June Bundles of Joy - 2016

[ehjmorris]

Congrats boosted!

20 week scan at 12, really nervous and crossing my fingers all is good. On the plus side I can now feel movement, there was a lot last night and it all seems to have come from nowhere as only a few days ago I was yet to feel anything.

Thats fantastic news that you can feel movement now, its the best part
Let us know how ur scan goes and add a pic

 

[Tinky_82]

Huge congratulations on team pink boosted - hope you had a lovely time at the reveal.
Yay for movement Tink - I hope the scan goes well.

 

[vaniilla]

Congratulations on team pink boosted!


Yay for feeling movements tink!

I keep waking in the night with both of my arms numb, and I'm sure my bad dreams are due to worrying about the baby.

All of our newborn nappies are here , here is our stash

https://s10.postimg.org/nqsqvfth5/IMG_0817.jpg
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https://s10.postimg.org/6ozwtcem1/IMG_0821.jpg

 

[Becyboo__x]

I'm feeling more and more all the time really hard kicks! Or punches
Having vivid dreams too but it's about random people

Not having a great time atm .. Think I'm stressed unless its still on/off sickness not sure .. or a mixture.. I can't eat breakfast I know that but stress is to do with relationship.. few might have seen but we basically was on the bridge of separating due to me getting fed up of laziness and feeling like I was looking after a teenager not having a partner. I decided to give it a chance because I don't need added stress of sorting myself out financially etc and I didn't want to be a single parent again .. but it's escalated a lot my feelings have gone and I'm literally sleeping in a different room to OH now we haven't spoke in about 2 days now either. And I'm sick of hearing off a lot of people "it's likly just hormones" it might be that but I physically am fed up I feel like I'm on my own anyway I do everything like I'm alone but anyway I dont know what's going to happen but it will go one way or another I guess.

 

[Tinky_82]

Sorry your relationship is no better Becyboo. Does he just make no effort?
I had a horrible nightmare the night before last - really freaked me out as it combined two of my worst phobias - confined spaces and spiders!

 

[vaniilla]

Beccy - Have you spoken to him properly about it yet? sometimes it helps to be objective - write up a list of the most important things you want to happen ASAP as it can be easier to face a problem when there is a specific goal - i.e him to do a specific activity or chore, work on an issue he has and see where you go. I'm sorry to hear that things aren't resolving themselves, I know you don't want to be in the situation where you're having to give him an ultimatum but if things aren't improving then something needs to be done. What does he say about it all? does it seem as if he genuinely wants to work on things and change?

 

[Squig34]

Congratulations on boosted! Great pics

Good luck Tinkerbelle!

Vaniilla those nappies are so cute! Where did you get them? I take it they are all washable & reusable? I'm going to use disposables for the first couple of weeks til that stump of the umbilical cord falls off (on advice from other mums!) but I'm keen to be more environmentally friendly (not to mention hopefully saving money) after that! Do you just soak the nappies in a bucket (of what?) & then just machine wash as with the old terrycloth nappies?

 

[vaniilla]

They're a combination of second hand and brand new, we did cloth nappies with DS but they're not suitable till baby is a few months old.

Nope - no soaking, this actually damages most modern cloth nappies - you can store them in a bucket or as most do these days in a wet bag - having two wet bags makes it easier as you can just unzip it and stick the whole wet bag in the washing machine without needing to touch dirty nappies.

Most people will do an extra rinse before washing so that they have more water in the drum and it still works out better - I've read you need to wash a cloth nappy 120 times to use the same amount of energy to produce 1 disposable.

https://s16.postimg.org/5appygc3l/grovia_suds.jpg?noCache=1453722343 - this is the advice I follow as online you'll see people telling you a million things and recommend you add various things but this keeps it simple.

 

[Squig34]

Wow that's some difference in energy use! So I could just Google 'cloth nappies' & find websites or are those different from cloth nappies? Do they come with instructions?

 

[Becyboo__x]

Sorry your relationship is no better Becyboo. Does he just make no effort?
I had a horrible nightmare the night before last - really freaked me out as it combined two of my worst phobias - confined spaces and spiders!

