June 2013 first time bump buddies wanted

[AsEn11]

I have been calling around snoogle is the brand I wasw looking for but i called a store and the have Boppy pillows and there are good reviews i might try that out..i feel like its Christmas all over again, my back has been hurting terribly and I am hoping a good pillow will help since nothing else has.

 

[No Doubt]

I made it to two daycares today. I didn't think I would go for the first one, but now I'm kind of liking the first over the second...and I thought the second was a for sure pick. My biggest problem is that the second one is a locked facility, but to get in you get a code, and they just "ask" people not to give out the code. Really!?!?!? Let's just put everyone on the honor system cause no one ever lies. People tell grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, neighbors this code when they send someone else to pick up their child, so where maybe two people, mom and dad, have the code 10 people have the code and can just walk right in. She said someone is usually sitting at the front desk and can see who's coming in, but we were away from that front desk for at least 20 mins checking out the infant room and no one else was sup there in her place. How many times a day does that happen? It only takes a second for a child to come up missing. I'm just not comfortable with that at all. And they only change the code every 6 months.

The first place is truly locked down and someone has to buzz you in. And she was wearing the buzzer around her neck so it wasn't like it was just lying around either. When I pulled up I was sitting in my car eating my breakfast and just kind of looking at the kids and whatnot in their normal setting. I felt so stalker. Stalking is only good on bnb, lol. But the lady said she saw me sitting there and and said that she was keeping an eye on me. That made me feel good. At least I know they watch out for weirdos and don't just let things go unnoticed.

 

[pinkwaters]

I'd go for the first place!! With all the crazy people out there I'd rather be assured no one just gets to walk in where my child is!
I still haven't decided on how many months off work I want with baby, it feels like I'd want so much more than a few months to settle but we'll see.

I got a pregnancy pillow from mothercare, it's a pillow then extends like a U and closes between the legs if you want it to, I found it very comfortable and supports my back really well! My friends love that snuggle from amazon, I just didn't want to wait for it so I bought one myself.

I have a check up tomorrow, still the most exciting thing ever!

 

[Ylanda]

What are your plans for maternity leave/return to work? I'm entitled to a full year off (which I would LOVE to take) but only 5 months are on full pay, then it's £500 a month for 4 months, and then it's no pay at all for 3 months - so from the financial point I really don't know how we'd make it work! what do you guys have planned?

 

[AsEn11]

Hello Ladies..I hope everyones weekends are starting out great! It is chilly here in Idaho but the crisp cold air feels so refreshing to take in!
So I was wondering if I could get some advice from everyone.
So my boyfrind and i have been getting in little tiffs lately and its over such small pety things but it seems like everything he does annoys me and i go from feeling bad to wondering if he is doing it on purpose. But I get mad and sometimes yell, well not only am i worried about the stress it puts on my baby but now that it can hear things I dont want it to hear that.
Only him and my mother do this to me everyone else is fine..haha
But I feel terrible and im not sure how to control it. this is embarrasing but I need help to get over things a little easier. I work 6 days a week so we just get evenings together and I would like to spend our time together doing more than just tiffing.
Thank you

 

[No Doubt]

Ylanda, I only get 6 weeks at my job, 8 if it's a c-section at full pay. Plus up to 2 off before my due date. But I plan on utiliziling the full 12 weeks of fmla so I can stay home for 3 months with Thumper.

Ashley, I'm sure he's not doing it on purpose, but what I've noticed with my hubbs is that he doesn't see a difference between pre-pregnancy emotions of mine and now. He thinks it's all the same and doesn't understand the concept of a mood swing. I've had to just let some things go cause it's not always a big deal and like you I can argue about the little things too. He's learned to walk away most of the time, but I've had to learn to really stop and think if what I'm going to say is worth it. In other words, choose your battles. As far as your baby hearing, I wouldn't worry about that. They can hear you, but don't understand the meaning of everything you say yet. I'd worry more about the stress, which is another reason why I say if it's not that big of deal, let it go. Hope this helps.

 

[AsEn11]

I am thinking I need to start doing yoga again and stuff to put my mind at ease i have been so tense and am usually very calm so maybe i dont know how to handle myself so i take it out on those closest to me. It is something i am not proud of but i will work on it for my sake and especially the baby! thank you

 

[Ylanda]

Yay to Yoga - I'm starting again on the 10th - can't wait! It definitely helps me keep calm and balanced!

 

[AsEn11]

Oh and on another note some of my pants are fitting a little to snug so I was getting uncomftorable sitting at my desk all day so i went out and found some materninty jeans (that were long enought for me ) and they are to date the greatest investment i have ever made..or so i think so at the time haha..but I wore them yesterday and have never felt so free!! i cant wait to get more..its like wearing pajamas all day!

 

[pinkwaters]

Hey Ashley,
Mood swings are normal, I'm sure any form of exersize would help. My husband is away and I work 6 days a week too so I've been letting it out on my younger sisters .. Poor girls ;p It come and goes though and once you try to remember that this is the work of evil hormones you remind yourself to control it ... a little atleast ;D

I just got back from my check up- everything is normal and dating well, just the picture so unclear and basically the spine ... nothing else, hubby was waiting to see a picture of our baby boy ;( My doctor is great he's just not the best with ultrasound -.-

I think I'll have another private, I know I already spend more than I should on all this but he should get a nice picture he won't be here for another 2 months and my next appointment is at week 21 ;s

 

[pinkwaters]

So I decided to change my doctor, it's not that he's bad it's just he wasn't as understanding as I'd like.

