Isn't it a shame???

[Beadette]

That I cannot bear to venture to First Tri boards. I have had a look a couple of times but it either unsettled me or annoys me. I can't really explain it. My pregnancy innocence has been stolen and I'll never get it back. That to me is sad. Although my loss has not completely ruined my excitement for this time (like I thought it would) - I am a different person now.

On the other hand, I've got you fine ladies whom I feel 100% more comfortable with here in my new home! So a massive thank you xxxx

 

[blondee]

That I cannot bear to venture to First Tri boards. I have had a look a couple of times but it either unsettled me or annoys me. I can't really explain it. My pregnancy innocence has been stolen and I'll never get it back. That to me is sad. Although my loss has not completely ruined my excitement for this time (like I thought it would) - I am a different person now.

On the other hand, I've got you fine ladies whom I feel 100% more comfortable with here in my new home! So a massive thank you xxxx

Oh hun - that is EXACTLY how i feel! I didn't realise there was a PAL section for a while and just kept dipping into first tri but felt completely out of sorts and missed the TTCAL girls too much (so i stayed there until i found PAL).

It is soooo shit that our innocence has been taken from us, i think it is ok for us to feel short changed. But hey (looking frantically for the positive in the situation) at least we will appreciate our healthy pregnancies more and we have a such a great shared bond with our fellow PAL ladies

This is a more exclusive, cosier group

Mich X

 

[Iris]

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[SugarKisses]

it is so very sad our innocence has been stolen I lost my little girl 2 years ago and I worried constantly through her brothers pregnancy and he died 5 weeks ago...he was 2 days and 3 hours old....my innocence has gone even more so than before now and its not fair I wish it was a case of 'getting past 12 weeks and everythings hunky dory' but its just not

Hugs to everyone x x x

 

[Beadette]

Oh SugarKisses, I'm so so sorry for your losses! I can't imagine how you must feel and would never try to as it wouldn't come close. Sending hugs and love xxx

 

[debgreasby]

Not got my yet but i doubt i'll go into 1st tri, will just come hang here with you lot.

It is a shame we have this negative view towards pregnancy now.

hugs xxx

 

[jeanettekaren]

I am completely terrified at posting/reading 1st Tri too, last time I bounced into there straight away and this time I feel like I will jinx myself by going in there

 

[Minimin]

I hear you jeanettekaren- I am to scared to do anything

 

[Lolly W]

I couldn't agree more! I'm not sure I'll leave pal now it's here!

 

[chocolate]

Im actually the opposit oddly, tend to pop in here but mainly stay in the first trimester boards - I suppose I kind of like the innocence of the first trimester boards, keeps me thinking a bit more positively - even though its always at the back of my mind. I suppose I can sort of enjoy the innocence of everyone else's posts and reminds me its ok to dip into dreamland occasionally ifuswim?

 

[sue247]

I am like you Mininmin i am just scared of doing anything too, i am even too scared to put a ticker up i don't want to get too excited and jinxed things!

 

[Minimin]

Sue247- thats the same reason I dont have one. I do however feel I am letting this get out of control and there will have to be a point where I will have to stop worrying so much. What will be will be. I have not reached that point yet

 

[blondee]

I couldn't put a ticker on until after my second scan (7w3d). I came back feeling so positive that i wanted to do it. I want to be positive and believe in the pregnancy, it is just very hard some days (as you all know).

M X

 

[jeanettekaren]

i am just scared of doing anything too, i am even too scared to put a ticker up i don't want to get too excited and jinxed things!

I have been like that all week until I got a 3+ on my clearblue digital as I didn't get past 1-2 last time

 

[sue247]

I will feel a little better after my scan at the end of next week ( I will be almost 9 weeks then). Having a MC really does take away the innocence, it is sad, but you realise being pregnant does not mean you will have a baby at the end of it. I am trying to be positive and just say what will be will be, but realistic too and don't want to get too excited yet! I was reading some threads over in the first trim and girls talking about buying prams at 5 weeks! Who knows when i would be comfortable to start buying stuff!!!

 

[wanabamummy]

I'm with chocolate on this. I thought that I wud only stay in pal but there are still loads of ladies in 1sr tri who are just as scared and worried as I am.

I have found that there excitement has also actually helped me start to enjoy pregnancy! The first few weeks was hard but after reaching a few milestones I feel better for it.

SO I kinda hop between both 1st tri and pal.

 

[lori]

I couldn't handle first tri until around 8 weeks, and even then, I just couldn't get into most of the conversations. I don't want to give false hope to people who are worried about mc, because I really can't tell them it's going to be ok. It might not be. But of course I can't say that. I feel irritated by all the complaining and moaning. I feel like telling them that it's a privilege to be where they are and a whole lot of girls around here would trade places with them in a heartbeat.

Wow, I sound bitter, don't I? I'm really not. I have been loving this pregnancy. Some of the innocence is gone, yes, but in exchange I think I have a deeper appreciation for what a gift this baby really is.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one. All the best girls

 

[MissyMojo]

i tip toe in both - im excited this pregnancy FEELS different - does that make sense? but im also soo scared, hubbys on a sex ban, im being soo careful about what i eat (when i can that is) and im generally more afraid to do normal stuff!

 

[blondee]

Ok, i'm trying first tri again, but i have to say i think Lori put it all pretty well...

X

 

[lauralora]

tbh i didnt like first tri, but this section wasnt available when i was in my first 12 weeks, it scared me, and i felt i scared others, because id m/c in the past. i totally agree with others, i wish it was as simple as getting past 12 weeks, but it isnt, its about getting right to the end giving birth and STILL having a healthy baby. my problems all came in the second trimester, im a nervous mess