It's supposed to be the happiest time, why am I so sad?

[Andrealk]

I just barely entered second trimester, my first trimester was fine: barely any nausea, little mood swing and just some painful breasts. I was happy. Second trimester started ok, then I got hit by bad nausea for no reason, blinding migraines that last for more than twelve hours and today a sense of hopelessness, sadness, loneliness and I can't stop crying. I have been crying the whole day: non-stop. I have a history of depression and anxiety, which I have been free off for 3 years. I know these feelings quite well. I am wondering why all of a sudden. I am worried And I feel terrible for my little unborn one.

 

[slg76]

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you recognize these feelings and are addressing them. Your hormone changes can certainly cause a flare up of a depression/ anxiety problem. I suffer from this too, my entire life. I did a cycle of injectable fertility meds last month and they left me feeling very, very depressed and I cried for no particular reason for days. I hope this passes quickly for you but if not talk to your doctor. There are some medications you can take while pregnant to help. You would be very safe to do so now that you are second trip ( I would think). I don't have the option of going off my medication so I took lexapro through my entire pregnancy and have a beautiful, healthy daughter. Feel better soon

 

[SonAmyMom]

I agree with PP ... hormones of pregnancy can definitely make someone feel sad/anxious/depressed. I have depression and anxiety, and I know that it's been harder to cope while pregnant, even on my medications (I'm working with my OB about what/how much to take for the best balance of my own health and reducing risks to baby - I'm currently on lexapro as well).

See if you can find someone to talk to. Even just seeing a therapist a couple times a month through your pregnancy can make all the difference! And don't tell yourself you're wrong for feeling this way or that you "should" be feeling happy, that only makes it worse (easier said than done, I know!)

 

[NotNic]

Pregnancy is overwhelming even for women without a history of depression, so I would go as far to say its normal! That said, its definitely worth discussing with your dr or mw so that they can support you through this period. It is a bit of a myth that pg is the happiest time if your life. If you've also had a rough patch of nausea and migraines then you aren't going to be happy all the time as that can make you feel miserable. It may be that this sickness has left you feeling low and tired, but once it passes you might find you feel much less blue. If not there's nothing to feel guilty about. I personally do not enjoy pregnancy. My second pg, while problematic, I'm enjoying more but I'm not someone that radiates happiness. I'm self-conscious and find it hard to embrace pg. I don't feel like I can relax into it until I feel a good outcome is possible (30wks ish). I'm not even someone who is especially anxious. I do think I find it hard to believe that things will be okay and I find it hard that pg forces you to slow down. I also hate being 'public' property and don't like the stares, questions or over friendly tummy rubbers! Do seek advice, as its not nice to feel like this, but its much more common than people would have you believe.

 

[AK89]

I agree with the others, it's totally normal. Some days I just feel super anxious/low and feel like crying all day. It's just hormones, and I suppose if you've got a history of anxiety and depression - which I have too - you'd be more prone to it during pregnancy. I know it's easier said than done, but when you start to feel like this, just try and remind yourself that it's totally natural and it's just a result of the hormones. You are growing another human being inside of you after all! Sometimes I have to stop and remind myself how crazy what I am doing at the moment actually is! Of course we're gonna feel a bit uneasy from time to time.

Is it your first? It's my first too and every now and then I'm plagued with feelings of unease and anxiety, like what if I just don't have a clue what I'm doing! The other day I cried for like a solid hour for no known reason, all I could say was "I'm just really overwhelmed!"

It's helpful that I have my boyfriend to help me when I'm feeling like that. He's been really good, and knows how to calm me down when I'm feeling crazy/sad. Do you have anyone that can help you when you're feeling like that? It might help to explain how you're feeling to someone close and then they'll know what you're going through and will be able to make you feel better!