whenever i read about ladies putting their babies to bed at night in their cribs or having a routine i want to cry my eyes out. i feel like such a pathetic mom. i said id try the crying it out to get him to sleep in his crib but i havent yet. im so confused what the right thing to do is. i know that my husband and i need some time together and we dont have it ever. I enjoy the co-sleeping but its got to stop. Hes got to learn to nap without something moving like the swing or carrier. It was all fine while he was a newborn but now hes just stuck in it. I am just at my wits end. I go days sometimes thinking everything is okay but its not. He doesnt have a routine at all. We just go to bed whenever. I am just in such a rut , all the books are useless. Nothing works. I know i sound so negative , and i am thankful for my healthy, beautiful, happy boy, but as a mother at least in this department i feel really really down. like nothing will ever change.