just found out.. my father wont be pleased

[shadowsilk]

is there a way to delete this? I have something more elaborate to talk about about this and i dont wantto keep this thread

 

[shadowsilk]

ps Im married and live on my own with two kids and ahubby

 

[Serene123]

Maybe wait untill you're further on?

 

[shadowsilk]

maybe.. idk.

 

[Samo]

whenever you're ready, just let him know...who knows maybe he will be thrilled, if not, just keep your chin up, he'll probably come around eventually. As long as you and your DH are happy and thrilled, that's what your LO needs

congratulations.

 

[shadowsilk]

hope so. But he always gets mad at me for getting pregnant, it's going to be tough considering this wasn't a planned pregnancy and we used spermicide which obviously was defective.... I do wanna be pregnant and everything just not this early> we havent really um.. gotten some of our finances straightened out yet but we are in the process of it, we missed a cheque for january for some wierd reason and we're trying to get that all figured out I hope it gets figured out soon I'm very worried My father's the type who worries alot too so he'll panic when I sees im pregnant

 

[coccyx]

Why does he get cross? Its your life. You are married and bringing up a child already. I would wait until 3months or so to tell him your news. Good luck

 

[shadowsilk]

Two children. Im going to wait a bit, I dont want to have another miscarriage either.

 

[Snowball]

I'm so sorry he's like that hun. I'm in a simular position. I have 2 kids and am married but haven't told my parents yet about me being pregnant as I'm worried about their reaction. I would try and leave it till you're further on. No matter how much we worry they will understand eventually because they have to. I bet you he'll love his new little grandchild before you know it

 

[shadowsilk]

thats true

 

[coccyx]

Sorry didn't read your last post. I suppose from his perspective he is worried that financially things are tough for you and having another baby is not wise. Know I was worried about telling my mum i was having baby number 4, and I'm married,in my 40's and financially ok, BUT she was ok about it.!! Take care

 

[baby.girl]

ps Im married and live on my own with two kids and ahubby

That's insane that he's unsupportive of you having a family? You're married...that's just horrible to me i'm sorry....

 

[vickilouise]

i was terrified of telling my dad, myself and OH didnt plan for it and we're not married and i got the "i thought you'd have more sense" comment but a day later he was on my laptop with me looking up things for uni... apparetly if i didnt have any dreams of going to uni he'd of been made up straight away.
ive since shown him all the help i can get whilst at uni and hes not so worried anymore.

dads do worry about their daughters... while your dad shouldnt be angry with you he can be worried even your worried about your finances. just sit him down and explain... he should come round.

 

[Ann-Marie]

um... I'm sorry if this sounds harsh... but...

Your married, and have children, and a home. It's your life and your family. He, as your parent should be supportive of you, not disapproving !! I'd wait til 3 months, not for his benefit at all, but so that he can't cause any problems by upsetting you. He will come round eventually, but you shouldn't worry this much about what he thinks.. concentrate on the family that care... your family. Hope it all works out
...and Congratulations on your new bump

 

[shadowsilk]

um... I'm sorry if this sounds harsh... but...

Your married, and have children, and a home. It's your life and your family. He, as your parent should be supportive of you, not disapproving !! I'd wait til 3 months, not for his benefit at all, but so that he can't cause any problems by upsetting you. He will come round eventually, but you shouldn't worry this much about what he thinks.. concentrate on the family that care... your family. Hope it all works out
...and Congratulations on your new bump

Thats how I feel. Today he almost found out. I was going to get my prescription for celexa, and the doctor wouldnt give it to me cuz I am pregnant, and I thought celexa was okay to take while pregnant (anti-depressant). well my dad asked and poked and proded as to why she wouldn't give it to me. Then he asked " you dont suspect your pregnant" my response was " i don't.. suspect. so.... " and that was the end of it.... >.>

 

[avistar]

it is a parents nature to worry about their children, he is just being a dad. He probably worries about you since, like you mentioned, are having financial troubles...I would worry too if my child was in the same situation. On the same note, it is your life, your grown, and an adult. Whatever happens, is your responsibility. I agree with everyone else, tell him when you are further along and he might be disappointed for awhile but once your belly grows and the baby is finally here, he probably wont even remember fussing at you. What is that saying?..."Life happens".... Try not to worry so much. I always look for my parents approval and it is hard when they get disappointed in you, but at the sametime...I am a grown adult and support myself...so they can think whatever they want to, doesn't mean they don't love me or I don't love them. It will work out I am sure

 

[nikky0907]

Why does he get upset?You are a married,grown woman...there is nothing wrong in this...