June 2013 first time bump buddies wanted

[Ylanda]

Shut me up if I sound too much like a lecturer but in labour, your bodies triggers the most amazingly coordinated hormonal response. Oxytocin is the labour hormone and it's also the love/relaxation/safety/comfort hormone. The more relaxed, safe, comfortable you feel with your loved ones around the more optimal the production of oxytocin is. Its biggest enemy is adrenaline - the stress hormone which also obstructs the release of endorphins, your body's natural painkillers... You can guess where I'm going. Apparently, each women's body is set up to create a labour experience that that individual woman can handle - so it'll be painful but if you let your body do it's thing, YOU CAN DO IT!!!

 

[No Doubt]

I didn't know that's how it all worked, but I figured my body is equipped to handle it. Plenty of women have babies everyday naturally. One of the reasons I plan on having my music. It relaxes me. Also one of the reasons I don't want a bunch of people around. I don't like having crowds around when all the focus is on me like that. It freaks me out and makes me nervous. I know hubbs is gonna constantly ask how I'm doing and if I'm ok and if I need anything and blah blah blah, but I'm just gonna have to tell him to shut up, lol. He means well, but I know myself and during that time it will just be too much.

 

[AsEn11]

2 days until my 3d scan..eek so excited!! and 8 weeks left today!!
Ladies we all get to meet our babies soon!!

As far as labor I am still on the fence..but I think no paln is the best plan that way your not let down So i will go in and if I cant take the pain then I will get some drugs if ineed a c-section then I will go with twhat the doctors tell me..whatever happens happens I think everything will be ok

 

[No Doubt]

Got the walker put together and the all in one day to night sleeper all put together. I can't believe they got here this fast, I just ordered them yesterday. I LOVE the sleeper cause it'a a pack n play that turns into a portable bassinet (this part will stay upstairs in our bedroom), but you can also set the the basket part of the bassinet in the pack n play (after you insert the top part...real easy, just snaps on), but on that part is also a storage space and a rotating changing station. Wonderful for traveling with a little one! The rest of it will stay downstairs which will save us from running up and down the stairs all day if Virtue needs to sleep, be changed, etc. We'll just switch the basket out between the bassinet and the pack n play.

Had my physical today and my doc said that everything is going great. He was a bit surprised cause it seems like everything I was struggling with before has gotten better with pregnancy. I have to say I really didn't notice until today. Heartburn, my thyroid, whatever...it's all doing great and I haven't had any issues. The last time I had heartburn was a few days before I found out I was pregnant. Before I used to have it a few times a week and had to take zantac for it. Weird what pregnancy will do for you. Tomorrow is my appt with the OB so it's time to write down my new list of questions, lol.

 

[CatchBabyDust]

Note: sorry this is a bit long lol

Everytime anyone asks me about labor i'm like "no plans just going with the flow" if i can have a natural birth, i will..if i need a c section, i will... If epidural is available, i'll take it ..i feel like i'm not thinking enough about labor.. I'm still taking the week by week plan..which is wrong at this point..i have to go a bit further.. So far i just know where i'm giving birth...and thats it.. I kinda mentally skipped the birth plan..and went to worrying about how i'll take care of a new born.. I'm getting a bit panicky and doubting my skills..but i will have help by my side the first few weeks..so thats reassuring..

My body has been itchy for over a week..i panicked yesterday when i read about Cholestatesis of pregnancy.... i did some tests but the main one wasnt available.. but the rest were negative which i guess was good enough.. Anybody else started itching more in third trimester??

Caught a cold yesterday ..so boohoo to that..any tips on relieving it asap??

Also, how is ur baby movements after 30 weeks..i feel though as they are stronger but less which i read is expected?

Other than that, 9 weeks or less left for most of us! hopefully healthy for the rest of our pregnancies and after with healthy babies!

 

[No Doubt]

So I had my appt with my ob today and everything is good. Unfortunately what I expected is so. MY FEET ARE SWEELING!!! I thought they might be when the shoes I was wearing made my pinky toe feel like they were slammed in a door. He confirmed that they were alittle swollen, but he said they weren't too bad.

I also asked when they do cervical checks and he said not until a week or two before my due date...really, that seems kind of late, but whatever. Besides with all the ttc I've done, I've been poked and prodded enough, lol.

Lastly the big question...circumcision. I just don't know what to do. Hubbs wants to and I don't. I'm scared it will hurt him. He said obviously he doesn't remember his, and that now they use local anesthetic so it doesn't hurt "as bad". Plus I'm terrified he'll be butchered. The doctor that delivers is the one that does the circumcision...that doesn't make me feel better. Shouldn't a "surgeon" be doing that?

