It can happen

[Weenie19]

Hi Ladies,

Having previously been a fellow LTTTC sufferer I wanted to share some news with you all.

After 2 miscarriages, blocked fallopian tubes and a partner with low count and mobility I gave Softcups a go. I used them once last June and now im sat here holding my 3month old little girl.

In addition to this I gave my remaining unopened (and unused obviously lol) Softcups to a friend who had been TTC for over 10yrs.

She had never fallen pregnant before.

Anyway last month she had tummy pain and went to the doctor to be told she was not pregnant. She had the same pain last friday and went to the hospital where they did a scan. A 13 WEEK BABY WAS WAVING BACK!!

She is due this December.

She used softcups just once around 3 months ago too
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BEST £7 ever spent.

I just wanted to share our news and hope it brings you all so comfort and hope

good luck girls xxx

 

[StephieB]

 

[Pinkie 33]

Thank you for sharing and congratulations! I had never even heard of soft cups until I started reading this forum.... time to get to the shops I think!

 

[aintlifegrand]

Congrats! I have used soft cups a couple times, and will continue doing so!

 

[Sophe]

I've used them for the past 2 years, they didn't work for me?

Is this some kind of sneaky add for them??

A softcup can't unblock fallopian tubes, this sounds ridiculous to me.

Sorry but been at this too long and read this kind of thing too many times before.. usually I ignore it... cause thats what it deserves.

PS

BFP announcements don't belong in this section!

 

[wonderstars]

Hehe, similar to what I was going to post Sophe!

Also, dude, we've been at this so long you GOTTA know that EVERYTHING has been tried, lol.

 

[binksmommy]

I don't think she meant to suggest it unclogged her tubes hehehe

 

[binksmommy]

I used a softcup for the first time last night.. we'll see what happens.. I'm willing to try anything at this point!

 

[Armywife84]

Yeah, with both tubes blocked and MF you're NOT going to miraculously conceive on one go of Softcups (if it all). Your only option would be IVF.

False story.

 

[hopefull85]

let Weenie19 be happy. what worked for her may not work for others. she was a LTTTC but is finally happy. and all she was trying to say is that dont give up one way or another it will happen. believe me i can be a bitter person. i have been at this pretty much since i was 18 but not completely trying til around 5 years ago and i am almost 27. yeah it hurts to read about others being pregnant but you cant be like that. when you finally get your BFP you want people to be happy for you. so all i am saying is just calm down and dont be so rude to her. she has all the right to be happy and post what she wants. im sorry for others who have blocked tubes or need surgery to help the process but come on girls she wasnt trying to say anything out of the way

 

[Snowglobe21]

Wow, that was so uncalled for to be rude to her. Gimme a break. Be happy for her success and she was just trying to offer hope and be positive. It isn't all doom and gloom on these forums and if she wasn't trying to rub her BFP in anyone's face. She also has posted quite a bit so it obviously isn't an add for softcups. And if you are that pissed she posted something positive, clearly the infertility battle is beating you and you are not winning. And before anyone is like, yeah but I'm pregnant. So WHAT! It took 15 months so I was an LTTC and it just happens so suddenly and randomly that its not like I had any less despair than anyone else so don't judge me for that.

Anyways, my point is it was totally uncalled for and despicable to be rude to the original poster. You should be ashamed.

 

[rosebud_01_99]

calling 15mts lttc is crazy, come back to me in 17yrs, and how dare the last few posters condem us for not doing summersalts that someone is in lttc announcing their pg or baby or whatever, she is not giving hope to us but is simply bragging!

as was said before this is lttc's ONLY forum to express our sad lonely bitter thoughts so go be all happy in the other 199 forums that now apply to you and stop condeming us for being honest about how we feel.

rosebud

 

[hopefull85]

Snowglobe21 REALLY!!!! 15 months is not considered LTTTC thats just getting started. rosebud_01_99 i completely understand what you are saying but all the original poster was trying to say is hey it happened for me. she is excited. i would think that if it ever happens for me i should be able to post in here and all my BNB friends would be happy. just because a LTTTC'er gets pregnant they shouldnt be booted out of the forum thats a little harsh. no the women who post in here and have only been at it for a little over a year then they just need to stay in the TTC section until they reach atleast the 3 year mark.

 

[hopefull85]

Wow, that was so uncalled for to be rude to her. Gimme a break. Be happy for her success and she was just trying to offer hope and be positive. It isn't all doom and gloom on these forums and if she wasn't trying to rub her BFP in anyone's face. She also has posted quite a bit so it obviously isn't an add for softcups. And if you are that pissed she posted something positive, clearly the infertility battle is beating you and you are not winning. And before anyone is like, yeah but I'm pregnant. So WHAT! It took 15 months so I was an LTTC and it just happens so suddenly and randomly that its not like I had any less despair than anyone else so don't judge me for that.

Anyways, my point is it was totally uncalled for and despicable to be rude to the original poster. You should be ashamed.

you really dont need to be in here 15 months and bam your pregnant yeah thats not LTTTC. so who's rubbing it in someones face now HMMMM

 

[Sophe]

sorry but what the OP says is rubbish, thats not helping anyone, if you really do have blocked tubes softcups would be of no use to you at all.

You do get some companys coming in and posting sneaky adds I've seen it a few times, the statement seemed so ridiculous at first i really did think it could be an add.

15 months is not LTTTC, average couples can take 18-24 months to conceive, did you not know that?

