Its June!!!!! 20 week scan next month!!! Whos with me?

[time]

Glad everyone had a nice weekend, that all sounds terrible ally I can't believe that Dr! Let us know what your consultant has to say tomorrow and hopefully the numbness will pass. I think baby was on a nerve yesterday as I had the same sort of thing in my left leg, when I went to put my socks on and put all my weight on that leg I almost collapsed it felt like jelly!

BP was probably up because of all the stress but I would ask consultant to check again tomorrow.

Glad everything went well today inoue, shame baby isn't engaged yet but there is still plenty of time, at least she isn't breech. I would get a birthing ball and have a bounce on that on an evening its meant to really help!

No appointments for me this week, it should have been my 36 week important one but because I'm now a week behind because the midwife mucked up a few weeks ago I won't have it until I'm 37 + 3 now

 

[Sarahcake]

In full on upset rant mode so I apologise in advance!

Scan was utter crap - took about 5 minutes all in all and I dont think things have been properly measured at all. She wouldnt put the screen on for me to have a look because 'they were using the wrong machine and the picture is awful'. So many discrepancies between my last scan that took an hour to do and things were measured 3/4 times each.

His head has now apparently taken over as being the biggest part whereas his tummy has been consistantly measuring very high on all the other scans. Fluid was measuring very close to the top of the range last time and now, its measuring right at the low end of the scale...so where has it gone? Yet at the time of the scan, she said oh, there's a lot of water around him - which is the exact oposite to what this bit of paper says. He's been estimated at being 6.5lbs now, which is normal.

Onto the consultant...weve had to wait 45 mins to see him so im not in the best of moods anyways. He comes in, tells me how tired I look and asks if im still having pain with the SPD. So I explain to him about how im waking up paralysed, how Neil has to help me with basic manouvers etc. I also mention that im scared that my wound on my leg is gonna break down.

He goes on about induction, gives me the risk vs reward speech and then says right, realistically were looking between 38 and 39 weeks, how are you feeling, what is your decision. I say to him that I feel like im done, that ive had enough and the pain and lack of sleep is getting the better of me. He says right, well then what im going to do, is book an induction for you on the 22nd november - my due date - 40 weeks. But he wants me to go back for a scan and a chat at 38 weeks and if im still struggling he may change his mind, although hed strongly advise me going to 40 weeks....so it looks like hes giving me a choice, but actually...he isnt.

So yeah, another 4 weeks of feeling like crap, not sleeping etc - looks a bit grim to me right now. I just feel like ive not been listened too at all, he asked me how I felt and what I wanted, then ignored it entirely and went with a totally different plan. I couldn't even argue it with him as I was fighting the urge to cry with frustration.

Just...blargh.

 

[ttc_lolly]

Sarah I think it's normal for the amnio fluid to start lessening now in the last few weeks, so there'll be less of it than what there was at your last scan. I didn't even know they gave people an option on when to be induced so for him to indicate you get a choice, but really you don't is just stupid x

 

[Sarahcake]

Ahh didnt know that about the fluid.

Thats the thing thats pissed me off the most tbh, being given a choice when actually, he had his own plans anways which completely disregards my opinion on the matter.

Ill be ok, I dont really have a choice just very frustrated atm

 

[ttc_lolly]

That is poo you should have told him what the point was in even asking what you wanted if he wasn't going to give you an option anyway at least you'll get scanned again @ 38w and they'll see what happens from there, so all is not lost just yet hun x

 

[Sarahcake]

I was just sat there in disbelief tbh! Waiting for him to correct himself and say oh no not 40 weeks sorry, 38 lol Ill live im sure, just gonna have to try and figure out how I can reduce the pain at night times now.

Thinking of replacing our bed temporarily with a blow up one which was comfier back at 29 weeks than my normal bed was so may be worth a shot. Heat packs everywhere I guess is another idea we can try.

Yup another scan at 38 + 4 where he says if im still struggling, he will induce me a bit earlier. Which I really dont believe him on now, since this meeting was supposed to be the decider.

At least im safe in the knowledge that I wont go overdue, as its all booked for his due date so thats something.

 

[Sarahcake]

Oh, sweet...ive reached the last box of my ticker! lol

 

[Scally]

Sarah- that is appalling! Werent they going to induce you early because of the medication you are on to as they didnt want u going into labour by yourself as you have to stop the medication beforehand?
I cant believe he offered you a choice and then made it later, why say that you should be induced between 38-39 weeks in the first place?
The scan sounds dodgy- how can everything change so much- head/stomach size, now a normal size etc? It just doesnt make sense?
Please talk to your MW tomorrow about it all.
I know how it feels when u feel like u cant say anything, i always think if i made a bit of a drama about things i would probably be listened to more!

Huge hugs xx

 

[Sarahcake]

Thank you x

The medication, he simply told me that if I think im going into labour naturally...then just dont take it. If that is the case, then why has he put so much emphasis on having a planned labour to give sufficient time for the thinners to leave my system?

I have got literally no clue why that choice was offered. When he said so, 38 or 39 weeks what do you want, I just looked at Neil and we were both like halleluyah hes taken notice of me, so I said 38 and explained why then got right ok, ill book it for 40...I honestly just would have cried had I opened my mouth at that point so I just sat there silent.

