it takes 3 days to recover from giving birth!!

[GreyGirl]

He sounds horrible. Can you get some counselling or something together? He sounds really unreasonable - you've just birthed a person and are shattered!

 

[genome42]

sounds terrible *hugs* my hubby was supportive while on paternity leave but we did have crossed words a couple of times when I said I was tired once he was back at work (ie 'you can nap all day'......and when would the washing, cleaning, cooking etc be done!?) can't imagine trying to do it all without any help

I would agree you should try to get to the bottom of this sooner rather than later as this could ruin your relationship even if he sees what an ass he is being later on!

He is obviously not adjusting to having to help with things- did you do most of the housework etc before the baby was born?

 

[_jellybean_]

I really think he needs to see a therapist/psychiatrist, hon. The things he is saying to you are awful. My mouth dropped. How could someone talk to his partner, who just gave birth to his child that way? Wow. Words escape me. He really needs help, imo.

 

[Athena]

He's being a complete knob. He should be worshipping the ground you walk on right now. I'm seriously shocked. I hope you manage to sort stuff out but if that was me I'd rather do it alone than have to put up with that bull. Sorry you're going through this after giving birth, rest when you can and ignore him. You're doing an amazing job honey xx

 

[Leesy]

Is it possible your husband is feeling depressed and taking it out on you? his beahaviour is down right nasty. xx

 

[pinklightbulb]

Whoa. My OH is a complete jackass, but yours is worse. I have no words.

Lots and LOTS of big hugs

 

[aliss]

I would ask him to leave the home. You have a 2 week old to care for, he is causing too much stress. He sounds like he is becoming abusive. I wonder if he has postnatal depression himself.

 

[Kelly M]

He'd be gone if he were my husband. What an asshole! Sorry you are going through this. It took me months to recover from birth. You are doing a great job. Keep it up!

 

[LittleBoSheep]

haha I bet if he was in the situation he would be in the hospital "dying" you know because we all know how they act with "man flu" lol

 

[Clucky as]

the way u are being treated and spoken too is unacceptable. it sounds like he has issues that needs being taken care of. that's no excuse to talk to u that way though. Have it out with him please. maybe he does have depression, some dads can get it. I got a bit of depression and my hubby did too. I knew nothing about what was going on with him at all. Never talked tome at all. one thing I noticed was that he became withdrawn and " assholey" seeming he was fine earlier it seems like something is up.

 

[kat2504]

I agree that this behaviour sounds quite serious. He has openly said he does not care about your mental or physical health. That is not right. He is supposed to be on paternity leave to take care of you and the baby and he is actually making things worse for you. Can you have a private talk with your health visitor? She may be able to get you some real life help (or perhaps kick him in the nuts for you)

 

[Kte]

I agree that this behaviour sounds quite serious. He has openly said he does not care about your mental or physical health. That is not right. He is supposed to be on paternity leave to take care of you and the baby and he is actually making things worse for you. Can you have a private talk with your health visitor? She may be able to get you some real life help (or perhaps kick him in the nuts for you)

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I agree, have a chat with your health visitor.

 

[PepsiChic]

I think hes suffering from PND, you should sit him down and have an open conversation, let him talk about his feelings as well as you talk about yours and if he needs to, get him to talk to a dr

 

[mellyboo]

Wow! I would of prob kicked OH to the curb.