I saw another male doctor yesturday and he's just the sweetest, I think I'm sticking with him, he confirmed the gender within ten seconds whilst the other one spent less than 2 minutes and said he couldn't tell.

Anyhow, 21 week scan January 27th and 17 weeks today super exciting!

Happy New Year everyone!!! May 2013 bring us all our beautiful bundles of joy healthy and happy ;D

 

[27yrsTTC]

What are your plans for maternity leave/return to work? I'm entitled to a full year off (which I would LOVE to take) but only 5 months are on full pay, then it's £500 a month for 4 months, and then it's no pay at all for 3 months - so from the financial point I really don't know how we'd make it work! what do you guys have planned?

Ylanda, I have a government paid, full year from baby's birth day off. We get 60% of our pay, to a maximum of $400/week (and I'm full time so I will get the full $1600cdn /month). My wife also gets her pay supplemented by her work to 85% of her pay (with no cap) for 15 weeks. The year can be split, so I'll take the first 37 weeks off, and she'll take the last 15 weeks.

We both work shift work so the plan after baby is here is to work part time on her days off, we'd still have a couple days off together, and we wouldn't need daycare.

 

[No Doubt]

No daycare would be so nice. I'm considering going part time, but all of our benefits are ties to my job. I'm also hoping that instead of working 5 days a week I can work four 10 hour days a week and if the hubbs can work 2 or 3 days from home then we could potentially have 3 or 4 days with no daycare. But my job isn't so lenient so I doubt it. I'm also trying to find a job where I can work from home. I don't don't want to leave my job and I probably won't, but just trying to keep all options open.

 

[CatchBabyDust]

pink- its better to deal with a dr ur comfortable with u can trust anythning he tells u in that case..otherwise, ud be doubting him through out ur pregnancy

Anyone felt awesome by week 15..? im 15 weeks tomorrow..and ive felt amazing..its getting me kinda paranoid..like i have alooooooot of energy!! i actually cooked and cleaned today! And i havent vomited in few days...today and yesterday i actually had no nausea.. I'm trying to enjoy this energy spike but im panicking instead lol

 

[No Doubt]

Enjoy it hun! This is when things start to get a bit better as you're in second tri now. It's normal. That happened for me...didn't last long, lol. But it will most likely last for you all. I shouldn't say it didn't last, I still get tired early, but the fatigue is gone.

 

[CatchBabyDust]

Thanks!! i'll try to! My cousin told me she didnt feel pregnant at all by this time..she's 8 months pregnant now...I didnt believe her...but today it has been a big change!!

 

[Ylanda]

No daycare would be so nice. I'm considering going part time, but all of our benefits are ties to my job. I'm also hoping that instead of working 5 days a week I can work four 10 hour days a week and if the hubbs can work 2 or 3 days from home then we could potentially have 3 or 4 days with no daycare. But my job isn't so lenient so I doubt it. I'm also trying to find a job where I can work from home. I don't don't want to leave my job and I probably won't, but just trying to keep all options open.

Yeah, not needing day care would just be awesome, on so many levels! We have no family near by (in-laws are 200 miles away up in Scotland and my folks are in Germany) so we're kinda having to fend this one on our own. Saying that, though, I probably wouldn't be too keen on my baby being brought up by my MIL, anyway! lol I hope my husband finds a job where we live, he currently works half his time from home (which would, of course, be awesome for baby) and the other half away up in Glasgow - so that would be a total nightmare once the baby is here or even near the due date! Also, he's on part-time pay and spending a lot of money on fuel which he isn't re-imbursed for at all. It's all a bit up in the air, at the moment, to be honest...

pink- its better to deal with a dr ur comfortable with u can trust anythning he tells u in that case..otherwise, ud be doubting him through out ur pregnancy

Anyone felt awesome by week 15..? im 15 weeks tomorrow..and ive felt amazing..its getting me kinda paranoid..like i have alooooooot of energy!! i actually cooked and cleaned today! And i havent vomited in few days...today and yesterday i actually had no nausea.. I'm trying to enjoy this energy spike but im panicking instead lol

I'm 15 weeks and a bit now and have felt soooo much better since Christmas Eve!!! I could still sleep all day long but the utter exhaustion and nausea are gone - for the moment, at least! Enjoy it!!!

 

[No Doubt]

Lol...I wouldn't want Thumper being raised by ky in-laws or my mom either. So this is probably a blessing disguise.

 

[pinkwaters]

Catch it's completely normal, when I started to feel better it went up and down for a while, like No Doubt said I still get tired easily but there is no I want to die nausea and fatigue anymore ;D

The past week I keep waking up doubting that I'm even pregnant, I think it'll sink in again once the kicks start!

I definetly feel better with my new doctor, he gave me his mobile number and was very understanding.

I had a bad case of heart burn 2 nights ago and it scared me because this has been the first time I ever experience a heart burn!! I googled it (which isn't always the best idea) just to make sure the symptoms match. I'm seeing my doctor today for a reccommended remedy, for now I'm binging on milk and it's done the trick of stopping it.

Otherwise, managed to do some shopping yesturday which was great! I still need a few more items but I'll do that Thursday, I've decided today will be a rest and do nothing day after work ;D

Belly is rounding up nicely for me, looks more like a bump now, I saw a friend of mine yesturday and she immedietly noticed that I'm pregnant (phew ... don't just look fat)

 

[Ylanda]

Yay, to the growing bump, mines getting there too!

My hubbs just texted me that the big delivery of baby stuff we ordered has arrived at home - I can't wait to finish work and get home to go awwwww at all the teeny weeny baby things!!!