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Disneydancr your uterus has risen quite a lot so it appears that your belly button has slid down :haha: My Dh was laughing at mine yesterday saying that when I breathe out it seems to bulge. I really think it might stick out this time round, it didn't with my first pregnancy. As far as your aunt is concerned, I understand it is really hard to go through mc's (I've been through them too) but this is your first pregnancy and it's not like you rubbed her nose in it from the beginning. I had a friend who gave birth a few days before my one due date and I was ecstatic for her. This is your time, enjoy it!!!! Especially considering it is your first!

Smiffy, sounds like you really had an awesome day! Can't wait to see your baby shower pics!

Can we please not mention B&B on facebook on each others walls. I don't want my friends coming over here. I share a lot on here that I would never share with them - that sounds weird considering they're my friends but I'm sure you all understand, lol.

:hugs: to all, it's really getting exciting that time is drawing near so quickly!
 
I totally agree jolene I share more on here than I do to 'real life ' friends x
 
thanks girls, im finding it hard to get back into the swing of things, im so scared, so i may just lurk for a bit as its all i can think about, just waiting for the next bleed! :(
 
Disneydancr- several things. Lol bout other half being passionate about films. I don't really notice stuff like that because he's like that with most things: music, games, films, politics, etc. Don't know where he gets the energy. He's very all or nothing about most things - he's either passionate about something or he couldn't care less and just grunts. Lol.

With the thing with your aunt, Adam's baby sis is the same. She's 21 and been TTC for years and she's had several miscarriages. We decided we wanted to try once the wedding was done (but waited until after the wedding because I wanted to drink champagne on my wedding day). She knew we were trying but since we've been successful she's avoided us both, me especially. Her OH told us that since they were having problems we shouldn't be so selfish and she couldn't speak to us until we 'did something about the pregnancy'. I hit the roof when he said that (I took it as a bit of a threat to my baby and let's just say I've already figured that I'm gonna be one of those mums who rips out the throat of anyone who hurts their little girl). Anyway, she won't talk to me, Adam has been barred from their house and they've both told anyone who'll listen that they'll never want to see their neice (which in the case of him, is fine because he's not welcome anyway). Adam is really upset that his sis won't support him but is overjoyed for anyone else expecting. It's all a big mess really. Of course there were other problems anyway (her OH is refusing to set a date, has a criminal record for violence, is over ten years older than her and 'pulled her' when she was a 15 yr old carnival queen and he was working on the carnvial, is committing benefit fraud and so on - that list really is the tip of the iceberg) but we were smiling and nodding and managing to keep quiet about our misgivings. She apparently can't do the same. What upsets me most is how much it upsets Adam. So, I don't think there's many people who don't know at least one person TTC who'll be upset/disappointed that you were the lucky one and not them. I hope you're sorted with your aunt now, gives me hope
maybe we'll be able to sort things too.
Sorry for the long rant, ladies. Haven't been able to rant about that for fear of upsetting OH with how much it bothers me. Thanks for letting me vent.
 
Disney your bump is imporessive :)

Everyone get a lie in?

Who is Regina Pelayo on FB? :flower:

We are going trick or treating later with Caine :) he looks so cute!
 
Hi guys,

Wow you lot have been busy chatting since yesterday evening but loving the community feel even though we are places apart. Regina is disneydancer JMS (or should I call you Jo....trying to put all the names together!)

Sar it will be really hard but please try not to be afraid because you need to relax. Perhaps impossible advice but don't like to think of you feeling uptight all day x

Disney I'm glad you could chat to your Aunt...it seems like she just posted out of unexpected emotion seen as she has deleted now. I was thinking you could suggest she just hides you until the baby comes so seems we are on the same wavelength. I think it is a hard situation when we know someone who has lost. I felt really bad telling my foster sister who lost her baby girl at 5 months through high blood pressure but was really touched when the first thing she said was congratulations.

On the other hand I also get what it is like to feel the baby being threatened LittleMrs....sorry you have to face that unpleasantness. I was upset when the latest email I got from the baby's Dad said he feels it would be a tragedy to produce and innocent child. It seemed to be in the context that I should take him back because we are having a child but personally I think it would be more of a tragedy for a child to grow up with a mother who couldn't be herself because she was being controlled and manipulated. It helped me to speak positive things over bean telling him he was not a mistake, rather a gift from God and will be loved and cherished. I'm thinking of calling him Michael. Feeling quite attached now....

