July Firecrackers 2018

[Alligator]

It’s crazy how much symptoms come and go! I’ve felt as miserable as ever all day and earlier this week I thought i was turning a corner and had a great day! I guess it was too good to be true!!

Dreading work tomorrow... DH is coming with me to help setup and be some moral support (volunteering yay!). It’s just tough I have to be ‘on’ all day and setup a bunch of stuff and be on top of things and I feel the exact opposite. Let alone my exhaustion and need to eat all the time. I’m hoping I have a good day!

 

[Buffyx]

My sister's pregnancy isnt going to stick. Her HCG levels arent rising like they should Im super bummed for her, especially since it is IVF. Her first cycle failed and then this one was looking so good, just to get bad news. I feel bad because Im pregnant. And i also know how much money she has spent on it all. I wish there was something i could do.

 

[Four2Five]

Oh Buffy I’m so sorry, that is heartbreaking. Don’t feel guilty you are pregnant, I know it’s easier said than done but this isn’t anything anyone could have changed and no need to feel upset towards yourself. I can’t imagine how hard this will be for her but give her space and ask her what she needs from you so she feels comfortable...I’ve heard mixed things, some people just want space to be away from all pregnant people and some want to live their pregnancy through those who are pregnant, just go with her feelings but don’t feel insensitive to celebrate your baby. Wishing I could give you both a big hug, this stuff is so unfair sometimes and my heart breaks for her.

 

[Buffyx]

Thanks so much. Thank you for the advice. I will give her a couple of days and then ask what she needs from me.

 

[Alligator]

Oh buffy that is so sad. I’m so sorry for your sister, how heartbreaking. I agree, give her a couple days and reach out, ask what she needs. I know when I miscarried my best friend was pregnant (like 36 weeks though) and she told me she felt guilty.. I said, no! Don’t! I never want anyone to experience loss like I did, let alone someone close to me. It was still hard to see pregnant people on the street or something but those close to me I was glad they got to hold their babies.

 

[MissEyre]

Buffy - I'm so sorry! That truly is a delicate situation, especially with IVF.

I'm still having good days and bad days, but I feel like the bad days are overtaking the good days. I hope things turn around for all of us sooner than later.

 

[Four2Five]

I’ve felt the best ever these last two days! I haven’t even taken a nap No nausea or anything (other than waking up at 5:30 starving) I hope it’s not a weekend fluke and it lasts from here on out!

 

[TexMel]

I'm sorry to hear about your sister, Buffy! That has got to be a hard situation. Don't feel guilty, I'm sure she knows what you have been through and can relate to her loss as well. IVF can really add up, I do feel for those that have to go through that. I see so many of my patients come back month after month to get more fertility meds and I can't help but feel a twinge of guilt over how "easy" it has been for my husband and I to conceive both times.

 

[lilmisscaviar]

So sorry to hear that, Buffy. I had a cousin who always wanted her own child but instead she ended up having to get a hysterectomy when she was only 32 years old due to ovarian cancer. I really felt bad every time I would get pregnant because I knew how much she wanted a baby so I can completely understand your mixed emotions. I know it is hard, but try not to beat yourself up too much.

 

[lilmisscaviar]

I know some people have already announced their pregnancies, but to those who haven't, when do you plan to announce? I'm thinking about probably announcing after 20 weeks when we reveal gender.

 

[Four2Five]

I think we will announce sometime between now and New Years, we may wait till after our 12 week scan, we haven’t really decided for sure yet, but soon!

 

[glong88]

After 12 weeks I would think for us x

 

[TexMel]

I'll keep popping in because I like to see what my ticker changes to every week

 

[JWC13]

We are getting the blood test done to learn gender at 11 weeks so we will know gender around 12 weeks and will make our social media announcements around then as well.

Our family and close friends already know as well as several of our close coworkers.

We will be 12 weeks around new years so I'm thinking the announcement will be new years themed but haven't quite figured it out yet. Crazy to think we are only a few weeks away from being in the 'safe' zone and can start really announcing to the world.

 

[Four2Five]

JWC we are thinking New Years too, our dr suggested getting pink or blue fireworks and recording them being let off or a photo of them for an announcement since we are “due in July-Firecrackers” it ties into both themes I thought it was a great idea!

 

[eppgirl]

I think we’ll be making our announcement right after my next ultrasound on the 19th. Right now all the friends and family that we’re close to already know. So it’ll just be a Facebook announcement for my friends and family I never get to see. Any ideas for a baby #4 announcement?

 

[JWC13]

JWC we are thinking New Years too, our dr suggested getting pink or blue fireworks and recording them being let off or a photo of them for an announcement since we are “due in July-Firecrackers” it ties into both themes I thought it was a great idea!

OMG I love that idea!!

 

[MissEyre]

We waited until close to 20 weeks with our girl to announce on Facebook. I think we'll probably use a similar timeframe with this one, too. The surprise will only be for friends that don't live nearby though. Most of my family and close friends already know. I doubt I'll be able to hide my bump until 20 weeks, lol! I feel like I already look like I'm 5 months along.

 

[lilmisscaviar]

I love that idea, Four2five! Very creative

The only one I've told beside my husband is my mother. I haven't even told the kids yet. I'm thinking about doing something special for Christmas to announce to them. I'm not really looking forward to announcing on Facebook but of course I'll have to tell eventually otherwise people will be asking where the extra kid in my pictures came from

 

[Alligator]

I’ll be almost 13 weeks on NYD so I’m thinking of announcing then but i do want to have the 12w scan first.. I still can’t help but feel anxious. I do see the low risk maternity clinic on the 21 (just a nurse though...) so I might ask for a referral then for the scan, given that the Christmas to New Years period is busy and thing tend to be closed half the time, I might be able to get in?! Hoping!