Issues about being with FOB.

[xVAP]

Okay, so I guess these issues are the kind of issues most girls would hope for in my position. So maybe its stupid to complain about.

Me and my FOB have never been together, we're best friends. There is something between us, obviously, as we sleep together every so often. He's known that I've always had some feelings for him, but he's always said that he didn't feel the same about me. But we're best friends, and us sleeping together was just because we both enjoyed it.

Anyyyyyway, back to the point of the thread. A couple of days ago he suggested maybe we should get together. He's saying we always act like a couple when we're snuggled up in bed together and whatever. We're the first one that each other confides in if we have a problem. We're best friends and get along better with each other than we do with anyone else (bar a few arguements).

But I'm not sure. I dont want this to just be coming to his mind because now I guess we have to put up with each other for the rest of our lives now, regardless. He said its got nothing to do with the baby, and he thinks over time it would've happened even if i'd not have got pregnant. But now, I'm just unsure. Half of me wants to jump at the chance to actually be with him, but the other half worries that it would be a big mistake and cause more problems down the road. And now, every time we cuddle or say cute stuff I feel like its awkward cause i'm worried if there's more to it from either end.

I dont really know if I'm asking anything in this thread. Has anyone been in this situation/a similar one? Advice? Help? Anything?

 

[magic93]

I had the exact type of relationship with someone a couple years ago although I no longer speak to him n was never pregnant with him I can understand how you might be feeling emotionally. I always thought we would end up together n so did everybody else. At the time I would have given anything to be with him, he ended up going to jail and I still kept in touch with him but I met the guy I am with now while he was in there, n we he got outi wanted to stay friends with him cuz he was my best friend, but idk what happened I guess he was thinkin when he came home I would be there still waiting for him n when I wasnt our whole friendship jus stopped. I am now so happy cuz I have found the man im goin to spend the rest of my life with n theres no questions about it. But anyways I think if you were to be with him you may be giving up other opportunities, mabye there is that one out there for you or mabye he is the one. Regardless your child is the most important thing now n thatll always be common ground between the two of you n if its meant to be itll happen. You are so young n so much will still change so keep your mind open hun sorry for this long ass post, hope ive helped you some

 

[xVAP]

You have helped, thank you.
I know its easy to tell myself that I should just hold out and see what happens. But inside I'm like a little schoolgirl (I know I'm still young, but ykwim.) I feel like my crush has just told me that he fancies me too and now I'm so giddy and it feels impossible to pass up the opportunity to be with him. But at the same time I feel like this is jut a shotgun relationship. Arghhhh.

 

[magic93]

Whatever you decide to do I wish you all the best. I know sometimes things seem that they are for the best n they turn out not to be, but you never know jus keep yourself grounded n dont lose track of whats important.

 

[lizmageeful]

Me and FOB were friends for years and years before we got together. and three months after we were "official" we were expecting... so that kinda made us stay together. But Its nice because he really is my best friend and we are together a lot. we fight loads, but its ok cause we did the same thing before. I have no idea if this was in anyway helpful.