July 2009 buddies wanted!!

[NikiJJones]

Ellie: glad you stopped temping and sorry to hear about the blood. FX it is nothing to worry about. I'm sure your doc is right.
Shelley: Hope your beanie is getting big and strong in there.
Tiger lady: FX for twins!!!!! I secretly wanted them, though I did realise that would mean only one year of maternity leave, and I'd rather get a year off for each child to be honest!!! I am sooooooo looking forward to a year of no work!!!!! Obviously I am looking forward to being a Mummy so much more, but a year of no marking, report writing, planning lessons etc sounds soooooo good too!
Honey: I've also taken to not wearing a bra in the house when my boobs are sore. They do seem to come and go though.
Sarah: so pleased to hear about your scan!! It is amazing to see the HB isn't it? Wow: I'm liking what your doc said about the stats after seeing a HB!!!

I've just booked my next scan for Friday 5th. I'll be 8+2 by then. I am going privately, as I just want reassurance that all is going OK. Think I'm going to get a 10 week one too, as my Mum will be staying with me that week, and she would love to come with me.

 

[TigerLady]

Well, after the rest of your beta reports, I am feeling more confident it is not twins! Whew! I wouldn't be heartbroken it if was, but, tbh, I only want one at a time. I don't want to have to divide my attention. Sounds silly, I know, but it is true.

Nikki, you get a whole year off????? Is that with or without pay? Wow. I only get a maximum of 12 weeks off and that is without pay. More likely I will only take a week or two before I have to go back. I'd like to take more, but I don't want to have to scrimp too much because I don't have a paycheck. Especially with a newborn!

Sarah: Yeah for the HB! Someone said I would not be able to detect that at 6+3 (which is what my first scan is scheduled at) and I was so sad, but now I feel like I might be able to hear it!

Shellylu, thanks for updating the front page!

 

[NikiJJones]

I get to take a year off. English schools are very good about maternity. I get 90% pay for first month, then 50% pay for months 2-6, statutory maternity for 7-9 (which isn't very much, but better than nothing) and then nothing for months 10-12, but I started saving years ago for maternity leave, so I definitely have enough to see me through. Also: all going to plan, I will go back to school only 2 weeks before the end of next academic year, and then will be off for another 2 months over the summer hols, so apart from the 2 weeks back in July 2010, I will pretty much get 14 months with baby. Sooooo looking forward to it!!! I would LOVE to be able to give up work completely and be a stay-at-home Mummy, but we just couldn't afford the mortgage sadly.
What sort of maternity pay do you get in the US? What's everyone else due to get and how long are you all planning to take off?

 

[TigerLady]

Wow, that is such a wonderful plan! I am so envious!

I don't think very many ladies are lucky enough here to get paid materinity, but lucky them if they do! There is the FMLA (Family medical leave act) that requires employers to give the employee 12 weeks off and still hold their job. But they don't have to pay them. If you have sick time or vacation pay, you can use that. I plan to use all my sick and vacation pay, which might be two weeks worth (as I only JUST started a new job), and then we'll see what happens. I am REALLY hoping that I can work from home for a while after that. I mentioned that to my boss and she was open to the idea. So I hope I will get closer and that will be possible! FX!! I am really at the mercy of the kindness of my boss, though. Thankfully, she has two kids and is a very understanding lady. I feel very lucky to have that!

 

[NikiJJones]

Gosh: I don't envy that situation. I do hope they let you work from home for a while. Great that your boss is understanding. I am sooooo glad for the UK maternity leave rules. Also, I think that teachers get a particularly favourable deal over here. A colleague of mine got PG with her 2nd child when number one was 9 months old, so when she came back to school after her year off, she announced her 2nd pregnancy. She was only back for 5 months then before going off for another year with baby number 2. It's great for her, as she also got to be at home with her oldest for that year too. I'm wondering if she'll time number 3 in the same way? She's just back from maternity number 2, so just waiting for an announcement!

 

[Sarah+]

Well, after the rest of your beta reports, I am feeling more confident it is not twins! Whew! I wouldn't be heartbroken it if was, but, tbh, I only want one at a time. I don't want to have to divide my attention. Sounds silly, I know, but it is true.

Nikki, you get a whole year off????? Is that with or without pay? Wow. I only get a maximum of 12 weeks off and that is without pay. More likely I will only take a week or two before I have to go back. I'd like to take more, but I don't want to have to scrimp too much because I don't have a paycheck. Especially with a newborn!

