...katie...????????????????????

[ashiozz]

For you my dear, I left her a facebook post:
Ashley Stanley
‎*poke* Em wants Des squee ♥

and also, I ♥ you and hope you're doing well.

kthxbye.

 

[ashiozz]

Theres hearts in there that didnt show up..

 

[gigglebox]

weird, i didn't even check my facebook to see any such message, but i had the instinct to come on and check b&b today...EM YOU'RE CALLING ME STRAIGHT TO MY BRAIN

you really need to get facebook, then just friend all of us. don't tell anyone else you have it.

let me see if I can whip up some squee...

and for the record, the only reason i came on was to say hello to emerald. because i loves you and want to see how big that child of yours is these days.

forgive my MIA-ness...i'm just so damn busy with full time work now. most of my access on the interwebs is at work (shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...)

katie, will you smoke pot with OMF when he's older? or is it one of those things where you feel ok doing it but it's weird to think of your child doing it?

hubs and i (though we don't smoke anymore) decided we'd be OK with him experimenting, as long as he didn't become a stoner and do hard drugs...

shit, baby's calling. i'll get squee later :/

 

[gigglebox]

ok. at work now. shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...to continue on the pot thing, he also cannot get caught with it. not cool.

i just read random pages from here. Em, I am sorry your Mom is being a butt. way for her to make you feel unimportant! that's so not right. has there been any progress there?

 

[ashiozz]

0.o The pot situation -- Wow-- ... I never got into any of it, I tried pot once and hated it, I suppose I'd like to KNOW if Tyler was to experiment, but that's not usually something a child tells their parents, so I think I'll sit him down and discuss it with him, tell him I'd of course rather him NOT do it but if he is going to I want to know about it and he's not to do it out where he could get caught ><

This conversation isn't going to make Mitch happy, because he's very anti-drug.. like.. anything.. But because he is, and I wasn't into either, and nor was either of our siblings (I actually watched my brother drop friends over pot, I had a lot of pothead friends but they respected my boundaries, so it was a little bit different..) I don't know that he will even ever be curious...

What scares me more is Meth is really big here, not pot.. -.- and in scottsdale/Paradise Valley/ Cave Creek which is up near we live, its a bunch of rich kids, they don't seem too into it, so we will see if I even have to cross that bridge 0.o it scares me though...

 

[gigglebox]

omg meth--i've been watching breaking bad with hubs recently and it's SO GOOD. albeit disturbing at times...

 

[Emerald87]

0.o The pot situation -- Wow-- ... I never got into any of it, I tried pot once and hated it, I suppose I'd like to KNOW if Tyler was to experiment, but that's not usually something a child tells their parents, so I think I'll sit him down and discuss it with him, tell him I'd of course rather him NOT do it but if he is going to I want to know about it and he's not to do it out where he could get caught ><

This conversation isn't going to make Mitch happy, because he's very anti-drug.. like.. anything.. But because he is, and I wasn't into either, and nor was either of our siblings (I actually watched my brother drop friends over pot, I had a lot of pothead friends but they respected my boundaries, so it was a little bit different..) I don't know that he will even ever be curious...

What scares me more is Meth is really big here, not pot.. -.- and in scottsdale/Paradise Valley/ Cave Creek which is up near we live, its a bunch of rich kids, they don't seem too into it, so we will see if I even have to cross that bridge 0.o it scares me though...

I'm with Mitch. I'm hugely and extremely anti drugs. To the point I wouldn't even consider "harm minimisation" by letting her try it at home. She'll be growing up knowing what smoking and drugs do at the extreme end of things and hopefully she chooses against trying it.
I watched mum's partners use pot, I've seen what it does in the hospital setting. I've had many opportunities to try it, smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol but I've never thought it's worth it. The two defining moments (for alcohol) were the mum out the window I told you about and when I was younger, seeing my aunt get smashed and thought "I never want to look that stupid" lol - she wasn't a funny drunk, she was an "embarrassing to watch" drunk; you know? The ones that make you cringe as they utterly destroy any dignity they once had hehe. I figured genetics meant I'd be one of those...
No specific defining moments for drugs or smoking - just something I chose against.

High horse - dismount!!

 

[Emerald87]

Where's my squee? This is inexcusable. Work? Pfft...

 

[ashiozz]

My uncle is REALLY badly addicted to alcohol, my dad is getting as bad, hes always had a problem but been in denial... I however, WILL have a drink now and then, I dont get smashed and I havent puked from drinking too much in forever, but a drink or two on a Friday night is not going to kill me....

