Just found out one of my friends is expecting. They are a lovely couple and thoroughly deserve to be parents but so do I and my husband. When is god going to bless us??? What have we done wrong that makes him think we are going to make rubbish parents. We are good people with good jobs, a nice house - I know this sounds so selfish but its not fair - when is it going to be our turn. Why were we cursed with problems??? I'm really struggling to keep a lid on my emotions.
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Jeaous and Frustrated rant...
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chefamy1122
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Aww hun I know that feeling all too well 
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saara24
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Know how you feel honey.
Just back from a holiday to see all my family back home, and found out my cousin is 7.5 months pregnant - nobody knows we're trying (or that we have been for SO long) but still nobody bothered to tell me - both my dad and brother knew and you think it'd have come up in conversation.
She's a year younger than I am and has only been with her boyf for two years or something - we got to our holiday 'home' the day after and I drank a bottle of wine and bawled my eyes out to my auntie (she's my mum's cousin but some sad circumstances threw some members of the family together a few years back so we're a lot closer to them than to my actual aunts and uncles, and lived in their house for long enough to consider it as much our home as our own house is) She reassures me that there is not a finite number of babies to go around, and them getting one doesn't make us any less likely to get one, but it was still a bit of a kick in the teeth.
Has made me more determined though - I'll be damned if I'm going to her wedding at the end of July without a bump of my own lol, or at least a wedding date set - it's embarassing - I'm the second oldest (and the oldest girl) of our group of cousins, and the oldest got married 18 months ago - I always just sort of assumed I'd be next and I'd be first to sprog, being the oldest girl.. so to be beaten to it by someone as flighty as my baby-cuz would be annoying at the best of times
never mind now...
Just back from a holiday to see all my family back home, and found out my cousin is 7.5 months pregnant - nobody knows we're trying (or that we have been for SO long) but still nobody bothered to tell me - both my dad and brother knew and you think it'd have come up in conversation.
She's a year younger than I am and has only been with her boyf for two years or something - we got to our holiday 'home' the day after and I drank a bottle of wine and bawled my eyes out to my auntie (she's my mum's cousin but some sad circumstances threw some members of the family together a few years back so we're a lot closer to them than to my actual aunts and uncles, and lived in their house for long enough to consider it as much our home as our own house is) She reassures me that there is not a finite number of babies to go around, and them getting one doesn't make us any less likely to get one, but it was still a bit of a kick in the teeth.
Has made me more determined though - I'll be damned if I'm going to her wedding at the end of July without a bump of my own lol, or at least a wedding date set - it's embarassing - I'm the second oldest (and the oldest girl) of our group of cousins, and the oldest got married 18 months ago - I always just sort of assumed I'd be next and I'd be first to sprog, being the oldest girl.. so to be beaten to it by someone as flighty as my baby-cuz would be annoying at the best of times
never mind now...Thanks Gals. I get myself so angry I have actually sent a ranty e-mail to my pal telling her how upset I am and all the problems I've had and I feel a bit guilty now. Its not her fault but its not mine either. Each month I try my damness to TTC and each month I'm left heartbroken. I've gone so far as to delete pregnant pals off facebook because I can't cope with their gushy status updates of how wonderful their little babba is doing...
tickledpink
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I know exactly how you feel, Artemis. I have a friend that is due to give birth next month. I also have friends that are pregnant with their second, third and fifth baby 
I can understand their excitement but it's so hard hearing them talk about it that I do my best to avoid them. They must think I'm a bad friend... but if I explain why they will only feel sorry for me. And I don't want pity, I just want to be a mother
I can understand their excitement but it's so hard hearing them talk about it that I do my best to avoid them. They must think I'm a bad friend... but if I explain why they will only feel sorry for me. And I don't want pity, I just want to be a mother Oh, hunny I know how you feel. I am so tired of watching people who barely tried go through an entire pregnancy, while I continue not to even have a sniff of a pregnancy. I love my nephew who is 4 months old, but it kills me to be around him because I was trying 1 year before they "tried" and they got pregnant first shot, so it is a bit bittersweet to me.
rachelle1975
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Hey hun,
You aren't alone in how you feel - when i found on DH's best mate was going to be a dad i went mental - they both smoke, drink and weren't even bothered about being parents.
Life sucks sometimes but i figure there is always someone worse off and with worse problems - now i feel pleased that my friends don't have to go through all this crap because it hurts and it's unfair and nobody should have to go through it.
Whilst we still have options then we have hope - that's what keeps me going
You aren't alone in how you feel - when i found on DH's best mate was going to be a dad i went mental - they both smoke, drink and weren't even bothered about being parents.
Life sucks sometimes but i figure there is always someone worse off and with worse problems - now i feel pleased that my friends don't have to go through all this crap because it hurts and it's unfair and nobody should have to go through it.
Whilst we still have options then we have hope - that's what keeps me going
