if you're happy and comfortable with it, then don't listen to what others think. Do what works for you.

 

[moomin_troll]

They shouldn't even care if u did want a rebound! Your life lol
Some people are idiots. When after a break up u want to start dating, having ur own social life you should, and good on u!

We all deal with things in our own way, so yes this is normal