jealous of pregnant people

[Tasha]

You didn't upset me. I've been there and done the 'jealous of pregnant people' thing. We tried for a 8 months to TTC number 2, and whilst that might not seem like a very long time in the grand scheme of things, during that time I was jealous of pregnant people.

But it's just as difficult when you get pregnant unexpectedly (despite being careful), and your circumstances are absolutely not right for having another baby, yet people tell you how lucky you are, and congratulate you all the time.

I was coming at this from a different perspective is all. So many women here say they're jealous of pregnant women. I was pointing out that, in some cases, there's really nothing to be jealous of. If I could swap places with somebody who has been trying for a baby for a long time, I'd do it in a heartbeat, but I can't.

Somehow though, if you are pregnant yet you don't want to be, you are apparently not allowed to say how you feel because you're being insensitive. Yet on the other hand it's seemingly fine the other way round, for somebody who is not delighted about being pregnant to be told all the time how lucky they are. That's fine, so it would seem.

There's a certain sods law to life sometimes.

But no you didn't upset me. This thread didn't upset me. And I didn't post to be insensitive - I posted to show that you can't necessarily be jealous of people if you don't know their situation. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.

I didnt say you are not allowed to say how you feel, just that this may not be the most appropriate thread for it. You never stated any of the grass is greener stuff in your first post, just that you didnt want to be pregnant which when your posting that you so badly want to be pregnant is probably not what you want to read. Do you see what I mean?

Unplanned pregnancies can be so tough emotionally, I hope that in time it all becomes much easier on you FWIW I wouldnt congratulate someone if I knew they werent happy about their pregnancy, I am sorry people have been insensitive towards you.

 

[alicecooper]

You never stated any of the grass is greener stuff in your first post:

no that's true but I guess I thought people would have got what I meant. I suppose I was wrong.

 

[w8ing4bean]

I know exactly how you feel took us almost 3 years to conceive since my mc, and in that time my best friend had a baby, along with another close friend who I had to see every day at work

Just remember it will all be worth it in the end, you will have your perfect family home ready for your little one