We didn't have our baby's funeral until almost 2 weeks after I had him, as it took a while for him to be returned to the hospital from where the post mortem was done, and then we wanted the same chaplain to do the service who we had met in the hospital on delivery day but he was off for a week. It seemed a long gap at the time, but gave us lots o time to prepare ourselves and be strong enough to deal with it. Only myself and my husband went to the funeral. I felt a bit bad for excluding our family and friends, but thought it would upset me more having other people there and seeing them crying for us and for the baby. It felt right for us just having the two of us there. You just have to decide what is right for you and I'm sure no-one will question your decision or hold it against you.