 

[No Doubt]

Note: sorry this is a bit long lol

Everytime anyone asks me about labor i'm like "no plans just going with the flow" if i can have a natural birth, i will..if i need a c section, i will... If epidural is available, i'll take it ..i feel like i'm not thinking enough about labor.. I'm still taking the week by week plan..which is wrong at this point..i have to go a bit further.. So far i just know where i'm giving birth...and thats it.. I kinda mentally skipped the birth plan..and went to worrying about how i'll take care of a new born.. I'm getting a bit panicky and doubting my skills..but i will have help by my side the first few weeks..so thats reassuring..

My body has been itchy for over a week..i panicked yesterday when i read about Cholestatesis of pregnancy.... i did some tests but the main one wasnt available.. but the rest were negative which i guess was good enough.. Anybody else started itching more in third trimester??

Caught a cold yesterday ..so boohoo to that..any tips on relieving it asap??

Also, how is ur baby movements after 30 weeks..i feel though as they are stronger but less which i read is expected?

Other than that, 9 weeks or less left for most of us! hopefully healthy for the rest of our pregnancies and after with healthy babies!

Haven't been too itchy...my skin is stretched from when I was heavier...but I do have one spot under the skin that's been itchy. Really didn't think I could stretch anymore, lol. I hear it's normal though so I wouldn't worry about it.

A girl on another thred I visit did some research and found that 32 weeks is the peak week for movement and after that it's not as much simply because they don't have as much room to move around in.

Nothing I can say about the cold, other than to rest. I sprayed lysol like crazy both times hubbs was sick and all through out the winter at my job. My co-workers were asking me to spray it, lol. I also have a glass of OJ every morning and if I feel like I'm getting a bit more drainy in my nose or flemmy in my through I double it and eat some oragnes. Haven't been sick all pregnancy thank God. So I would say rest and OJ intake.

As far not thinking a lot about the birth, I think I've thought about it a teansy bit more than you, but honestly I haven't given it that much thought either. If it's freaking you out you could take a birth a class. I've been trying to avoid thinking about though as I don't want to freak myself out...which will totally happen cause that's how my simple mind works, lol. But I pretty much plan on listening to the doctor and doing what he says. Of course I want to try different birth positions and the tub, but all of that will pretty much be winging it depending on how I'm feeling and what I can take. People write down birth plans, but very few of them are lucky enough to have it happen the way they want it. Plus I don't want that to happen to me and get upset when things go screwy. So honestly I don't think you not thinking about is all that bad. I think a lot of people just tend to go with the flow these days.

 

[Ylanda]

I think a "go with the flow" approach is absolutely fine - I definitely err on the side of overthinking. Women who don't have a plan or haven't done much reading sometimes are the ones that get into a sprial of interventions (once you are in hospital you're more likely to get a drip once the drip is in it's much easier to administer drugs, once you're down the "drugs" road it's more likely you'll have an epi, assisted deliveries are more likely with epi etc.) which some women regret afterwards. However, if you are aware that this might happen and are fine with it, then there's nothing wrong with going with the flow.

Re circumcision: What are your hubby's reasons for wanting to get LO done?

 

[No Doubt]

He wants one because it's the "norm" and because of medical reasons, but he of course doesn't know what any of those medical reasons are. I know there are medical reasons for it from the viewpoint of things that could possibly happen, but he can't even list them. Ots more because it's just what's done and that's not good enough for me. After doing research and talking to the doctor I will say I'm more on the fence but I'm not sold on it.

 

[pinkwaters]

Catch I've felt like the movements are getting stronger too, hard kicks and pokes! Hope your cold is better ! Up on the warm fluids and hearty soups!

No doubt I've decided on circumcision as well, both me and hubby want that, hubby is circumcised too. They won't do it straight away though! And I'd feel better if done by a surgeon myself!

I'm pretty sure some1 had a 3D scan coming up? Ashley? Excuse my baby sleepless brain haha and how'd if go?

I have an apt in 6 hours, piling up on the questions this time ...