Have a good day everyone x
 
Jolene said:
Can we please not mention B&B on facebook on each others walls. I don't want my friends coming over here. I share a lot on here that I would never share with them - that sounds weird considering they're my friends but I'm sure you all understand, lol.

:hugs: to all, it's really getting exciting that time is drawing near so quickly!
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I completely agree... We need to feel completely open to talk about whatever here... This is where we can come in perfect confidentiality away from everywhere else to totally vent...

I love the bump pics!!... I've not been brave enough to post one yet. I've got a really deep belly button apparently as its not popped out yet. Maybe it won't... lol!
 
I have a married friend who has been ttc for over a year and I could tell the disappointment in her voice when I told her I was expecting.

We weren't trying, we are not married... she made me feel like I hadn't "earned" it at the beginning. She's all smiles when I see her but she never really wants to talk to me about the baby or her progress with TTC whereas she used to share everything with me.

It's hard for me to accept that this has changed our relationship but it has.

There is so much heartache and joy all attached to pregnancy. I don't think there is anything else like it on earth!
 
Millward, you're right. Of course it is better for the baby to have a happy mummy, too many people stay together 'for the sake of the children' even though they're miserable. Kids pick up on stuff like that and, trust me, your child recreates the relationships it sees between its parents. I had one kid who hit his mum with an iron when she told him to do his homework because his dad was abusive, I had another (last week) threaten to throw me across the room and his mum thinks it's funny because 'oh, his dad is always saying things like that, it's just a laugh'. Excuse me if I'm not laughing. If you are a happier and stronger person without him then you've made the right decision for both you and the baby and maybe in time the ex will come to see that too. If he wants a doormat who can be manipulated then you're not the right girl for him either. Sorry, it's just made me kinda mad that he said that to you but I'm sure you're right, it's more to try and get you to go back than trying to threaten you.
 
Beccy, I have a friend who married just before me. When I told her we were TTC she shouted at me down the phone and said I was too young and irresponsible and we'd never survive the financial burden. If I tell you that I'm 29 (I'll be 30 2 weeks after due date), I'm a teacher on the 6th level of the pay scale, I own my house and we've been together nearly 3 years, then I think the full comedy of her comments become clear. Add to this the fact that I have had pre-cancerous cells for 2 years and the Dr has told me if they progress to needing treatment then this will effect my ability to conceive and carry to term.
I also happen to know that her and OH have decided not to have children for a while and he says he doesn't want kids at all. Also, the fact that she got engaged 3 months after us and arranged a date 2 months before our wedding and spent the whole day saying 'I can't believe I'm the first one to get married' and you've pretty much got the picture.
Some people aren't as good friends as we think so and when things aren't going their way, especially when it comes to the HUGE things in life (marriage, kids, jobs, home etc) if we don't do it their way then they can't empathise. Making you feel like you didn't deserve to have a baby isn't very nice - unFRIENDly you might even say. The baby is going to be the biggest part of your life ever - if she doesn't want to talk about it then it's going to be difficult. She has to do what she has to do for her sanity and to protect herself but so do you. My 'friend' is now classed more as an acquaintance - she is someone I will happily chat with but I'm not confiding any more - why give her the chance?
I think maybe it is my patience that has changed here - I've p****d off a lot of people, just by conceiving, and I don't think I should feel sorry about that. I tend to be a little overly harsh when people criticise my decision to have kids.
 
Morning ladies!

Gosh my post was a long one last night lol. Haven't got much to update other than when other half came in last night I thought he was a burglar hehe as I firstly heard the front door open and close (he didn't take a key so had to leave it unlocked) and then the patio door opened and closed. But in my sleepy state I wasn't scared I just text him saying 'are you home?' lol! :haha: At which point he shouted up the stairs 'No Leanne I'm a burglar!!!' LOL!!!!! Apparently he went out the patio door to pee in the garden - lovely boyfriend ay - so he wouldn't wake me up! But forgot our patio door is tricky to close so he ended making loads of noise anyway! Silly bugger!

I'm ok with not mentioning b&b on fb! People know Im on a baby forum cos I mention it alot lol when I talk about my bean to them but I agree I don't want them to know all the stuff I tell you guys! They wouldn't get it the same way you lot do! Aawwww I'm feeling the love this morning hehehehe!

(I'm trying to match people to names too so lets see how I get on lol)
Disney/Regina thats hard but seems like your sorted hun. Think you handled it beautifully.

LittleMrs/Tracey I don't know what to say about your situation ohter than I think your doing the right thing by just being there for your OH. Well done you for rising above it all.