The first problem was which I knew from the start he's a gamer .. which I have no problem with but because before we only partly lived together due to him working unsocialble hours etc it never bothered me.. now he's only working part time after losing his job just after moving.. he's on ps4 more I spoke to him about it and he agreed he would help more and not sit on it all day etc .. but it just turned to feeling nothing anymore I don't even like being around him it's awful but I just see in the future we won't be together .. its just me doing everything like I do normal housework anyway but he got a dog in December which he does nothing for its me cleaning after her walking her literally everything .. which I'll do but it's a shared commitment etc. It's me expected to make meals everyday make sure we have food in*do all washing and drying. We've already spoke about it all and things are just not getting any better

Beccy - Have you spoken to him properly about it yet? sometimes it helps to be objective - write up a list of the most important things you want to happen ASAP as it can be easier to face a problem when there is a specific goal - i.e him to do a specific activity or chore, work on an issue he has and see where you go. I'm sorry to hear that things aren't resolving themselves, I know you don't want to be in the situation where you're having to give him an ultimatum but if things aren't improving then something needs to be done. What does he say about it all? does it seem as if he genuinely wants to work on things and change?

I just don't want to have to ask for everything I noticed as well when I do ask simple things like can you wash the pots for example he moans and its not worth it in the end I asked him to quickly make my son some dinner (tuna pasta) he complained about doing that I ended up washing the pots because it just wasn't worth it to hear moaning about a small thing.. seems petty but I see him as lazy and he's admitted he is but I'm not looking after a grown man I see people as equal both do bits I'll do more obviously but I just feel he's selfish and I'm getting took for granted.I'm not happy I feel really miserable tbh he wants things to work because he don't want to be a part time dad again as he says his ex left him because he was lazy same reasons I'm having.. we've spoke about that and nothing changes you'd think he would realise if 1 person left me because of that if I stay like it it's going to happen again?!=
.. I really don't know it's at a point now where I just give up just trying continue with what I do everyday

 

[Dory85]

After a horrible dream last night where I miscarried at 19 weeks we had a wonderful scan with no obvious problems and baby girl hasn't grown a willy!

 

[vaniilla]

Wow that's some difference in energy use! So I could just Google 'cloth nappies' & find websites or are those different from cloth nappies? Do they come with instructions?

You can find them for sale everywhere - facebook, nappy selling sites, ebay and sometimes on sites like preloved. They should come with instructions, you get used to it quite quickly though as they're very straight forward.

Sorry your relationship is no better Becyboo. Does he just make no effort?
I had a horrible nightmare the night before last - really freaked me out as it combined two of my worst phobias - confined spaces and spiders!

The first problem was which I knew from the start he's a gamer .. which I have no problem with but because before we only partly lived together due to him working unsocialble hours etc it never bothered me.. now he's only working part time after losing his job just after moving.. he's on ps4 more I spoke to him about it and he agreed he would help more and not sit on it all day etc .. but it just turned to feeling nothing anymore I don't even like being around him it's awful but I just see in the future we won't be together .. its just me doing everything like I do normal housework anyway but he got a dog in December which he does nothing for its me cleaning after her walking her literally everything .. which I'll do but it's a shared commitment etc. It's me expected to make meals everyday make sure we have food in*do all washing and drying. We've already spoke about it all and things are just not getting any better

Beccy - Have you spoken to him properly about it yet? sometimes it helps to be objective - write up a list of the most important things you want to happen ASAP as it can be easier to face a problem when there is a specific goal - i.e him to do a specific activity or chore, work on an issue he has and see where you go. I'm sorry to hear that things aren't resolving themselves, I know you don't want to be in the situation where you're having to give him an ultimatum but if things aren't improving then something needs to be done. What does he say about it all? does it seem as if he genuinely wants to work on things and change?

I just don't want to have to ask for everything I noticed as well when I do ask simple things like can you wash the pots for example he moans and its not worth it in the end I asked him to quickly make my son some dinner (tuna pasta) he complained about doing that I ended up washing the pots because it just wasn't worth it to hear moaning about a small thing.. seems petty but I see him as lazy and he's admitted he is but I'm not looking after a grown man I see people as equal both do bits I'll do more obviously but I just feel he's selfish and I'm getting took for granted.I'm not happy I feel really miserable tbh he wants things to work because he don't want to be a part time dad again as he says his ex left him because he was lazy same reasons I'm having.. we've spoke about that and nothing changes you'd think he would realise if 1 person left me because of that if I stay like it it's going to happen again?!=
.. I really don't know it's at a point now where I just give up just trying continue with what I do everyday

I hate to say but he needs a kick up the backside, all I can see (as an outsider) is him shirking all responsibility, saying I know this is my flaw, but I have no intention of doing anything about it. I would talk to him again but make it clear that it's really not acceptable that a) he's not taking initiative to do things around the house and b) moaning like a teenager when prompted. It really is not good enough for him to say he doesn't want the relationship to end because it's placing all responsibility on you again - it shouldn't be a case of leave him or put up with it, if he wants it to work he needs to pull his weight.

