WhiteGeisha
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FOB will be leaving his job abroad and back here in the UK in 14months' time for good.
I want to die.
I can just imagine the hell I am going to be living from the day he steps foot back on british soil.
He will be making demands left right and centre to take LO off for the day/overnight when by the time he is back she'll have seen him all of 5 times in 2 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He already threatens me with court because I have told him visitation is to be at mine until he has built up a relationship with LO.
He thinks because he is her dad he can do what he likes with her. He fails to realise she is a child not a trophy. He is constantly lying to be and doing things I don't approve of and this is my main concern because I can't trust him to do the right thing by my LO and not take her to his mates who all smoke and drink heavily, have criminal records or are frequently fighting in town after drinking and just generally bad people. Even FOB has a drink drive ban and smokes heavily. He doesn't do drugs atm due to random testing as part of his job but I wouldn't be surprised when he's back he does that with his mates.
I am now dreading the next 14 months as I know it's one month closer to my life becoming (even more of) a living hell than it already is.
His mother is an interferring old hag. I can't stand her. She thinks she knows everything just because she has had 4 children. What she fails to remember is her husband didn't leave her when she got pregnant like her son did. He didn't desert her for her whole pregnancy like her son did. She has rose tinted glasses with him.
Thing is though, that family has money and they will drag this through courts just because they can. Not because it's the right thing.
All I want is for FOB to be a proper dad and realise that she is not a trophy and that she had needs. She doesn't even know him. I have told him nothing will change with his visitation when he is back here for good because he has a lot to prove and needs to stop bullshitting and lying to me and being manipulative. He's not replied and I know exactly what that means. He will have phoned his mum, read her my email and they will be sat there now talking about taking me to court because I won;t let him take her off when he's back.
I've never said never, just not until he can be trusted and right now I wouldn't trust him with a dead goldfish. He is a compulsive liar and I just fear he will take her to his mates, they will all sit there drinking and smoking and he will not pay her any attention or forget to feed her etc or wait until she is screaming and upset. (he has done this before).
I want to die.
I can just imagine the hell I am going to be living from the day he steps foot back on british soil.
He will be making demands left right and centre to take LO off for the day/overnight when by the time he is back she'll have seen him all of 5 times in 2 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He already threatens me with court because I have told him visitation is to be at mine until he has built up a relationship with LO.
He thinks because he is her dad he can do what he likes with her. He fails to realise she is a child not a trophy. He is constantly lying to be and doing things I don't approve of and this is my main concern because I can't trust him to do the right thing by my LO and not take her to his mates who all smoke and drink heavily, have criminal records or are frequently fighting in town after drinking and just generally bad people. Even FOB has a drink drive ban and smokes heavily. He doesn't do drugs atm due to random testing as part of his job but I wouldn't be surprised when he's back he does that with his mates.
I am now dreading the next 14 months as I know it's one month closer to my life becoming (even more of) a living hell than it already is.
His mother is an interferring old hag. I can't stand her. She thinks she knows everything just because she has had 4 children. What she fails to remember is her husband didn't leave her when she got pregnant like her son did. He didn't desert her for her whole pregnancy like her son did. She has rose tinted glasses with him.
Thing is though, that family has money and they will drag this through courts just because they can. Not because it's the right thing.
All I want is for FOB to be a proper dad and realise that she is not a trophy and that she had needs. She doesn't even know him. I have told him nothing will change with his visitation when he is back here for good because he has a lot to prove and needs to stop bullshitting and lying to me and being manipulative. He's not replied and I know exactly what that means. He will have phoned his mum, read her my email and they will be sat there now talking about taking me to court because I won;t let him take her off when he's back.
I've never said never, just not until he can be trusted and right now I wouldn't trust him with a dead goldfish. He is a compulsive liar and I just fear he will take her to his mates, they will all sit there drinking and smoking and he will not pay her any attention or forget to feed her etc or wait until she is screaming and upset. (he has done this before).
.........there is NO WAY a judge will just grant him what he wants after been away that long...it would be traumatic for you and for your lo.....ignore his bull sh*t and carry on with your heead held high! 
you have helped and advised me in the past when iv reached out toi this site..I too have a dragon/cow/interferring HAG as my ex's mam.exectly the same like..think the sun shines out of his a$$!! and that im in the wrong....but we,are the ones sitting at home been responsible,caring,and loving to our precious lil angels and doin the best to manage alone.........
