June Bundles of Joy - 2016

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Is anyone that is having their second child feeling a little emotional about it. I keep flitting between thoughts of "I'm looking forward to my son having a sibling" to "how can I possibly love another human being as much as I love my son". I know it is probably normal and I know that I WILL love it as much, but it is all just a bit weird at the minute.
 
joeybrooks said:
Is anyone that is having their second child feeling a little emotional about it. I keep flitting between thoughts of "I'm looking forward to my son having a sibling" to "how can I possibly love another human being as much as I love my son". I know it is probably normal and I know that I WILL love it as much, but it is all just a bit weird at the minute.
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Yup I keep feeling like I won't be able to give my son all the attention he gets now and I feel sad about it and then of course I cry because I cry about everything nowadays
 
I'm finding it so weird that I will have another baby different to my son, especially since he will start school so I will be staying at home with the new baby. I just can't picture it! Im really wondering so much more this time what they will look like, especially if it is another boy.
 
Definitely feeling what you ladies are! Time is DRAGGINGGGGGG and that is disappointing because I truly thought it would move faster 2nd time around.

Have I really known for less than 2 weeks?!?!

Also...the reason I have waited almost 3 years to TTC is my anxiety over what will happen to my relationship with DS. We have a very close bond and spend soooo much 1:1 time, it makes me pretty sad to think about losing that. For him and for me. Obviously the pros have outweighed the cons as we decided we DO want a second, but still. It is a challenging part of this transition for sure.
 
You ladies make me feel so much better knowing I am not alone. I have been wanting to post for days about how I have been feeling guilty about getting pregnant again and not being able to spend as much time with DS. My emotions have been up and down every day ranging from feeling guilty to being really excited and then guilty again. This is a planned pregnancy and we really wanted it but there are moments I go "oh my goodness what did we do?!"
 
I agree also .. I've always wanted a sibling for my son I wish I could of gave him one earlier so he had not a big age gap in reality .. but oh well .. he's a bit older now he will be nearly 6 and a half when baby's due he's already started being a little different cuddling more etc he's never been that much of a cuddly child tbh but he's excited as well he just wants a brother :haha:

But I do feel he's everything to me and I wish I only had him a lot but then I know I'll love them both the same and I'd hope DS feelt included and could help me out here and there and even be a role model to his brother/sister
 
I'm on baby number three now, and I had the same fears when I was pregnant with Zach.mindid feel a bit guilty when he was born, but it lasted for only a tiny while.
The bond my kids have is amazing, and that's why we went for number three, I promise, you will love this baby as much as your first :)
 
Gaia omg I feel totally the same. That special bond I have with dd. But that's also why we told her right off so she's used to the idea before baby gets here. Going to involve her as much as I can :)
 
SecondNote said:
[/LIST]6399979]This is a planned pregnancy and we really wanted it but there are moments I go "oh my goodness what did we do?!"
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I thought the exact same this morning! I,m usually pretty excited, we tried for a year for this baby and suffered a loss, but i woke up this morning in a bit of a panic and worried if we'd made a mistake! Bloody hormones! When we brought DD home from hospital I remember the hormones taking over and I seriously suggested to OH we should have her adopted :wacko: Thank goodness he looked at me like I was crazy.
 
It's going so slowly :(

In more depressing news, i saw a lady today who is 28 weeks pregnant with #2 and she looks the same size as I am at 6 weeks! She was absolutely tiny. why am i showing so much and is my baby going to be a giant???
 
Glad I posted that now, its nice to know I'm not alone. My son is my whole world and it almost feels as though I'm cheating on him or feel that he is not enough in some way. We too deliberated on whether or not to have another but a big factor in that was that we wanted him to have a sibling. Its just so hard especially at an already emotional time.
 
I am SO nervous to have two kids. The thought of it actually happening just hit me today and I'm panicking. We just got our daughter into a good routine a few months back and now I feel like it's going to be so hectic when baby #2 is here. She will be 21 months when her baby brother/sister is here so she'll be a bit older but I'm nervous that all this new transitioning is going to throw her off.
I'm starting to panic and wonder if we tried too soon for another? But I've always wanted kids closer in age.

UGH. Hormones are making me overthink everything
 
I hope everyone's having a good week, it's half term here so we're spending the week with family - I normally have lots of wine and it's getting harder to not seem suspicious every time I'm offered! :dohh: still terrified of every cramp!
 
I'm feeling more guilty about not being a good mum right now than about when the baby is here. I know Micah will love having a sibling, but right now I'm too sick to do anything with him and he's watched more TV in the last few weeks than in the rest of his life put together! And he's definitely worried about me being so poorly, it's affecting his behaviour and making things doubly hard. :(
 
I honestly never worried about it. There is a six year age gap though so I think that makes it very different. My only child was already at school all day. He loves having a brother. My youngest misses him like mad whilst he is at school.
 
ashleyg said:
I am SO nervous to have two kids. The thought of it actually happening just hit me today and I'm panicking. We just got our daughter into a good routine a few months back and now I feel like it's going to be so hectic when baby #2 is here. She will be 21 months when her baby brother/sister is here so she'll be a bit older but I'm nervous that all this new transitioning is going to throw her off.
I'm starting to panic and wonder if we tried too soon for another? But I've always wanted kids closer in age.

UGH. Hormones are making me overthink everything
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I went through this a LOT with #2, I think I had antenatal anxiety over it, I would wake in the night panicking how on earth I would deal with a brand new baby in a Moses basket needing me every second when my 18 month old was just next door too. Although it was stressful feeling like that when pregnant, it made it seem so easy when he was actually born, it was so much easier than I had imagined it would be. You'll be fine but you probably won't realise that until the baby is here! Don't worry it's a completely normal feeling

Angel - I'm so sorry you're still feeling rough, go back to the GP and ask if there's anything else you can have x
 
My son is worrying about me being sick too. I was over the sink the other day retching and he was petting me asking me if I was ok. When I got up and my eyes were watering, he asked me if I was crying!! Felt so sorry for him.

I am just feeling so sick!! I woke this morning and panicked because I actually felt ok, and then bam, it came back again. It is just constant nausea and retching. Some dirtbird in work left a blue molded cup of tea on top of the fridge and that set me off!!!
 
i felt nervous about dealing with 2 when pregnant with number two but honestly number one doesn't remember not having siblings theres 21 months between 1&2 and 2&3, 3&4, 17 months between 4&5 and will be just 15 months between 5&6, they are lost when they are seperated from their siblings they thrive on each others company and I have regained some time to do some things because the older ones help occupy the younger ones so I can slip out of the room and go do laundry or cook or clean.
of course they have their moments where we are all going stir crazy because they are tired or grumpy but they love each other so much I love them all equally and we make the quality time we spend with each of them 1:1 so much more special because it happens less often.
 
Hi! Just popping my head in here! By my estimation I'm due somewhere between 28th May and 1st June! My date guesses are usually out by at least 4 or 5 days, even when I was quite confident of them with my 2nd! This is my 3rd baby, I already have 2 little girls, and I'm hoping for a boy this time, especially as this is likely to be my last baby for a long while at least! I've popped my head round the door of the May group too but there are some in there who are going for sexing scans before I have my dating one so it all feels a bit weird!
Beca
 
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