Is your child well behaved in public?

[letia659]

actually Zander is a really good child when out but at home is where he acts up my oldest was the one I dreaded taking anywhere at around 2-4 yrs he was the one that would fall to the ground screaming and not hold my hand when I tried to dicipline he would scream no no no with everyone staring! fun fun and I was more nervous with him I was much younger and half ass cared what people thought but now when Zander does play up I just smile at those staring Im really not bothered he is just acting his age

 

[sun]

Bun is pretty good about holding hands, but things were sure easier when he would stay in a stroller or shopping cart! He wants nothing to do with either now. He is better when I have time and am patient with stopping every 3 seconds - if I have to do something quick or structured that's when he really acts up. So I try and make sure that I have lots of time to let him explore and if a trip to pick up bananas takes an hour then that's what it takes. Some places I will absolutely not go as it just causes major meltdowns - Toys R Us being the #1 place! I personally think it's a disaster to bring kids under 4 to that store I see at least 10 toddler meltdowns every time I go.

 

[ellismum]

That sounds just like Ellis so your certainly not alone, especily after reading the replies here. He has forest gump syndrome as I call it where given half a chance, he'd run and never stop! Reigns are a no no although he's good with the wrist strap I purchased from Mothercare. Our CM sings his praises when he is out with them but he pushes the boundaries with me. I just hope he grows out of it soon.......Saturday would be nice, we are off in holiday!!! Xxx

 

[sparkle_1979]

yes ruby has them quite often.....chucks herself on the floor and makes sure she has a big an audience as possible before she starts headbutting the floor screaming...

I've now worked out that talking to her before she gets to this stage works, or distraction...like if she wants to go in a shop i dont want to, rather than dragging her off saying no, I try and quickly talk about one of her friends, or say when we get home we can watch peppa pig and get our blankets out....works 50% of the time which means 50% less embarrassment....kids

 

[jojena]

oh we had so many episodes in public and so many situations that we where shamed.But i dont care about others opinion,

 

[Sinead]

River is pretty well behaved but to other people thet might not think so. Shes not all that into holding hands but i dont see that as ad behavior, the same with touching things in shops as long as shes careful and puts itback or gives it t me i dont care.

Of course she throws tantrums sometimes but i dont get embarrassed by them, shes a toddler its kind of what they do. Ve had people give me dirty looks, some of them from mothers of babies! Have felt like saying yea right luv give it a few years you wont be such acocky cow then! Lol.

hahaha, a long time ago I used to be that smug mom of a newborn thinking to myself "nope, my child is never going to do things like that" haha...two years later I was bingeing on humble pie

I had a pregnant woman giving me dirty looks when dd trantrumed in a shop, I also thought poor dear it will her turn next hehehe

However, I tend to ignore people stand next to my dd whilst she is tantruming usually lay on the floor and then carry on with what we were doing(generally shopping) and I refuse to give into her. As well as the dirty looks I have also had people say well done, you're doing a great job, which helps

So you are doing a great job and it's just normal behaviour

 

[Blah11]

Tom's younger (21 months) but I can already see he's heading this way - he's going to be the child in the middle of the pavement screaming "you're hurting me" or "you're not my mummy" in a year or so time.

I find some days he's fine to be given the space to walk on his own in shops etc and he'll stay with me but others its just not happening because he just constantly tries to run out of sight or grab things....its like some days he knows how to behave and tries his best to listen and others he just can't for whatever reason. Same as some days he will hold my hand when needed and other days he just doesn't want to and will scream and scream.

I haven't got much help other than as far as I understand its a normal stage of development and majority of kids go through it at some stage. But I understand how hard it is when people are looking, especially when your's is the only 1 losing the plot!

Is he open to bribes and rewards? Would the promise of a small toy or treat if he walks properly and holds your hand round say 2 shops help????

amelie already does the 'you hurt me mummy' and 'LET ME GOOOOO'

 

[hot tea]

Yeah Ramsay has started the "you hurt me" thing too. And screaming "DONT TOUCH ME THERE!!!!!! " .... The looks you get hahahahahahha! I just smile, I mean... That level of melodrama is practically a GIFT. We could use this to our advantages and put them in acting!!