...HOWEVER, everyone I grew up around was a chain smoker, I WILL NOT pick up a cigarette. Those are terrible.. at least with drinking in moderation youre not going to kill yourself (unless youre driving or doing something super stupid, but I drink at home with my husband while we play board games or wii) ..

But knowing my child could possibly pick up and try drugs, I want him to feel okay with talking to me about it, because if he hides stuff he could easily be getting himself into trouble without me knowing and I do not want to lose my son at a young age like that-- so I feel like open communication can help save children (We lost a lot of kids in school to drug use..)

I guess Im kind of weird, I HOPE he doesnt ever get into any of it... but if he does.. I want him to let me know.. and if he seems to develop some addictions his ass is off to rehab asap. lol

 

[Emerald87]

Makes sense. I want open communication too but hopefully it doesn't come to that.

And as for drinking, I have no issues with others doing it at all. I suppose I just don't want to because in my mind I don't understand the concept of a couple of drinks vs smashed drunk. Like, in theory I get it but because I've been literally too scared to drink (in case I turn into something awful) I don't understand first hand. It's an ignorance thing on my part.

 

[ashiozz]

ahhem, Not Des, but....

Tyler in a 3-6 month outfit daddy picked out! its still a littttle too big, so i give him 2 more weeks, Ill have an issue then, he has ONE onesie that size ... YIPES

 

[Emerald87]

What a cutie!!!!! He looks so much like you!

BUT OCD. emerald is freaking out. That text isn't centred.

 

[gigglebox]

open mouth policy here on sex and drugs. but my god, i really hope he doesn't get into drugs at all. i've seen them destroy lives first hand. they almost got my brother killed...but somehow he turned his life around and now has a law degree lol. ohhhhh irony!

btw that article is from my neck of the woods. thank god i don't have a personal relationship with the dulles toll road! it's a cluster fuck of traffic all.the.time. and it will cost you a couple bucks to ride one way...which doesn't seem like a lot until you double that to go both ways, then use it to commute. i'm so glad my commute is 15 minutes.

ok. squee. let's see.....

 

[Emerald87]

Ok. Selfish moment. You guys have cute kids. I'm petrified Kaida can't live up to the cute bar you guys have set for her!! Des and Tyler are irresistible. Like "I'd run off with your child on the street" kinda gorgeous.

 

[ashiozz]

I have this fear someone will do that to tyler, a lady tried with my brother 0.o

lol... and i know but i was drinking when i captioned --- lmao... baddd

DES IS SO CUTEEEE

Kaida will be wayyy cute -- no worries =)

 

[Emerald87]

Lol ash, am I the only one that finds it f-ing hilarious that you excuse your lack of centering, yet your grammar and punctuation are spot on? Ok. I'm a lonely nerd.

 

[ashiozz]

Hell, I can spell when I'm drunk! I just can't center ... LMAO.. I painted some of tylers Mural under the influence of alcohol too *cough*

 

[Emerald87]

And thus it is more creative! If not a little off-centre

 

[Menelly]

OK, providing squee for the Emerald who refuses to Facebook with us.

 

[..katie..]

Ok. Selfish moment. You guys have cute kids. I'm petrified Kaida can't live up to the cute bar you guys have set for her!! Des and Tyler are irresistible. Like "I'd run off with your child on the street" kinda gorgeous.

In agreeance, albeit a titch offended =/



Laura-I dunno, really. If the law really cracks down on weed, I won't smoke...I don't smoke a lot anyway....but being stoned is totally not worth losing my kid/house/job/life over. Most importantly Patrick. But with the way the laws are heading right now, I don't think it will be illegal anymore by the time he's old enough to do it. If it's not, I won't condone illegal behavior (yeah, will totally be having the "hypocrite" fight.) while he's a minor. After he's of age, yeah, if he wants to toke up with me, fine. Know what I mean? And if he ever asks me about it in regards to my useage, I'll tell him the truth, which includes both the medical facts on it AND the negative parts too. If he ever asks me about it in regards to HIS potential use, i'll let him know that I feel the same way about it as I do booze...It has potential for abuse, and while it is significantly better for you than alcohol, it can cause major trouble, and can be a problem. To never get stoned and drive. To not let partying or smoking get in the way of anything else. To not allow the happiness induced by marijuana to replace real happiness....etc.


Smoking cigarettes, though? totally different story. Once again, I'm a hypocrite, but i'm totally not cool with him smoking ever. EVER. It's expensive and stinks and will kill you. not CAN, but will, if something else doesn't first.