saysib
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Our background is that we have an almost 5 year old daughter who was concieved 1st try. I love her to bits and feel so blessed to have her.
We started TTC just after her 2nd birthday and after 2 losses finally fell PG again in May this year. I am beyond thrilled to be pregnant, baby appears to be perfect and until yesterday I felt like I'd finally let go of my anxiety and stress and was able to bond with the baby.
Yesterday we had our 20 week scan and we discovered we are having a little boy. I always wanted one of each but as time went on in our TTC journey I thought it would be so much better for my daughter to have a sister because of the large age gap and I had my heart set on a 2nd daughter. My eldest was so excited about a baby that she doesnt seem to be bothered that its a brother so I dont know why its hit me so hard. I feel almost winded and really quite sad. I know I'll love my son, he has a name already and I do feel incredibly lucky to be getting what for many years was my dream family.
Will they be ok? I worry that with them having a 5 year gap and being different sex that they'll never have anything in common or really play together and that just breaks my heart. I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it. Sorry if I sound silly.
We started TTC just after her 2nd birthday and after 2 losses finally fell PG again in May this year. I am beyond thrilled to be pregnant, baby appears to be perfect and until yesterday I felt like I'd finally let go of my anxiety and stress and was able to bond with the baby.
Yesterday we had our 20 week scan and we discovered we are having a little boy. I always wanted one of each but as time went on in our TTC journey I thought it would be so much better for my daughter to have a sister because of the large age gap and I had my heart set on a 2nd daughter. My eldest was so excited about a baby that she doesnt seem to be bothered that its a brother so I dont know why its hit me so hard. I feel almost winded and really quite sad. I know I'll love my son, he has a name already and I do feel incredibly lucky to be getting what for many years was my dream family.
Will they be ok? I worry that with them having a 5 year gap and being different sex that they'll never have anything in common or really play together and that just breaks my heart. I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it. Sorry if I sound silly.