I am not bitter that a total stranger got a BFP, so your point snowglobe is invalid, her post was insensitive so the reply deserved to be also.

I am just irritated by miss information being posted.

Come on deep down we all know soft cups would have had nothing to do with her BFP, we've all googled and researched too much, whats been said is missleading and wrong.

How about I come in the 1st tri forum and post a few ludicrous statements, do you think i might get a eqully rude response?

Today in the UK was Fathers day, i visted my Dad and my sisters DH was there, he was acting really odd not saying much and left suddenly, his own Father passed away 2 years ago. In this situation, you would not jump up and scorn him and say he should be happy for ME and MY DAD cause I have one... no way, if you did you look like a pretty selfish bratt, i felt guilty and sorry for him, and at the same time gratefull, I still have my dad, I did not think of myself, i just don't get your logic, its the same thing really, you should try to appreciate what you have and be sensitive to those less fortunate.

I agree with Rosa... please come back in when you've walked a few miles in our shoes and realise how the patronising and missinformed the OP comes across to people who have been TTC for years and years.

All LTTTC ladies want to pregnant/ Mums just as much as those who are, they are no different, they have maternal insticts, love to give, have thought of names, have plans how they will bring children up... imagine if someone came and took that away from you?

I think you are the one who is dispicable to come into a forum like this whilst pregnant and judge us, tell me, what do you get from that exactly? Quite honestly I don't know, and I can't see why you'd do it??

Don't bother ranting back at me i won't me back here anymore its people like you that made me leave in the first place!

You don't think you should creep around the ladies in here, so why the hell are they expected to creep around you and other pregnant people in THEIR forum!

 

[Armywife84]

Wow, have I been living under a rock...I had no idea Softcups was now a fertility treatment. Shit, at $15 a box, that's thousands of dollars cheaper than IVF.


Let's get real here ladies, with blocked tubes there's no way in hell she's going to conceive naturally. I can't even conceive naturally with my endo, MF, and my tubes aren't blocked!!! Her one and only option would be IVF, or adoption. Thus making this story false. I don't mind real stories in their designated section...Success Stories....but false hope doesn't do a LTTCer a bit of good.

 

[hopefull85]

now now girls watch out if you arent as privileged as Snowglobe21 cause if you post anything other than what she wants to hear she will write you a private message like this i am about to share here is what she wrote to me.......Keep your judgement of how long TTC is to yourself. Maybe if you actually went to a doctor and had got stuff done, you would be further along. We were referred to a fertility clinic due to my PCOS and husband morphology etc and were told we would need treatments and were ready to pay for them when we concieved naturally so just because you are miserable doesn't mean you can judge how long is "good enough". I stuck around in LTTC to offer advice on the uselessness of morphology for semen analyses and not to rub my pregnancy in people's faces. At least my morph posts are helpful whereas all yours are are desperate negative blah blah blahs that aren't constructive in the slightest. I don't really feel bad you've been trying 5 years because it doesn't appear like you have really gone to specialists/ had anything done............
i just felt like sharing that because i think she is a mean, rude, always has to be right person. hey Snowglobe21 everyone is different. so how about go judge yourself before you judge us here.

 

[hopefull85]

i guess no matter where you go there will always be negative people like Snowglobe21. sad that it has to be a place like this when for most this is the only place they have to feel normal

 

[Snowglobe21]

Oh get over yourself hopeful185. I'm not judging you, just think you are pretty terrible to think you are so superior being more infertile than others when you have done a whole lot less about your situation than anyone else. We could also measure extent of whether someone was LTTC by the effor they have put in with treatments/FS visits etc and on that count, you have pretty much done nothing and just been ignorant and moaning here each night after you've had a few bottles of wine by the looks of your posts...

And no, I do not think softcups are some magical fertility cure. In fact, I think 99% of fertility products sold are useless and just taking advantage of desperate people. Vitamins, fertilaid, etc do nothing in my opinion. But nonetheless, I believe the OP's posts intentions were good and there are too many bitter old bitties on here that are past the stage of realistically having a chance and should just consider other options.

 

[BeachBum850]

Some of you are just EVIL!!! I question your upbringing and morals!!! You come here, day after day... Log in, time after time! Wanting support. Isn't that what we are ALL here for?
But yet, there is the STUPID unspoken competition, lets see who can be the most miserable unfertile person!!!! Oh so you've been trying 15 months? Nope not good enough! Try 5 years! Oh I have you beat, 7! Come back when you're at 17!!!
Good God grow up!!!! Snowglobe has PCOS she moved to LTTC I'm sure because she thought she could relate to y'all more!!! For any reason she came here for YOUR support, now all of you cyber Gods, tell me who the hell you are to judge her????? Its a PUBLIC forum, ANYONE can post here. I am now WTT#2 from TTC#2 for 26 months and I'm posting here???
Stop your finger pointing!!! Do you know what it is like to cry for a child? To pick up a baby item in the shops and sit it in your buggy and imagine taking it home for a baby you wish you had??? Or looking at your stomach and holding it at night, rubbing it pretending there was a baby in there????
I THINK WE ALL DO!!!!!! So why do you feel the need to determine who has been trying "long enough". "Long Enough" is very different for A LOT of people!
Don't turn people away, or be rude to them, as you have been to the first poster and Snowglobe. You want support, hell you need support, infertility is not a easy thing to get through alone. It will tear you apart. Don't let karma teach you a lesson I'm sure your parents already taught you.
TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED!
That's all for my thought of the day