July 2017 Rainbows (13 Rainbows-4 pink -1 blue- 2 yellow- 2 angels)

[Mrs Dragonfly]

My appointment stunk, our toddler was screaming and crying the whole flipping time that the dr took a quick listen and it was a rushed appointment. There was an error with my NT scan booking so I have to go back tomorrow for it instead of having it done today. Which may be just as well because OMG my toddler wouldn't stop screaming! Literally threw herself to the floor sobbing, I died a little inside.

 

[lesondemavie]

How far along are you? Size of baby?

13 weeks, a large macaron

Any appointments this week?

Appointment this morning. All is beautiful! Doctor said no cleft, no spina bifida, femur measuring on track, should pass NT on Friday no problem 💕



How are your symptoms? Any improvement?

Still sick 😞. Morning and nights are the worst. I can actually eat lunch now, and it is glorious. I've even put on a pound finally! I'm only throwing up every other night instead of 1-2x per day. I feel like I'm going to throw up almost more often though.

Do you have a New Years resolution?

Nope! I just want to meet my rainbow this year 😍🌈

What were you doing at midnight this NYE?

Fast asleep!

Are you planning on a babymoon?

Nothing set, but our anniversary is in April, so maybe will make that a small anniversary/babymoon with a extended weekend staycation. I don't really want to dip into PTO...will need that for mat leave!

 

[blessedmomma]

Confuzion- I'm saying you're having a boy based on nothing. I'm not good at even knowing what my own babies are haha. But that's what I'm saying.

Les- I'm saying girl for you. Just a guess You are team yellow, correct?? But do you have any instincts going either way? I wasn't blessed with any myself. In fact whatever I think for myself you can pretty much be assured it will be opposite

Dragonfly- oh how frustrating!

 

[lesondemavie]

Yes, I am firmly team yellow, and no instincts either way. DH's sister and two close friends all had boys last year, my best friend had a boy in 2015 too, so it would definitely be nice to have a girl in the mix. My sister has had dreams of me with a girl since before this pregnancy and some empath told my best friend that I'm having a boy so that's her guess. To me they are all just fun guesses - with pretty good odds 😉. I honestly just want (and have wanted for over a year now) more than anything to be a mom to a healthy baby - boy or girl it doesn't matter. Losing a baby is hard no matter when it happens or who it happens to, but I think losing your first (and second in my case) comes with it's own set of emotions and challenges. I'm extremely jealous every time I see someone go through a first pregnancy with that innocent joy I remember with my first. I will never get the full 9 months of that. The fear is always there, but we all know too well that it's different after it happens to you. Whew, sorry I didn't mean to go into all of that. I have always been team yellow since before we even started trying, but my heart used to want a little girl. Now all I want is a healthy baby, and when I let myself picture holding our little baby (which I've only let myself do within this last week), I don't really see if it's a boy or a girl...I just feel love and joy greater than I have ever known and I cry .

I know serious much? Clearly feeling emotional today what with my response in the other group and here. Thanks for the fun guess! Hopefully we will all get to find out in July!!!

 

[tcinks]

Ummm... can I hang out with you girls? I'm due in June but I don't see a June PAL group, and I find it much better to be in a group where people understand the anxiety and stress that comes with it.

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Les - Kudos to you for being team yellow! DH really wanted to with DD but I couldn't do it, I had to know.

Welcome Tcinks! of course we don't mind if you join, it's been so wonderful having these ladies understanding my anxiety and just being able to open up about it all.

 

[sil]

Dragonfly- sorry your appointment didn't go great. Appointments can be tough with toddlers. I usually try my best to plan non-ultrasound ones at a time DH is home from work and can watch them and ultrasound ones either the kids come with DH or we try to see if my in laws can watch them so DH and I can go. We are going to bring them to our gender ultrasound in 10 days though hopefully it goes well haha.

Les- I wish I could be team yellow but I just don't have it in me! I'm such a planner. Also I have two DS already, one born in June and one in July. Since this LO is due June 30, if it's a boy we will have plenty of seasonally appropriate correct sized clothes but if it's a girl we will need to go shopping!