Sarah: Yeah for the HB! Someone said I would be able to detect that at 6+3 (which is what my first scan is scheduled at) and I was so sad, but now I feel like I might be able to hear it!

Shellylu, thanks for updating the front page!

I was told from 6w you can see it, so you prob will

 

[TigerLady]

Thanks! I REALLY hope so! FX!

 

[soliloquise]

hi everyone,

can i come in?

due july 10th

there is a bit about me here:

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-first-trimester/76169-7-5-weeks-miracle.html

good luck everyone

sam x

 

[NikiJJones]

Hi Sam, and welcome. Read your miracle story: amazing!
I love your avatar by the way: cheered me up in my MS haze today!

Well ladies: I lost my breakfast and my pre-natal vits this morning. YUCK!

 

[wishingonastar]

i'm so cross...i was looking forward to a bowl of porridge to start my day and OH thiefed all the milk before i was up! he is in so much trouble!!!

 

[Shazzy]

Wow so much to read!

Nikki a whole year off??? your so lucky!

Ive got no leave, i work for myself from home though, will be saving some money up to at least take a few days off.

Wow your betas are high, i would love to know what mine are at now

Sometime i think twins are a excellent idea, get it over and done with in one go, but it must be allot of hard work to look after two! never mind stressing over two little beans.

ok chat later, take care all.

 

[geogem]

hi there girlies - my goodness you have all been chattering whilst I was away.

Well here goes - yesterday I started getting a few pains in my right hand side of my uterus/ovarie area!!
I went to our local surgery - who all had a go at poking my belly and checking my urine -which had sml trace of blood!!
They then preceeded to tell me that they thought I had an eptopic!!! I was then rushed to local Gynea ward and prodded and poked some more!!
(Inside and Out!!!!!)
to then get rushed to maternity for a scan!!

At this point I was totally ready to lose my baby as the whispers from doctors/nurses just outside the room told me to expect the worst!!!

But then I got into the Scan room and there it was!!

My little peanut in the correct place and with a really strong heartbeat!!

I burst into tears - as did DH!! and was told everything was fine they just think I may have a sml cyst on my ovary which is causing the pain but it is too small to see on a scan - so no-one really knows!!

Peanut is 7.8mm long and doing just fine!!

So now I am going to relax and enjoy the fact that I have no sickness and no tiredness or anything else!!

 

[NikiJJones]

Geogem: Wow!!! So pleased to hear about your scan! It is such a relief to see the little heart beating away!!!! I also have a small ovarian cyst. I've been told it is very common in early PG, as it is where the eggie burst out, leaving a corpus luteum, which then does the job of producing some hormones I believe.

Wishing: sorry to hear about your OH messing up your porridge ideas. My stomach decided to rob me of this morning's porridge as soon as I arrived at work. It went straight down the loo, along with my pre-natal vits. I must start taking the vits in the evening, as I can't risk losing them every morning like this.

 

[geogem]

thanks nikki - your right it is great to see the HB for the first time - felt relieved that there was actually something there!! As you know I have had this reoccurring nightmare that I would get to the scan and there would be nothing there!!

 

[Lyns]

It went straight down the loo, along with my pre-natal vits. I must start taking the vits in the evening, as I can't risk losing them every morning like this.

Niki, try ditching the vits for now....just take Folic Acid. Vits at this stage can make MS worse, and honestly, for the next few weeks all you need is Folic Acid, I promise. Its something the doc told me to do first time round and I wasn't happy to start with but I researched it - a lot - and its utterly fine in the first tri! You body will have already stored all the vits it needs apart for Folic Acid.

You do need to start taking them as soon as you enter 2nd tri though, but by then your MS will be much better. xxx

 

[babybooties]

Heya im due on the 24th july!!!! going so slow tooo

 

[geogem]

welcome to july buddies babybooties and hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy!

Oh and if you have found out this early it will go really slowly - believe me!
Sometimes I wonder if it would be better not knowing until later on!!

Is this your first baby?

 

[KKSARAH]

WOW, how much av I missed, so much has happened its only been 2 days since I last looked on here

Well I had more Red blood yesterday, so yet another trip to hospital had another scan and not only did I see little bean but also a heartbeat at 6w2days

The bleeding has stopped again FX and they dont need to see me again until my next scan 10 to 12 weeks

 

[babybooties]

no gonna be my 2nd hun got a little boy

 

[geogem]

Hi there KKSarah, glad all is okay - lots of little HB's showing on the scans now!! makes you feel so much more confident now doesnt it!!

glad everything is fine for you.