Keeping DH Interested in DTD?

[Aabir93]

Hello ladies!

I have been MIA for a while now just dealing with - life -

Anyways, I recently went to the OB/GYN and was prescribed 50mg Clomid. So I took it as directed, waited until the day before my fertile week, and FINALLY had hope that this month would be the month for my BFP!

But.........

Day 1 of DTD, my husband was into it. Enthusiastic about concieving.

Day 2 of DTD, husband, umm, "Contributed" without complaint.

Day 3 of DTD, husband whined, "IM TIRED" but finally DTD.

Day 4, 5, 6 (yes im paranoid) husband wanted nothing to do with DTD and said he was tired and we had done it enough. ...meanwhile O day was right around the corner and I was DETIRMINED to give it my all.

...I wore cute outfits/nice clothes
...I styled my hair the way he likes it
...I put on perfume
..."Groomed" in all the necessary places.

But, alas, he lost interest in TTC after only a few days. And this is the FIRST month we have been actually charting/planning when to DTD.

ANY ADVICE LADIES??? How do you keep your DH's attention long enough through your fertile week? Or is it just my husband?

 

[sugargully]

Your not alone. My DH has nearly no libido. It's like it never crosses his mind. Here's what I do that works.

1) I sdon't tell him I'm Oing. Make it seem spontaneous even though I know my cycle day.
2) Do an activity he likes that day, play a ball game, ride motorcycles, help him change the oil.
3) no nagging, hinting, or reminding him of anything- make the day positive
4) lastly I wait until he's rested, fed, and de stressed then start with easy kissing or cheeky groping or whatever he likes.

It feels unusual to be this focused on his needs but it shows him I appreciate him and makes DTD easier. GL

 

[MagicDance]

Aw it definitely isnt just your hubby Its hard for them in a way.

At first the novelty of it was exciting but we ended up treating it like a chore which so isnt the way to go!

We are very open so we chatted about how we were both feeling and what we could both do to make things work.
It was agreed that if I was treating him like a sperm donor that he could tell me to calm down and be firm and that if he was being lazy that I would tell him to up his game, quite simple but it has helped loads.
Mine actually had no clue of how long the egg survives etc so although I keep Ovulation to myself you should make sure they know the basics. Im not saying give them a sex ed class but maybe he can do his own research!

To keep the fun - I send sexy texts, we have an evening where we have a nice meal and then sometimes a cheeky shower together, we actually treat ourselves to body bars and massage bars and we also have a naughty little habit of trying new places and in the car. Hehe.. that was probably tmi but find what works for you.

Good luck

 

[EmmySocks]

Oh i know what you mean - i'm only aiming for every other day for that week but hubby (after complaining he didn't get it enough because of af) now is 'too tired' this week. He wasn't interested wednesday night but yesterday i thought i had really persuaded him - nice home cooked meal, let him chill for a bit when he got home from work, served up dinner, let him on the playstation, shower together, even gave him a massage and he just rolled over and said he needed an early night! hahaha - it was 9 pm. and he did - went to sleep right then bless him! Obviously this baby-making malarkey has tired him out! Not going to stop me trying again tonight though - definitely think i've got him this time - salmon for tea - his favourite!

Oh i should also add - this is only cycle 2! I'm sure he's having a joke with me or something! Good luck everyone! xxx

 

[Angel022605]

My DH is the same way........one person told me to act like you want HIM and not his SPERM..... what helps me is my DH kinda knows when my fertile period is ......Explain to him just a few basics like how long the egg lasts and how you don't O at the same time every month....switch out the places, try different positions, instead of every other day try every 2 days so you can rest.....treat him like a king and give him what he wants and he'll come around to BD.....(TMI) my DH will 9 times out of 10 BD with me if I give him a BJ or if we start out with foreplay....so it won't feel like your BD forever just start BD as soon as you hit your fertile window....my OBGYN said to BD every other day to every 2 days from CD 10-21( may sound like a lot of days but if you spread it out to every 2 days it's not that bad)

 

[psychochick]

I think you've already tried quite a bit but you could also try being more spontaneous like wear something sexy while cooking or cleaning. Guys like variety and I suppose that seems a little porn-y Also you could watch some shows with some sexy action in it if you're ok with that, get them thinking about it. Or get some toys. I think all of my friends with good sex lives own quite a variety of toys. Only if you're okay with it of course.

 

[froggyfrog]

Definitely toys! And let him pick out toys with you, that way you both get excited about it. Me and my dh are way open with each other about sex, and our main goal is to please the other one. So maybe just talking about sex, not making a baby, will help!