Tcinks, so happy to see you on this thread!! I was just thinking of you the other day actually. How is your pregnancy going? I'm actually technically due in June too (June 30). There is a wonderful group of ladies here and great support system

 

[lesondemavie]

Good to see you inks

SIL - I actually laugh when people tell be they can't be team yellow bc they are too much of a planner. I am totally type A. All of our trips are planned out to the tiniest detail after hours of research, my spice rack is alphabetized, and my closet is organized roygbv. I am the planner of all planners 😆. I just don't think you need to know the sex of the baby to plan. We will have a name picked out, I already have a plan for the nursery, and as for clothes I want to avoid overgenderized/sexulized stuff anyway (like shirts that say "lock up your daughters" or "your wife keeps checking me out" and all of the pink frilly things with bows). I think plenty of baby clothes whether intended for boys or girls (not just gender neutral ones) would look great on any baby (heck I steal my husband's sweaters all of the time...seriously there is so much in the men's section that works and it tends to be cheaper and easier to wash). There's just nothing in my plan that I can't decide without knowing baby's sex. BUT I understand that not everyone sees it that way and that knowing the sex is part of that plan for you and them. I just chuckle a bit about it, because being a planner isn't what makes it necessary. Just don't think us team yellows are hoping to wing it when the baby arrives 😉.

 

[sil]

Les, you are completely right. Maybe that is just my excuse for wanting to know! Haha. I don't really like clothes with sayings like that either. We always try to avoid the "handsome like dad" etc clothes, but we did put our boys in overalls, button downs, etc which wouldn't work great with a girl. Our nurseries are gender neutral as well (forest theme and travel theme). I think I just like mentally preparing to welcome one gender or another. I know it makes no difference in the baby and their personality. It I can't help but want to know, haha! I think it's wonderful you are team yellow though and am sure it will be an amazing moment when baby arrives.

 

[lesondemavie]

Haha I love overalls and buttondowns and I would totally put a girl in clothes like that 😆. I wear/wore clothes like that (I think there's a rule...no overalls after 30?).

 

[blessedmomma]

I definitely think it's preference to find out gender. I used to want to not find out until birth, but I absolutely love knowing. But then, I love the gender specific clothes too. My DH says when we go to the baby section I'm in lala land and he can't even talk to me. At least I think that's what he said, I was picking out baby clothes haha. DH says it helps him to bond with the baby to know gender, which is adorbs to me. Completely understand if it's not that way with someone else. For us there are so many firsts that can't be known like what they look like and what their personality will be, we don't feel we miss out on anything.

I woke up today with my bump feeling less bloaty and hard instead. And I just felt bigger. Funny how it can be all of a sudden like that.
Here is my 9 week and 12 week comparison

 

[blessedmomma]

Welcome tcinks!!! I'm from Kansas, although we just lived to Indiana.

 

[Girly922]

Welcome tcinks!

I'm very much with you on the reasons for staying team yellow les. With DD we didn't feel any need to find out, I like the gender neutral clothing and as far as we're concerned all toys are gender neutral. We have got everything we need for this baby without knowing the sex. DD has from the day she was born, and still does now, worn both boys and girls clothes. Most of her dungarees are from the boys section as I love her in dungs but they're so difficult to get for girls here.

I'm still suffering fairly with evening nausea and exhaustion that is affecting my day to day ability to do anything. I really hope it lessens soon as even though I'm not actually being sick, I feel so awful I'm just feeling miserable.

 

[Girly922]

Little bit late doing this but here goes
How far along are you? Size of baby?

11 weeks so the size of a Lego person.

Any appointments this week?

Not this week, 12 week scan next week though

How are your symptoms? Any improvement?

Evening nausea is still pretty debilitating, exhaustion has been back this week too.

Do you have a New Years resolution?

I don't tend to bother, there's very little I would change about our lives. I don't believe in weightloss as a New Years resolution as it doesn't stick and it's not a good enough reason to follow it through.

What were you doing at midnight this NYE?

I was in bed asleep, it had been a long day. DH stayed up with our dog as he's terrified of fireworks, and the fireworks were loud enough to wake me just after midnight so I'm sure he would've been terrified without DH.

Are you planning on a babymoon?