I've just posted my halloween and baby shower pics on fb for anyone who is interested lol. Last day of half term today and feel shattered after my busy wknd. PJ day todya me thinks! Have a good day my lovelies xxxx
 
You know what? I don't understand friends who say mean things when they hear your pg news. Tbh we were ttc this baby for 19 months, our first baby was a shock, surprise and obviously meant to be as we wasn't even ttc him. It came as a huge shock to find we struggled 2nd time round. My 2 closest friends told me they were pg within weeks of each other during this time, one knew I'd had a mc a couple of months before, which is when she decided to ttc herself which I found a bit unsetting (especially since she told me) I found it hard to speak to them on the phone and I did try and avoid them a little bit, one of them lives miles away so easier to do and she was so hormonal she kept yelling at me down the phone it was all very awful at the time. I would never have said mean things though. The jealousy and upset was entirely mine! Things got better when I got pg, tho I didn't tell one of them until I was about 15 weeks (she not on fb so missed my announcement) it was petty but I just didn't want to tell her. The other one who didn't know about us ttc or the mc got better after having her baby, clearly the hormones was the thing making her a raving biatch lol! So what I'm trying to say is although I can understand how the jealousy makes friends feel, there are other ways to handle it than being mean!!! x
 
Morning Ladies! I am thoroughly p****d off as I am full of a cold which has now turned into a full blown cough and I have barely slept. It took me over 2 hours to get to sleep and then I must have only drifted off for an hour or so before I woke up in a coughing fit! My tummy/bump is killing me and finally at 6.30am I have given up the ghost and got up! No doubt I'll be knackered in an hour or so and could sleep all day. My body clock is a mess!!

I can't believe how many of you have been affected by other people's infertility.

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ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I've upset my aunt. For those of you who have seen my FB profile, I posted my latest bump pic as my profile pic and my "update" was all about my LO. My aunt is TTC after 2 mcs and an hour ago she updated her profile status complaining about why people would post certain pictures without warning, and that she was feeling upset and wondering why God did certain things. I feel bad that she's not been able to conceive in a while, but she has 5 children already... shouldn't she understand how excited I must be since this is my first... and couldn't she be happy for me instead of taking it personal? I don't know... did I do wrong... or should I just post my happy blatherings and ignore how she's feeling? I'm so torn.
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LittleMrs said:
With the thing with your aunt, Adam's baby sis is the same. She's 21 and been TTC for years and she's had several miscarriages. We decided we wanted to try once the wedding was done (but waited until after the wedding because I wanted to drink champagne on my wedding day). She knew we were trying but since we've been successful she's avoided us both, me especially. Her OH told us that since they were having problems we shouldn't be so selfish and she couldn't speak to us until we 'did something about the pregnancy'. I hit the roof when he said that (I took it as a bit of a threat to my baby and let's just say I've already figured that I'm gonna be one of those mums who rips out the throat of anyone who hurts their little girl). Anyway, she won't talk to me, Adam has been barred from their house and they've both told anyone who'll listen that they'll never want to see their neice (which in the case of him, is fine because he's not welcome anyway). Adam is really upset that his sis won't support him but is overjoyed for anyone else expecting. It's all a big mess really. Of course there were other problems anyway (her OH is refusing to set a date, has a criminal record for violence, is over ten years older than her and 'pulled her' when she was a 15 yr old carnival queen and he was working on the carnvial, is committing benefit fraud and so on - that list really is the tip of the iceberg) but we were smiling and nodding and managing to keep quiet about our misgivings. She apparently can't do the same. What upsets me most is how much it upsets Adam. So, I don't think there's many people who don't know at least one person TTC who'll be upset/disappointed that you were the lucky one and not them. I hope you're sorted with your aunt now, gives me hope
maybe we'll be able to sort things too.
Sorry for the long rant, ladies. Haven't been able to rant about that for fear of upsetting OH with how much it bothers me. Thanks for letting me vent.
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LittleMrs said:
Beccy, I have a friend who married just before me. When I told her we were TTC she shouted at me down the phone and said I was too young and irresponsible and we'd never survive the financial burden. If I tell you that I'm 29 (I'll be 30 2 weeks after due date), I'm a teacher on the 6th level of the pay scale, I own my house and we've been together nearly 3 years, then I think the full comedy of her comments become clear. Add to this the fact that I have had pre-cancerous cells for 2 years and the Dr has told me if they progress to needing treatment then this will effect my ability to conceive and carry to term.
I also happen to know that her and OH have decided not to have children for a while and he says he doesn't want kids at all. Also, the fact that she got engaged 3 months after us and arranged a date 2 months before our wedding and spent the whole day saying 'I can't believe I'm the first one to get married' and you've pretty much got the picture.
Some people aren't as good friends as we think so and when things aren't going their way, especially when it comes to the HUGE things in life (marriage, kids, jobs, home etc) if we don't do it their way then they can't empathise. Making you feel like you didn't deserve to have a baby isn't very nice - unFRIENDly you might even say. The baby is going to be the biggest part of your life ever - if she doesn't want to talk about it then it's going to be difficult. She has to do what she has to do for her sanity and to protect herself but so do you. My 'friend' is now classed more as an acquaintance - she is someone I will happily chat with but I'm not confiding any more - why give her the chance?
I think maybe it is my patience that has changed here - I've p****d off a lot of people, just by conceiving, and I don't think I should feel sorry about that. I tend to be a little overly harsh when people criticise my decision to have kids.
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I'm sorry for all you girls, and the others I've not quoted. We were TTC for 3 years and during that time our friends got pregnant on their honeymoon on their first try and had a very smooth pregnancy and a beautiful baby boy, so I know how it feels to watch someone go through that when you are trying so hard and failing. She wasn't one to keep things quiet either so I had to deal with her constant gushings etc. But it's one of those things and I was happy for them and tried my hardest not to show how disappointed I was, I just blubbed over OH when we were alone! But on the other side, our other friends have had 2 mc, one 2 weeks before i announced I was pregnant, and it is hard trying not to rub it in her face but also be excited as we should be. She has been great though and knows how long it took us to get pregnant and how hard it was and although she was upset when I told her, she didn't make me feel guilty or act any different to me and I am just careful how much i talk to her about it. It's a hard situation but there's no need to be cruel to people who get pregnant, so I sympathise totally with you girls who are on the receiving end of this.