The scan, I know things arnt massively accurate but theres still so much difference there :S that and the sonographer was the one from my 20 week scan who tried for approximately a nano-second to find the bits she needed too then just gave up so I dont entirely trust it.

Ill have a word with the midwife tommorrow, see what she makes of it all. Even she automatically assumed I would be being induced at 38 weeks with all of the health things and his size in play.

 

[Scally]

Oh yes....."i think i am going to go into labour tomorrow so wont take my meds!!!!" Is he all the ticket? Nobody knows exactly when they are going to go into labour!!!!! And to have drilled it into u before about how dangerous it can be to still have them in your system and then not induce you until due date is insane!

I think you need to ask to see the consultant again, get a second opinion or something, i hope your MW will try and help you sort some things out tomorrow, at the very least another meet with him at best another scan too!

x

 

[Inoue]

God, not having much luck with these mw/consult appts are we?!

Scan sounds awful sarah, even more so that you could even see the screen! Im not sure how measurements work as with my growth scans she clicked away and said all is fine. As for the 'early induction at 40weeks' ..... What the bloody point is that?! Stupid doctor . Your head must be a mess with all this contradicting information!

Kellie, our babies are so simular! Lol. Reimi also is head down, bum to the left rib cage and feet on the right, maybe a bouncing ball will help but I think they have a good chance to get there on there own. I get checked again next Tuesday x

 

[pops23]

Sarah that is all crazy!! don't be afraid to get a second opinion, you and your baby come first and you should feel confident to demand answers for all of your questions

Kellie glad to hear all is well my 36 week appt is a week tomorrow, tbh the end can't come soon enough now, I want my body back and my surprise baby in my arms xxx

 

[Scally]

We arent having much luck with appointments or with car MOT's!

I am the same as you now pops, looking forward to the baby coming, and feeling normal (well as normal as u can feel with a newborn!)

x

 

[Sarahcake]

Edited the bit to Inoue, I read what you had said about Reimis positioning wrong lol

Had a bit of a sleep - magically no pain on waking up...why cant that happen overnight?! lol

Think I took things so badly because I was just so tired, im an emotional wreck when that happens. Had a chance to think about things logically and im a bit more ok with it all. Im still massively pissed off with the consultant mind for giving me the choice then ignoring me but I can see where he is going.

They dont want to do it too early if there is a way that I can carry till due date, which is obviously a lot better for Logan - which I do totally understand. Im booked in for 38 + 4 so another chance to see him before he is out (provided they allow me too...) which is nice and if im really struggling, its another chance for me to demand the induction should I still need it then - who knows, it may get easier in the coming weeks (yeah right!). Ive learnt a lesson from today, I need to be well rested and be more assertive when it comes to what I want, so that is what will happen at this next appointment. Until then, its just taking every day as it comes.

Who knows, after trying all of the old wives tales at 37 weeks, he may decide to show on his own, which would be nice

Just want him here now, exactly the same as you both Ally and Pops. Not long now guys Thanks for your support today all, it means a lot to me and I appriciate it xxx

 

[Sarahcake]

Kellie, glad that your appointment went well today I think little man is going to be one of these that just engage all of a sudden whilst the big event is going on. The midwives say thats pretty normal for 2nd babies to do so I wouldnt worry just yet Hope the sample comes back all clear and its just some unexplained protein floating about in there - can happen sometimes.

 

[Scally]

I find it very hard to be assertive with MW/consultants/docs- you just feel they are going to tell you off, I always come out afterwards wishing i had said something
x

 

[Sarahcake]

Im the exact same, I really wish I had put my foot down and said ermmm, no! I felt like I would be judged for arguing my case a bit as he was rattling off all of the side effects of induction, how its more likely to lead to intervention, and how its better for Logan to stay in there as long as possible. Felt a bit bad about saying well...what about me? lol

Feeling better now though, just gonna get on with things the best I can for now. I hope your appointment goes much better than mine tommorrow Ally. How are you feeling now? Are you still getting the random numbness (Obviously hyperventilating....*facepalm*) ?

 

[Scally]

I have had a couple of incidences of arm numbness this morning, but not really short of breath or dizzy with it, so thats an improvement- i really wish i stuck up for myself on the hyperventilating thing, I know i am not not even subconsciously like she said!
I am hoping I'll have to guts to speak up tomorrow
x

 

[ttc_lolly]

Glad you've rested and have got a better outlook on it all Sarah as you say, they'll want you to get as close to term as possible for Logan's sake, but I'm sure if they need to induce you because of his size or your pain/meds they will do. They seem to prefer to leave it as long as possible before making any big decisions, that's what they did with us anyway x

 

[Sarahcake]

Fingers crossed that it goes ok Ally, Im hoping the consultant will see that it is a crock of shite. If your hyperventiliating, you know about it and its obvious to anyone looking at you too. I just cannot understand how that Dr got to that conclusion. All they would have had to have done was to stick a sats probe to your finger to measure the oxygen level in your blood! In a non smoker, that should be around 98-100 constantly, so any deviations to that are easy to pick up.

Yeah I think thats what he is doing Lauryn, just leaving it as long as possible. I guess that he must see so many women just wanting out by this point that its hard to determine the medically neccessary from the uncomfortable but medically sound ladies. From a medical point of view, I get it totally but from a personal point of view, it sucks lol x