June Bundles of Joy - 2016

[Rhi_Rhi1]

My hospital doesn't even offer tours anymore. You have to take an online tour and it's a total Crock of shit lol. It just shows you the new part that has two rooms in it. When in reality it's a dump lol. No ensuite anything. They couldn't even provide me with a working fan last time and when I asked for a hot water bottle for my labour pains they had to soak warm towels.... Crazy ?

THe new part (it's only two rooms)though has water rooms and en ensuites. I have never seen it. It's always been occupied by someone having a 13 hour labour and probably not even using the pool. Everyone around here knows u ask for the pool rooms to get the better facilities haha. So this time I'm staying home. Least I have a hot water bottle my god I sound bitter lol.

 

[Tinky_82]

You can't have tours round mine either and I don't think there's anything online. No en suites either - oh the joys of the frequent walks down the corridor to pee!!! they've just developed a midwife led unit so maybe that has ensuite. I'd like a water birth this time but haven't done much research.

 

[wishuwerehere]

That's rubbish that lots of hospitals aren't offering tours now - ours does although we're planning another homebirth. I guess it's a budget thing?

 

[Lil_Pixie]

All of the delivery rooms have an ensuite wet room at my hospital. Plus there's a bath in the delivery rooms. There's one birthing pool in the delivery suite and one on the birthing suite. The birthing suite is amazing. It has a double bed that folds down from the wall so partners can stay the night . . . If I'm honest it makes me really angry that women who have a low risk pregnancy and straightforward birth can have their partners stay with them, but women who have had sections or traumatic births are left on their own.

 

[Tinky_82]

My poor dh had to make do with cushions from a chair as I laboured over night - the midwifes were lovely though.

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Must be a fairly new unit then pixie? The room I gave birth in had signs on the wall "warning asbestos" obviously it's safe if left alone but not exactly cosy ya know. Haha. It's tough though really cos they can't exactly tear it down and have no maternity facilities whilst they rebuild. They are massively outdated across the country though it would seem.

I Agree there needs to be facilities in all hospitals for all partners to be able to stay

 

[Lil_Pixie]

Yea I suppose it must be. One of the bigger local maternity units closed when I was pregnant with Xander. Now we just have bolton (where I'll go) and St Marys in manchester which is like a new super centre. Bolton is fairly small so appointments tend to run on time etc. The wards aren't so good though. The room I was in when I had the last mc didn't have a loo and I was so unconfortable running down the corridor to the toilet every 5 mins.

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Yea I suppose it must be. One of the bigger local maternity units closed when I was pregnant with Xander. Now we just have bolton (where I'll go) and St Marys in manchester which is like a new super centre. Bolton is fairly small so appointments tend to run on time etc. The wards aren't so good though. The room I was in when I had the last mc didn't have a loo and I was so unconfortable running down the corridor to the toilet every 5 mins.

Yeah that's miserable just outdated facilities. I honestly wish there was more of a contribution system for the NHS, I know that's a slippery slope though. I mean like voluntary, as in I would happily pay to see my gp if the fee was reasonable, but yeah slippery slope. I wonder if it would help though.

 

[vaniilla]

I have no idea what the RUH (Bath) is like but I'm hoping not be spending too much time in hospital if I can help it, on their site it says on the maternity ward they have 8 4-bedded rooms and 7 single rooms (5 with en-suite facilities) so here's hoping if I have to stay overnight it will be in a single!

 

[GeralynB]

The hospital we're using has a new maternity ward. Everyone gets private rooms and there is an extra bed for DH. There are no birthing pools though. I really wish there were. Last time I got into the shower during labor there and that really helped

 

[Boo44]

I had my first negative comment today about having three boys - a nurse at work was saying to me how she has three (grown up) sons and it's ok until they get older and then it's awful because that saying about a son only being yours until they take a wife is soooo true, and you're always the mother in law being careful what you say and it's just not the same....etc etc. I was just sat there wide eyed thinking is she really saying all this to me?! Rather than upset me it just made me think wow some people really have issues and aren't happy in their lives! My OH is one of three brothers and all of them are really close and very close to their mum. When I told him this evening he just said but that's not everyone, and I would turn to my mum.

So yeah, I'd better get prepared for more comments the same after he's born!!

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

It's clearly other people that have the issue. My husband is really close to his mum, and his sister is really distant. It's not really a gender thing, more a stereotype.

 

[AngelofTroy]

My brother is JUST as close to our mum as I am. He's 25 and took my mum out for a meal 'just because' this week and he rings her every day.

 

[Squig34]

Some people just don't think Boo. My brother lives next door to my mum & although they drive each other mad, they see each other every day (& I should add that he's married, so his wife is over most days too!)

I haven't even though about hospital tours. Maybe I'll take a look online tomorrow sincerely hope they have single ensuite rooms!!!

 

[Starlight32]

I have the hospital tour booked and saw the online tour not too long ago. It looks nice. I'm surprised your husbands can't stay overnight! The hospital has private rooms with a bathroom and a few other things, I can't really remember

 

[Lavochain]

Hi there, I was just wondering if I could join the group, even though I'm late. I was originally in the July group but we found out I'm further along a while back and I haven't been on much since due to house renovations.

Hopefully no one will mind and if so, I'm Emily, 19 from the UK. We are due the 28th and are finding out the sex tomorrow morning!

 

[GeralynB]

Hi there, I was just wondering if I could join the group, even though I'm late. I was originally in the July group but we found out I'm further along a while back and I haven't been on much since due to house renovations.

Hopefully no one will mind and if so, I'm Emily, 19 from the UK. We are due the 28th and are finding out the sex tomorrow morning!

Welcome!

 

[ehjmorris]

Hi there, I was just wondering if I could join the group, even though I'm late. I was originally in the July group but we found out I'm further along a while back and I haven't been on much since due to house renovations.

Hopefully no one will mind and if so, I'm Emily, 19 from the UK. We are due the 28th and are finding out the sex tomorrow morning!

Welcome to the group
Let us know how you go, what time is yours? Mines at 8.30

 

[tinkerbelle93]

The maternity unit I gave birth to ds at was only a year or so old at the time and good facilities (every room with an en suite etc) but I'm going to an older, smaller one this time. It feels more cosy and personal though, the previous one was so big and cold and clinical feeling.

Boo sorry about the negative comments, I would love to be in your shoes with 3 little boys with close age gaps. I hate when people stereotype like that, I know a fair few women who live nowhere near their mothers and aren't close to them at all, it's just an individual person thing.

 

[Tinky_82]

Welcome Lavochain, I hope the scan goes well.
Our anatomy scan is at 2.20 today and if everything is ok we'll find out the sex.