IUI Jan/Feb/March/Apr/May 2012 - Status updates on page one 12 bfp

[ashknowsbest]

hopeful - there is definitely still a possibility that I am pregnant but I feel just like when AF is coming and I got another bfn this morning 10dpiui so .... fingers crossed but it is good to be prepared!

 

[daydream]

Ash - 10dpiui is still plenty early. My positive at that early was so faint I could have missed it if I wasn't looking closely. I'll keep my FX for you.

 

[oneof14]

Ash, I have cramps as well, I am still hoping, praying and everything else its a BFP for us both. I think Im a day ahead of you thought, my IUI's were April 2&3.

 

[drsquid]

ash and one- fingers crossed for you both. this is my first cycle on progesterone so im all over the place.. i know my chances are low this month but i just dont wanna deal with the clinic again. hopefully this is it for all of us.

 

[oneof14]

Drs - I feel the same about my clinic.. I just hate even the smell when I walk in mine want nothing then to just be pg and go to my regular obgyn, who I love.

I know you have other reasons about your clinic, but I can relate to not wanting to deal with them anymore.

 

[drsquid]

i actually like them that is part of the problem. im sad that i have to be all pissed off. i dont do being pissy well. i either cave or get too angry or cry. none of which i wanna do. im just hoping to avoid it all. friend from the gym is friends with a former classmate of my doctor. she emailed her friend and told her what happened and she was like... wtf was he thinking etc.

 

[oneof14]

Its royaly sux that you are going through this. But, on a side note, maybe this is one that will work, considering all the non-sense that was involved. I am keeping my Fxd of you.

I dont love my doctor, he is always so pesimistic, even when there is no reason. Everything is a firedrill with him. I think he need to understand that woman are already stressed enough going through this, they dont need a constant worry.

 

[Hopeful42nd]

When you become a doctor is it more based on science and anatomy or do they focus on the mental state of patients in treatment and tactical handling? Sometimes it's seems like they've forgotten it's about helping a person.
My family doc used be so standoffish with me, would hardly look me in the eye. I think it was because she was so busy it was rush in, ask Q's while staring at chart, make recommendation or write script and run. She seems human now and takes more time with her patients. This happened after she got two more docs in her practice.

 

[ashknowsbest]

Thanks for the fingers crossed girls!

Oneof14 - I had my IUI on the 3rd of april so we're about the same. I'm really hoping it is a BFP for us both as well! We deserve it!! I took my dog to central park to get my mind off of everything and we had a great time and it's beautiful out so that was nice. Now I'm back at home, hoping that these cramps are baby related and not AF related!

daydream - I definitely don't see a line, and I tilted it, starred at it, everything! and nothing so we'll just have to wait and see. I found out that the IC's I ordered online pick up on 25 HCG so now that I know they're not that sensitive I feel a little better. I wish I had some that picked up on 10 HCG that way it would show sooner! Oh well, I'll just have to wait.

About not liking your clinic oneof14 and drsquid, I loved my FS in south jersey but since we moved to the city I finally today got a new FS. I have my first appointment with him on April 26th and I'm happy to be going there, but I'm nervous to have switched doctors in the middle of treatment ya know? He's going to get all of my records from my other doctor but it is nerve racking! I just hope he agrees with the other FS on his disgnosis and treatment option!

Best of luck to everyone! I really hope we get our bfps!

 

[oneof14]

Ash, I was in central park today at lunch too!! Could've passed you. I was submerged in my book. We do deserve and we have to beleive it will happen and soon!

Good luck with your new RE, I was considering going to RMA NY as its literally across from my job, but from Brooklyn that early would be a pain, since my clinic is so close to my home.

 

[ashknowsbest]

It's such a small world! What park of NYC do you live in? I love central park, it's so beautiful and it's really nice to be able to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city ya know?!

What book are you reading ?

