July 2009 buddies wanted!!

[natalie7]

hi i need a text buddie to im due 24th july 2009 id also like to join a july thread can you please help me thanks

 

[geogem]

Hi there Natalie - this thread is open to all so you can join us, if you go to the front page of this thread you can see who is due on the same date as you and maybe personal message them to see if they want to be buddies - but by all means come and join us in our rambles of madness in this thread!!

 

[shelleylu]

Morning girls,

Just a quick one - Natalie - I wil add you to our July thread!!! We're all nice here x
As for a text buddy, the front page of this thread is a list with everyones dates on. You might find someone there who has a similar EDD to be your buddy? But feel free to join in here. We're all a big buddies group really xxx

Gem - yes love, you are rubbing it in! Great that you heard LO's HB - its so exciting!!! Im thinking blue for you too - dont know why....

As for my aches - thanks everone for your nice words - you're all so lovely!! Im not in a massive amount of pain, its just bad niggles at the moment. Nikki - it is worse when at this pc as I do sit funny when Im typing, and to compensate for bump and pelvic pain Ive started walking like a duck - and I think that makes my back ache - but thats quite common for any pregnant woman I guess.

I've not got an appointment till March, so i'll wait till then. If it gets much worse I might se if I can get in with my MW - but I dont think she's up to much TBH..


Was looking at my income details the other day. Turns out I cant qualify for MA now because Ive been off work for so long. SO SMP is going up to £150 - and I cant egt a single thing
If I hadnt had the MC I would have still been working, and I would be entitled to something. Now all I'll get is tax credits - which isnt lot. Im not overly happy about it as Ive always worked and it seems that just because I have had a bad time of it, I am going to suffer. I suppose somene has to though? Dont get me started on this countries way of handling money - arghhhh!!

Right - I am going to try and eat something. Oh how I love that salty mouth feeling !!!!

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Elliebank]

Shelley can you not get Maternity Allowance from the government? I thought you got that if you didn't get SMP from yr employer? I work in benefits & I've seen women that haven't worked for years, or not at all, get Maternity Allowance.

 

[shelleylu]

Ellie - It says that to get MA you need to have worked for at least 26 weeks in the 66 weeks leading upto your edd. Well thats cancels me out by about 8 weeks!!

If I cant get that (which I cant) I can get employment and support allowance, but I read you can only claim that for 2 weeks. To be honest, Ive read so many different things on benefits as they are constantly changing. But, as far as I am aware Im not going to get a lot..

 

[Elliebank]

God that's rubbish!!

You will get ESA for more than 2wks - we've just been trained on it (I work in Housing & Council Tax Benefit), you get a minimum amount for 13wks then it goes up, & don't think there is a limit on how long you get it after that. Problem is you won't get Income Related if yr OH works, but should get contributions based which is based on yr NI contributions if you've worked most of the time for the last few yrs.

 

[nikkip75]

morning ladies,

me an daisy have been to play group this morning and there is 3 of us mum preggers so we all just sat there talking about baby things all morning. we are due within a week of eachother so hoping we are all in hospital together!

i know how u feel shelly, we arent entitled to anything!! oh has a good wage and i havent worked since having daisy, its so unfair but hey ho just one of those things, but we all get the £190 grant so that will come in handy
oh an what about the sure start grant, we cant get it but i know a lot of people who have had it and its £500!!! i could get meself a brand new bugaboo with that lol

well dont know about anyone else but im going crazy clearing the house!
in the last few days i have cleared out mine an ohs wardrobes, my dd1s bedroom, the kitchen cupboards have all be cleared an cleaned and now ive got boxes and bags everywhere of stuff to go the charity shop, loads for ebay and loads to do a car boot sale in a few months.

have a nice day
i cant sit still im itching to tidy up!!!!

 

[Sarah+]

Me too, Nikkip! I've got a huge stash of rubbish to get rid of now. I just keep sneaking a bigger and bigger bag out each time

Shelley - what about going to your GP? I know preggy matters aren't their specialty, but might be worth a try. Sorry you've got this drama That really sucks about the maternity leave. Sounds terribly unfair.