You're his partner not his mother, he needs to treat you much better than this, I'm not sure what to suggest without sound horrible or harsh but the reality is you're putting up with all the housework, childcare and stress of making the relationship work while he just moans and shrugs like he has no control over how he behaves. Does he know how close you've come to leaving him before? maybe a part of him thinks things will calm down and you'll forget about it.

 

[Starlight32]

I'm a bit concerned about my butt cheek....

Since getting pregnant, I've noticed sometimes my butt check with twitch/spasm for a second. (Was not paying attention to right or left cheek). Yesterday morning, one of my cheeks (don't know which one) was at a constant spasm in the morning while laying in bed, still didn't think much of it. It must have went away upon getting out of bed.

Since since last going to bed, my left butt check has been twitching. It's constant. It was hard to sleep. I just woke up and it's still twitching, even after showering and walking around (I notice it while I'm sitting). Has anyone had something like this?

 

[mommyxofxone]

Starlight- sorry hun i don't know anything about twitching butt cheeks, but, my eye twitches sometimes lol!

Boosted- i can't believe it another girl!!! congrats hun!!!!!

Geralyn- my friend named her daughter Juliet Love. I simply adore it! what a sweet girl she is too!!


Vanilla- question for you. my friend was doing cloth diapers and she said she had them in the wet bag and they actually had maggots in there. Let me just say that turned me off to that possibility of ever happening in this house. what could she have done wrong? She only had one wet bag too.

Dory- so glad you still have a girl



afm nothing to report. just hanging out! can't believe i'll be half way this saturday.

 

[vaniilla]

I have never,ever heard of maggots in nappies! I've been around cloth nappies for a while because me and my sister were cloth nappied (disposables only became popular back home once I was potty trained.) and I've never come across of issues like this. There are a few possibilities - it may have been too long between washes, or a fly could have gotten in the bag and laid eggs. Using liners and flushing away poop and washing often is a good way of preventing this - especially during warmer weather, and 2 wet bags because you'll want to wash it every time you wash your nappies to keep it clean.

https://www.fluffloveuniversity.com...g-with-mold-mildew-and-bugs-in-cloth-diapers/ covers the issue

 

[mommyxofxone]

after all that, dh said no way in hell to cloth nappies lol

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

I'm using cloth this time can't wait!

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Scan went great, so relieved! Baby is so active so it took the woman a while to get all the measurements etc.

It was also the 1st time I'd been to the hospital (we chose to transfer my care to a further hospital) and I like it, it's smaller and seems more personal and less clinical than the one I gave birth to DS at.

I also had to give DS's weight and gestation at birth and it came up with him as being a smaller than expected baby and they've prescribed me aspirin to take daily as well as booking 3 more growth scans from 28 weeks and a consultant appointment. This surprised me as nothing was even mentioned about my son being too small or anything to do with this pregnancy when I was under care at the previous place, but the hospital explained that other places sometimes don't do this.

We were good and didn't find out the gender! We had to look away when she was scanning the leg area. DH is convinced later on in the scan he saw something that looked like a willy, but then said maybe it was the cord

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Glad the scan went well i dno how you can be so patient! but good on you !
I have never heard of that either!

 

[Lil_Pixie]

Tink so glad the scan went well! How strange about the growth only being mentioned at this new hospital, how big was your son? It sounds like they're taking good care of you!

I've got some sort of growth chart thingie because Xander was larger than average but I don't think I get any scans. Wish I would - it'd make the vbac/elc issue much clearer!

Has anyone felt any movement when they're travelling. I've felt some movement a few times on the bus but dismissed it because I didn't think I'd feel anything with the motion of the bus, but this afternoon I felt probably 6 or 7 really distinct whacks to the bladder. I can't think of anything else it could have been an getting a drop kick to the bladder is very noticeable/unconfortable. It wasn't subtle at all!