Just sad..

[Geebug x]

Hi all,

I’m nervously joining you in the hope of some success stories or just some positive words really.

I have always had hugely irregular periods, longest I have been without one was for 22 months. Now we are TTC I went to the Dr who referred me over to a consultant for AMH testing, of which my results came back at 5.1. The consultant called me in and explained what this meant in terms of my health and TTC, and that he wants to send me to a consultant at a hospital in London (Kings) as they will be able to help more.

So we are just waiting for an appointment now, the consultant explained that for my age, (26) my egg reserve is low, and our chances of conceiving with the fact I haven’t had a period for 17 months are pretty much nil.

Everything just feels really bleak right now, I feel like my life has ripped away.

I feel like no-one understands, my OH is being fantastic, and said we will do whatever we need to, IVF (Dr recommended donor eggs only as mine may not be strong enough to work) adoption, I just feel like it’s all I talk about now, all I think about, everywhere I look there are people getting pregnant, I just don’t know how to be happy and live a normal life day-to-day anymore.

xx

 

[Valeriachan]

I am so sorry that it is hard we dont have the money to be able to get that stuff done i understand what u r going through i mean not the periods thing but the other parts like everywhere i look there is people getting pregnant or someone that is pregnant everyone but 1 and that is alot of people that we know we cant even talk to so many of them bc all they want to do is rub it in. in some way shape or form or in my sisters case be living under the same roof n she is a major rub in kind of person even though she wont admit it what a b*itch i know

 

[MollyNorwood]

I am so sorry you are facing this ((HUGS)) to you and your supportive husband.
My issues are different to yours in that I have PCOS and my periods do the same thing as yours- disappear. Sometimes when I get them they are very long cycles and I have had to have laparospic surgery to stop the bleeding twice now.
I also had to turn to IVF to make our wish of having a family come true. It is harder to deal with the fact that you can't do it on your own, than the actual process in a lot of cases (as it was for us). I remember when I was told by my gyno that IVF was our last option it ripped my heart out.
Now your AMH being low doesn't 100% mean your egg QUALITY is terrible. There are things (meds usually) that can be done to improve egg quality if that is a concern.
All I can say is *try* to keep your chin up (difficult I totally get it) and listen to what the Drs tell you. If you do go down the path of IVF get yourself to a clinic with a good reputation and follow their instructions word for word. With any luck at all things will work out for you guys and I wish you all the luck in the world xo

 

[Geebug x]

Thank you for replying both of you, it means a lot, one of the biggest issues I am struggling with at the moment is feeling alone, no-one wants to constantly talk about my inability to get pregnant – which I understand but when it is all I can think about its really hard not to.

I’m sorry that anyone has to go through all this, it’s so hard.

My friend’s due date is today, she’s having a little girl, and I’m so excited for her, and to meet her little one obviously, it just feels like everything is tinged with sadness.

Not much I can do except wait for an appointment now, I’m excited and nervous to see the consultant, in the back of my head I have that they have just made it all up, and everything is going to be fine – that’s not normal is it?! Of course the Dr’s haven’t, of course they aren’t’ going to suddenly do a test and go well actually you’re good we have made a mistake.

Just struggling with it all.

xx

 

[2ducks]

Hello! I am so sorry for your struggles, if I were in your shoes I would feel devastated. I know things are overwhelming for you but try not to feel completely hopeless. There are so many options out there, you will eventually become a mother!

I have absent periods and PCOS. When I stopped BCP and my period never came back I knew something was wrong at about 6 months. My doctor wanted to wait three more months to "see what happens". That three months was an eternity for me. How I felt in control was I researched supplements that promote fertility and starting taking them daily. Once I got my diagnosis of PCOS i switched to the PCOS diet. I try to exercise regularly and I also do acupuncture weekly. Have these things helped me, I really don't know. But it helps me feel in control and to "do something" that is positive for my body and fertility. I can tell you are overwhelmed by IVF/donor eggs/ adoption because you probably never imagined you would have to go that route. Feel free to take a step back and allow yourself to process this whole thing. I know you want a baby yesterday but don't pressure yourself to make any choices at the moment. Please keep us posted and good luck.

 

[CareBear]

Hi, I'm so sorry you are going through this, especially at a young age although to spin that to a positive I would think being young would be a good thing for ivf. I've been ttcing for 9 years and paid privately for an Amh test a couple of years ago and I have the opposite problem in that it was really high so I apparently have lots of eggs yet I'm still not pregnant. I also have had other issues too and basically the whole thing sucks and like you it feels like everyone else seems to be able pregnant and no one wants to talk about my inability to.
I would echo 2ducks in what she said about looking at supplements and diet that can help egg quality if you want to try and take control and try to help yourself somehow. I know it can feel like it is spiralling out of control and there is nothing you can do and you can't get off, I sympathise and empathise and I wish I had more advice. I really hope the consultant can give some positives and good luck with everything.

 

[lilyd]

Just stumbled across this by accident. A friend of mine was struggling to get pregnant and was having very very infrequent periods.

She went and saw a reflexologist and absolutely swears that it was reflexology that helped her get pregnant on each occasion - she now has 3 children!

When I was trying to conceive my first, I had reflexology whilst on holiday and came home pregnant - although we had only be trying for four months, don't want to make it sound like I'd been trying ages.

I don't want to make any claims about it as a therapy, I have no idea if there is truly anything in it. However, my friend is 100% convinced it's what helped her when LTTTC & I just thought I'd mention it in case you fancied giving it a bash!

Wishing you lots of luck on your journey to parenthood x

 

[Geebug x]

Just stumbled across this by accident. A friend of mine was struggling to get pregnant and was having very very infrequent periods.

She went and saw a reflexologist and absolutely swears that it was reflexology that helped her get pregnant on each occasion - she now has 3 children!

When I was trying to conceive my first, I had reflexology whilst on holiday and came home pregnant - although we had only be trying for four months, don't want to make it sound like I'd been trying ages.

I don't want to make any claims about it as a therapy, I have no idea if there is truly anything in it. However, my friend is 100% convinced it's what helped her when LTTTC & I just thought I'd mention it in case you fancied giving it a bash!

Wishing you lots of luck on your journey to parenthood x

Thank you.

I actually have an appointment booked for 12th July, as thought it would help with work stress if nothing else!!

I actually had a period since making this thread, which can only be a good thing!

Still waiting on my appointment from the hospital xx

 

[Unlucky41]

Geebug so sorry that you are going through this. Although amh is low age is still on your side meaning quality if your eggs should be still good. I am now 36 and amh is 4.2 so lower than yours but as my journal says trying to hold on to some hope.

I am trying to believe that getting the hormones balance right I can produce one more good quality egg which can turn into a baby.

Let us know how your appointment goes!