3 more weeks to 36 weeks!!! Can't even force myself to consider that I might go beyond 40 ( like mum and my sister) hoping for a healthy delivery by 37-38 at least it'll ease the wait... I hope haha

 

[pinkwaters]

Just got back from my appointment
Very upset - the doctor is still blaming me for baby weight and my ivf doctor told me that ivf babies are bigger! I tell him that and he starts attacking my eating habits and when j explain that I'm 100% sure I know what in eating he says your probably not being entirely honest!
Baby is currently 2.5kg ... Should be 2 max!
He said he predicts a c sect if baby reaches 4.2kg urgh I just feel lost and by now have changed doctors a few times don't know what to do
He asked me to diet now! I can't eat from heart burn and lack of sleep and he thinks I should diet! I'm just mad!

 

[No Doubt]

Gosh pink I'm sorry. I know it doesn't help when you have a medical professional in your face like that. But your mom was the same way when pregnant wasn't she? Thought you said that before...so honestly I wouldn't worry about it. And he tried to do a cs get someone else. So many people get those unnecessarily these days. You can always ask for a second opinion, even in labor. I work with a guy who was about 11lbs when he was born and his mom had him naturally, no keds, no nothing, so it can be done.

I'd still look for another doctor too, even at this stage. You have to be comfortable with your doctor, especially when you're talking about a baby and delivery. What a jerk!

FYI, I did have w 3d scan scheduled for beginning of April but canceled it.

 

[pinkwaters]

I kept telling him my mother was the same and he ignores it!!
I took a long nap and searching for doctors online now to get a second opinion
Just not happy with him
Thanks no doubt!

 

[Ylanda]

Aw, pink!!! That sucks big time! What a knobhead! Totally agree with No doubt - go and get someone else! I have recently heard of one momma who had a 12lbs (over 6kg) at home - it definitely can be done! And it's so not fair he is attacking your eating habits like that - especially as there's nothing wrong with them!

I know it's not nice to think that way but just remember that they can't force a CS on you - if you decide to attempt a vaginal birth then that's your decision. You know your body, your family history, and your baby - he is just a jerk reading numbers off a chart!

Feel hugged!

 

[AsEn11]

I was 10lbs 7oz and my mom had me all natural so I wouldnt listen just be conserned if he is forcing you into a CS that is crap.

 

[No Doubt]

I watched a youtube clip of a woman giving birth vaginally to a breach baby, so heavier baby doesn't even compare to feet first. I don't like when doctors start talking about cs before things even get started. That's a huge red flag for me. I have a fibroid that may result in a cs if it blocks the birth canal, but not one of the physicians at my practice has jumped to that conclusion. They've just told me if it get too big and is in the way the cs may be the only way, but they all said they'll wait til I'm in labor and have a look and see what's what. I don't think weight should be a driving factor in whether or not a cs is done, though I know a lot of places here in the states won't do a vaginal delivery if the baby is over 10lbs anymore. Still just remember the choice is definitely yours and if he delivers your baby and keeps pushing for a cs, kick him out and get someone else in there that will listen to you. Do whatever you have to to get your point across and have the type of delivery you want as long as it doesn't harm the baby.

 

[pinkwaters]

Thanks Ashley & Ylanda!
I'm seeing an older doctor tomorrow, he was my aunts doctor and she had 4 & 4.5kg babies so I'm hoping he's still the same !!
Like you said I simply didn't like the way he was pushing me towards a c sect, and mocking us when we said well wed rather try the natural way!
If I pop earlier than 40 weeks the baby won't even reach 4kg so I'm just not comfortable staying with him.

Feeling much better today in general so I shook him off and all his negativity!

How are you all doing?
6 weeks no doubt! Ur leading so far! Super exciting!!

 

[pinkwaters]

I hope the fibroid doesn't get in the way but as long as your doctor is understanding and is giving you the chance, whatever happens a healthy baby and happy mommy is all that matters ❤

 

[No Doubt]

Agreed. That's what I say.

So far so good. Just uncomfortable, but that's to be expected at this stage in the game. Just want a little bit of my time back too. I've been so busy it seems every weekend and even some evenings with the last minute things for Virtue. But I got my overnight bag packed this past weekend and got the rest of the stuff from the registry last week, so all I really need to do is get the carseat in the car and I can rest. Slowly but surely I'm weeding through the pile of stuff in my foyer that we picked up last week, but as stuff is delivered I'm doing a good job of putting it together and away where it will be.

 

[pinkwaters]

That's great no doubt! I still have bits and pieces to get done but I'm doing them as slow as possible by now to keep myself busy!
I've been meaning to re organize my room soon too, get rid of anything we stopped using or don't need etc, fresh start to things!!

We started this group with no idea what were expecting out of this journey and here we are at the final stretch! Just wanted to thank you all for being apart of my experience and being such a great help!! I'm sure well all pull through great!