Gem - You deserve to feel well! You didn't have an easy time of it for quite a while, so just enjoy

Hi Natalie :wave:

Guess what? I was sitting here before a I felt two little thuds! Quite different to the 'flutters' I've felt before. I'm chalking these up as my first confirmed movements.

Is anyone experiencing a kind of 'heavy' feeling 'down there'. Almost as if (overshare alert!) you have a tampon in, but it's a bit low? Weird.

 

[SJK]

Hi girls and Hi Natalie ,

hope your feeling better shelley, sorry about your situation, I hope it works itself out

gem, glad mw went well, guess your hb could be either! Mine last week was 165bpm, but Im trying to stay neutral ish xx

Well I ordered the pink baby k sleepsuit and the white and silver one for a boy and the bib and blanket , Im heading for a divorce , Im have to hide them when they come.

hope everyone else is well, im on an early today, getting ready to finish, but have to lift the wee man and hubby is out tonight after work, so gonna be a long one and Im exhausted already, no rest ! aww well xxx

 

[honey08]

well went to consultant, and im glad the mw was there who i saw monday, she said my letter got sent out wed and i still aint got it 2day either not sure why ! but anyways im super low risk,with 1-3200 !
the consultant fella i didnt think much of really,he was very intrusive into my past uknow,he went on n on bout things that i didnt know we guna be brought up ! anyways good news is i will get me 20wk scan,then a 28wk,then 34wk and 38wk ive bad anxiety so this is very reassuring also finally got my mat notes aswell ! feels super real now !!! xxxx

to new july mummys xx

 

[Sarah+]

well went to consultant, and im glad the mw was there who i saw monday, she said my letter got sent out wed and i still aint got it 2day either not sure why ! but anyways im super low risk,with 1-3200 !
the consultant fella i didnt think much of really,he was very intrusive into my past uknow,he went on n on bout things that i didnt know we guna be brought up ! anyways good news is i will get me 20wk scan,then a 28wk,then 34wk and 38wk ive bad anxiety so this is very reassuring also finally got my mat notes aswell ! feels super real now !!! xxxx

to new july mummys xx

That's so great Honey! And more scans to look forward to

 

[honey08]

i know ! feel so lucky to get more scans than usually !!! really got to me that consultant tho glad mw was there aswell x

 

[shelleylu]

God that's rubbish!!

You will get ESA for more than 2wks - we've just been trained on it (I work in Housing & Council Tax Benefit), you get a minimum amount for 13wks then it goes up, & don't think there is a limit on how long you get it after that. Problem is you won't get Income Related if yr OH works, but should get contributions based which is based on yr NI contributions if you've worked most of the time for the last few yrs.

Ive just read this - https://www.dwp.gov.uk/advisers/ni17a/cannot_smp_ma/

Which saya I cn clain it for 6 weeks before my edd - upto 14 days after the baby is born. Thats 8 weeks in total. As I was actually pregnant for 2 months before I stopped work, went on the sick for 6 weeks then had a mc, I only really didnt work for 1 month before the start of this pregnancy - so there might be a loop hole somewhere??? I really need to speak to someone who works for dpt work and pensions and see what they say. How hard is it to get some pennies??!!! Thanks for your help though. Hopefully I can get it sorted soon so I can stop worrying about it!! x

 

[Elliebank]

God that's rubbish!!

You will get ESA for more than 2wks - we've just been trained on it (I work in Housing & Council Tax Benefit), you get a minimum amount for 13wks then it goes up, & don't think there is a limit on how long you get it after that. Problem is you won't get Income Related if yr OH works, but should get contributions based which is based on yr NI contributions if you've worked most of the time for the last few yrs.