 

[drsquid]

it depends. the first two years of med school are all lectures and basic sciences (some schools now do it more group learning and projects but... still.basic sciences). they through in some touchy feely stuff. second two years are all in the hospital. the 3rd year is all required rotations (surgery, medicine, etc etc) 4th year you get to pick some of your rotations. and apply for residency. when you think about who goes into med school it tends to be more type a people. working hard and focusing on answers is what is rewarded not being touchy feely etc. unfortunatly the hours in med school and residency sometimes do set up a bit of an us vs them feeling (ie when you get woken up at 2 am after working since 6 am and you are working the next day, the level of sympathy for mrs smith's headache is pretty low). i knew i was going into radiology so during my medicine rotations i frequently ended up bullshitting more with patients just listening to them etc because i knew i dindt have to bother learning the details of which antibiotic was better, or which blood pressure medicine etc. once people get out into practice time is money. in the us insurance companies pay only a set amount regardless of how long something takes you. patients waiting in the waiting room get mad if the doc runs behind etc but are often happy to show up late with a laundry list of complaints. so this continues this us vs them idea.. it sucks for everyone involved.

but short answer... no we arent really ever trained on the touchy feely stuff and a lot of it is a personality issue. medicine doesnt really select for those people

 

[DaisyQ]

Agree with Squid. I think it's really a personality issue, but the way it's set up makes it difficult for doctors, even caring ones, to take time with their patients.

Insurance doesn't reimburse all that great (and it keeps getting worse), so doctors have to see more and more and more patients to make a living and pay off those huge med school bills.

Oneof14, monitoring hours aren't too bad at RMA NY 7-8:30. I get there at 8:15! I know at other places it's 6-7:30.

 

[oneof14]

It's such a small world! What park of NYC do you live in? I love central park, it's so beautiful and it's really nice to be able to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city ya know?!

What book are you reading ?

I live in Brooklyn, I work on Madison right by the park. I used to workout in the park after work everyday, cutfitness bootcamp. I just started to read 50 Shades of Grey. Its very interesting.

 

[oneof14]

Agree with Squid. I think it's really a personality issue, but the way it's set up makes it difficult for doctors, even caring ones, to take time with their patients.

Insurance doesn't reimburse all that great (and it keeps getting worse), so doctors have to see more and more and more patients to make a living and pay off those huge med school bills.

Oneof14, monitoring hours aren't too bad at RMA NY 7-8:30. I get there at 8:15! I know at other places it's 6-7:30.

That's my place now 6:30-8:00. Also, RMA does not take my insurance, Cigna, which was a bigger reason for not going.

 

[ashknowsbest]

oneof14 - that's awesome! I have a gym membership and I've had it for about 2 weeks but probably I only went about 5 times, not good! Isn't 50 shades of grey the book that's supposed to be like ... ? sexual kinda? I think I heard about that on all of the morning shows and stuff.

 

[ashknowsbest]

daisy - is rma open on sundays for IUI ?

 

[oneof14]

oneof14 - that's awesome! I have a gym membership and I've had it for about 2 weeks but probably I only went about 5 times, not good! Isn't 50 shades of grey the book that's supposed to be like ... ? sexual kinda? I think I heard about that on all of the morning shows and stuff.

I havent workout in a while either, I mean I go to NYSC at lunch once in a blue moon, its terrible cause I pay for the membership too.

Yes that is the exact book! My sister-in-law and 2 sisters recommended. Its very graphic, lol. I just finished the hunger games, which was awesome.

 

[DaisyQ]

Agree with Squid. I think it's really a personality issue, but the way it's set up makes it difficult for doctors, even caring ones, to take time with their patients.

Insurance doesn't reimburse all that great (and it keeps getting worse), so doctors have to see more and more and more patients to make a living and pay off those huge med school bills.

Oneof14, monitoring hours aren't too bad at RMA NY 7-8:30. I get there at 8:15! I know at other places it's 6-7:30.

That's my place now 6:30-8:00. Also, RMA does not take my insurance, Cigna, which was a bigger reason for not going.

Yeah, that's a HUGE reason! I've heard mixed things about other fertility practices in NY. Cornell is supposed to be good, but people seem to have mixed opinions... seems to depend on the doctor there.

I know this doesn't help you much, but RMA NJ takes Cigna I think. And their success rates are top notch - one of the best IVF centers in the country. If round one of IVF fails, I'm transferring there. They have 6 offices in NJ, one is in Englewood I think, which is not far from the city, but commuting there from Brooklyn... pretty brutal.

 

[ashknowsbest]

Hmm ... maybe I'll read that 50 shades of grey book ... I would like to read hunger games but I'll probably just watch the movie, I heard both were really good though!