Anyway, hope you JB's are all ok and enjoyed your extra hour in bed. I get mine next week! Oh and Blessed, love your avatar!
 
Disneydancr said:
Thanks blessed I appreciate it. :hugs: I have been chatting with her and found out that her LO from her last MC was also a baby girl who would have been due in Jan, so it hit her extra hard. Also, I noticed she deleted that status off her profile. I basically said I felt sorry for her losses and that it's been hard for her to conceive a sticky bean, but that I'm really happy and excited about my LO. I told her that I couldn't totally sympathize with what she's been going through because I haven't been in her situation, but that I know she can sympathize with my joy because she has been in my situation- 5 times. I also said if my posts really upset her, she should delete my updates from her news feed because soon I'll be posting more updates on movements, growth, nurseries, new weekly bump pics, baby showers etc. That way she won't have to feel like I'm flaunting my situation.

On another note, anything weird going on with your bumps? I posted this on the bumps thread, but I want to hear from my jellybean mummies!

I know I posted 3 days ago... but I feel like my bump has changed drastically! What the heck is going on with my belly button? Did it slide down my belly???? What do you think? It looks weird for me... not sticking out, but puckering or something!
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Your bump looks so similar to mine! My belly button is doing very stange things too! lol

I hope your aunt doesn't stay angry with you for long. People can be so over sensitive sometimes. A good friend of mine pretty much stopped talking to me as soon as I had Eloise. I didn't realise that she had wanted a baby herself and she started trying as soon as I had her but, has still not fallen pregnant - I only know this through Facebook as like I say I haven't heard from her which is real shame but, in a way I can't be bothered with people like that as they obviously are not a true friend. :nope:



Going to go and have my dinner now and then go trick or treating with my daughter, niece and nephews! :)

Happy Halloween!!!
 
Hi Ladies and jellybeans. Ive just had the shock of my life was looking through the pregnancy thread section and have just come across the due in July thread. Cant believe there are ladies due in July already.

Does anyone else think that now we are all in 3rd trimester and a few of us are down to single digits of weeks left that the time is flying by? A friend of mine is due 23rd June (currently 6 weeks pregnant) and that made me think, but July babies already that is just scary.
 
Jolene - LOL! I'm the exact same way... I share A LOT more on here than I do on FB.. it would be great if nobody from there knew about BnB
 
I can't keep up with you ladies but all this chit chat is wonderful. :hugs: to anyone that is having friends/family not being happy for them in their pregnancies.

I am 30 weeks today :wohoo: and I seen the dr today and all is well placenta is no longer laying low, my bp, iron levels and sugars all are perfect too so now I am considered a routine low risk pregnancy!

Happy Monday JJ's
 
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