Ive just read this - https://www.dwp.gov.uk/advisers/ni17a/cannot_smp_ma/

Which saya I cn clain it for 6 weeks before my edd - upto 14 days after the baby is born. Thats 8 weeks in total. As I was actually pregnant for 2 months before I stopped work, went on the sick for 6 weeks then had a mc, I only really didnt work for 1 month before the start of this pregnancy - so there might be a loop hole somewhere??? I really need to speak to someone who works for dpt work and pensions and see what they say. How hard is it to get some pennies??!!! Thanks for your help though. Hopefully I can get it sorted soon so I can stop worrying about it!! x

If you could get a sicknote you'd be able to get it for longer I think. I'll dig my notes out & have a proper look

 

[Sarah+]

i know ! feel so lucky to get more scans than usually !!! really got to me that consultant tho glad mw was there aswell x

What sort of things did he ask? (if you don't mind me asking.... just sounds like he upset you )

 

[Elliebank]

Shelley I've looked at my notes & you get ESA if yr incapable of work - you have to under go a 'work capability assessment' & if they decide from this you can't work you'd get it. So I doubt you'll get it after the 2wks after bubs is born, unless yr ill (which God forbid you are).

Sorry hon. It really annoys me when things like this happen, I still can't believe you won't get MA, it's ridiculous xx

 

[honey08]

just like medication im on,im reducing it safley and he said well in 3rd tri i shudnt do this cos it can cause problems, and also im on incapacity benfit cos of bad anxiety and panic attacks and he asked me if id ever wrked i said of course i have ,im 28 !!! he said when the babys born i shud look into getting all the noisence sorted and find wrk i said it wud be sorted by now if i didnt keep getting fobbed off all the time, and then he said well its not wot were ere to tlk bout,so i said ,so why are u asking me then im not thinking bout wrk at the moment to be honest,i need help to relax and stop the panic attacks etc,course i wana wrk but i need the help to do so first !! OH wrks uknow,we dont live off benifits,he just seemed very put off by the whole wrk situation,ive only been on icap for 5mth

 

[Sarah+]

just like medication im on,im reducing it safley and he said well in 3rd tri i shudnt do this cos it can cause problems, and also im on incapacity benfit cos of bad anxiety and panic attacks and he asked me if id ever wrked i said of course i have ,im 28 !!! he said when the babys born i shud look into getting all the noisence sorted and find wrk i said it wud be sorted by now if i didnt keep getting fobbed off all the time, and then he said well its not wot were ere to tlk bout,so i said ,so why are u asking me then im not thinking bout wrk at the moment to be honest,i need help to relax and stop the panic attacks etc,course i wana wrk but i need the help to do so first !! OH wrks uknow,we dont live off benifits,he just seemed very put off by the whole wrk situation,ive only been on icap for 5mth

How rude! That's really got nothing to do with him, except how it relates to the LO. Sounds like he needs to take one of those sensitivity courses! Good on you for standing up for youself.

 

[Elliebank]

just like medication im on,im reducing it safley and he said well in 3rd tri i shudnt do this cos it can cause problems, and also im on incapacity benfit cos of bad anxiety and panic attacks and he asked me if id ever wrked i said of course i have ,im 28 !!! he said when the babys born i shud look into getting all the noisence sorted and find wrk i said it wud be sorted by now if i didnt keep getting fobbed off all the time, and then he said well its not wot were ere to tlk bout,so i said ,so why are u asking me then im not thinking bout wrk at the moment to be honest,i need help to relax and stop the panic attacks etc,course i wana wrk but i need the help to do so first !! OH wrks uknow,we dont live off benifits,he just seemed very put off by the whole wrk situation,ive only been on icap for 5mth

What a tit!

 

[Elliebank]

Shelley I've looked at my notes & you get ESA if yr incapable of work - you have to under go a 'work capability assessment' & if they decide from this you can't work you'd get it. So I doubt you'll get it after the 2wks after bubs is born, unless yr ill (which God forbid you are).

Sorry hon. It really annoys me when things like this happen, I still can't believe you won't get MA, it's ridiculous xx

Oh & you'd be able to claim Job Seekers Allowance (conts based) but you'd have to show you were looking for work, etc.