Unlikely, but we haven't ruled it out. We had one when I was pregnant with DD. If we do go this time it'll just be a long weekend and we'll be taking DD with us.

 

[confuzion]

I agree that it's a preference to find out the sex of the baby. I typically am not a fan of gender specific clothing and gravitate towards a mix/ gender neutral clothing. My daughter wears a lot of reds---that is my favorite color and looks equally as nice on a boy . The reason I want to find out is that I'm just too impatient. And the surprise of seeing what my little one looks like is surprise enough for me at the birth. I will never forget holding my daughter for the first time and seeing that little stranger that had been growing in my belly. She looked NOTHING like I imagined but was still the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. My husband got us on video and all you could hear was me repeating "your so so beautiful" over and over lol---she was long awaited and our miracle baby.

Dragonfly - omg so sorry your appointment was such a bust. We took my daughter to the first ultrasound because I needed my husband there and thankfully she was well behaved (but her dad was there to entertain her), I can't imagine taking her on my own! My second appointment was in the morning when she was still asleep and her dad stayed home to watch her.

Tcinks - welcome and of course you can hang out with us!

Girly - so sorry you're still feeling so awful I hope you see some improvement soon.

 

[lesondemavie]

Confuzion - I just cannot wait for that moment! To meet the little stranger growing inside of me. Boy or girl, I know the baby is going to be beautiful and precious and oh so loved by both me and DH. Before that though, I keep imaging the moment that I feel the baby move for the first time. I read somewhere that it sometimes doesn't happen until V day! Gosh I think I'd be terrified if I had to wait until 25 weeks to feel the baby. Whatever happens though, I just have to keep pinching myself to realize that I'm not dreaming and after an awful year we may finally have all of that

 

[tcinks]

Thanks ladies!
I haven't read all of your stories, though I remember some of you from other threads. I'll go back through later and get caught up. As for me, on Pregnancy number 4 and hoping and praying this one will come home with us. I have a weak cervix , which was the cause of 2 of my losses. Now, I have a cerclage to help keep my cervix closed , and weekly progesterone shots to calm my uterus. My doctor is confident this will work, but I'm still so nervous! Especially for the next few weeks as I'm approaching the time when I lost 2nd. I've got my eye on 24 weeks, then 28, etc. I've basically placed myself on bedrest because I'm so afraid of something happening. My next appointment is the 16th and it seems so far away! They will check my cervix again then and make sure it's long and closed.

 

[tcinks]

Confuzion - I just cannot wait for that moment! To meet the little stranger growing inside of me. Boy or girl, I know the baby is going to be beautiful and precious and oh so loved by both me and DH. Before that though, I keep imaging the moment that I feel the baby move for the first time. I read somewhere that it sometimes doesn't happen until V day! Gosh I think I'd be terrified if I had to wait until 25 weeks to feel the baby. Whatever happens though, I just have to keep pinching myself to realize that I'm not dreaming and after an awful year we may finally have all of that

So glad to see you here Some people feel it earlier it just depends on your body. I have an anterior placenta, which makes it harder to feel kicks early. I started feeling subtle movement around 14 weeks and they are getting a little stronger now at 17, but still not consistent. It was around 20 weeks last time when I REALLY felt lots of movement. Maybe it'll be sooner for you!

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Confuzion I can't wait to feel that moment again. When they first put DD on my chest it was such an emotional feeling that there are no words for!

Tcinks - praying that the weeks roll on by and your cervix holds so strong you can relax.

AFM - Ultrasound was great! Dr said baby looked perfect, I think their face looks odd though lol. My 20 week u/s is in the books for Feb 21st! Baby is measuring at 13+2 but I don't think my midwife is going to change my date, we'll see. I put DD's u/s pic and this baby's together, I think they look totally different! Perhaps ?

 

[tcinks]

Mrs Dragonfly, are you going to find out? By the shape of their skulls, they both look like girls to me. But I'm no expert!

We aren't finding out until birth. I've been feeling like it's a boy, and hubby thinks girl. Although at our last ultrasound we forgot to tell them at first that we didn't want to know, so we saw for a brief second. I was so crushed because the surprised was ruined. But DH told me it looked like a boy to him, and I thought for sure girl. So the surprise is still safe.