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[dizzyshell]

hiladies im ttc number 1 for 16 long months , i use a cbfm and opks im 28yrs old and o/h 25 yrs old.

ive a issue i wish to discuss with anyone who intrested .I will say its TMI thread but sure everyone wont be to embarrsed lol

my issue is everytime me and o/h bd , when i move not to put to finer a point on it , the swimmers go awol on the bed ,now i do realise some of its fluid but to me its big amounts were leaving behide.ive stopped me on top round ovulation time as gravity will make it come out.But ive been doing him on top and doggy he alwas stays in a good 10mins after we done the deed , then i go on to hold my legs up in air for 15-20min until they ake ,but still nothing.now after ttc 16months im starting to worry the reason for no bfp is this .Also i use to use fem fresh items and iread other day that this can kill sperm and ive been using this products everyday in 16months so could that be the anserw too.

Ive had bloods taken ,i ovulate fine every cycle.ive had ultra sound everything is fine.Imhaving a dye/lap test in may and hopefully thats all and i will be ok .

I did fall preg in 2006 in 4-6weeks by accident , sadly didnt work out

i just wish his swimmers wouldnt go awol everytime we bd xxx

 

[Indigo77]

Try this:

https://www.amazon.com/Instead-Softcups-Box-of-14/dp/B003JCX88C

 

[dizzyshell]

thankyou but what are they for , iloose fluid after bd this ismy issue ,do soft cups collect that fluid, and put it back where belongs ??

imsorry im thick as sxxt aint i lol xx

 

[Indigo77]

Sorry...
Try this link:
https://www.amazon.com/Instead-Softcups-Box-of-14/dp/B003JCX88C

It explains it all...you insert it after BDing...

 

[Want2bMum]

hi hun,

not sure I understand well... so he stays inside in the same position for 10 mins after he finishes?..sorry..I know TMI...

if this is the case, we were doing more or less the same but I found out that it is actually worst as more goes out. So we decided that he would just go as soon as he finishes and then I'll do all the tricks. For me there is not even need to stay with my legs up as on doing like I said it all stays in, but sometimes, during ovulation I want to give the swimmers an extra chance and put a pillow under my hips. I'll put the pillow before though as on doing that after, I will move and the swimmers go away. So we enjoy at first then we put the pillow and then I get to keep all the swimmers...

...sorry if to much TMI...

 

[wannababycoop]

Hi dizzyshell! I was having the same problem. I would do bd with my hubby and it would leak out!! I did as someone mention above with the pillow under my hips during bd. I stayed that way 20 mins afterwards with my knees to my chin. When I got up nothing came out I was surprised. I have heard about instead cups but I haven't tried them. Oh I also do kegels while my legs are in the air or up to my chin. Good luck to you!

 

[dizzyshell]

Thanks ladies , i think im gonna get himto move asap and do the whole legs in air thing.
Cuz (tmi) its notstaying in and bit worried .All though on re-search there's millions of the swimmers and they still go where they need to.But im sure legs thing and pillow gota alot of others their bfps ,so deffo be doing it tonight lol .

 

[lilvixen]

I'm pretty sure it's just fluid and not sperm that you lose - I know exactly what you mean though! I've never made an effort to stop it leaking and have conceived twice in the past by accident.

I assume it must be similar in dogs (I breed them) - some breeders hold the females up afterwards to prevent fluid coming back out, I think it's nonsense, I don't do it, just leave them to it and considering the dogs are small, you wouldn't believe how much they lose...never had a prob with a bitch getting pg tho.

HTH

 

[bluemoonfairy]

lol thank you ladies this was my next question and now its answered lol, thanks for asking lol there was me thinking this might be to mych info lmao!

Going to try this next time!!!

Thanks again!

 

[dizzyshell]

lol seems alot ofus on ttc forums have this question hanging around but dont wanna be ONE to bring it up .But ive seen this question before on here but its called -it fell out and people on there just on there to say they got bfp and it fell out , so its different kind of thread.

last night bd twice and first time o/h held legs up while bd and second time ,i went ontop and jumped off and put legs in air for 10 .But im only cd 10 yestrerday so proberly to early but deffo next 2days gonna do everything inmy power to not loose any swimmers if it kills me/Tmi but even thoedid all that bd last nite , therre was still fluid on sheets ,dont think it can be helped tbh.

 

[wannababycoop]

It might just be arousal fluid. I think as long as the swimmers get to where they need to be it won't matter. But hey it doesn't hurt to try something new.

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

i had a friend who had this problem. she talked to her doctor about what they could do etc etc... she told my friend to put in a tampon as soon hes finished. i personally thought it would just soak up all the juice... but shes just had a beautiful little boy, so it cant be all bad.

 

[dizzyshell]

tampax hmmmmm never thought of that , i know someonementioned a soft cup ,butdont know about them !!!how long did it take her toget bfp after tampax plan ???

yea swimmersgo where they need to but id rather have less fluid everytimecuz surely sperm leaks out too its gotta ,xx

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

2 or 3 cycles i think.... but id double check that one with your Doctor cos it still sounds iffy to me

 

[Damita]

I worked out a trick to this, if I cum after he has cum then nothing comes out, first time it happened I was quite surprised

 

[McMummy]

I have been using Instead softcups for a couple of cycles... def makes a difference and so handy not feeling like I need to lie with pillow under my bum for ages after BD.
I wouldn't recommend using tampax (I tried it) and it was uncomfortable to remove as obv I was dry etc Sorry if TMI.
Also agree with Damita that if you try to finish after OH, the contractions of your diaphragm sucks up the swimmers LOL xx

 

[augustluvers]

I always had this question but never knew how to ask it, so I'm glad that you had it in you to ask!

 

[wannababycoop]

I can only climax when I'm on top. But if I'm on top it leaks out. Maybe I'll make him finish me off afterwards hahaha that sounds soooooo dirty sorry for the tmi

 

[dizzyshell]

Lol yeah sounds most dirty ha ha , see what you mean thoe .When i was my o/h first timr round 6yrs ago when i got bfp in 4-6weeks ialways came during and after ,with him ontop and imsure it was me ontop when i got preg and it was in morning .

But now its different i dont come much tbh i cant realx like old days dontkow why i do come dont get me wrong but its prob bout once out of 10 times lol
and yh being ontop it does come out .But saying that last night he heldmy legs up while BD all way through and after 15mon yet i got up and still big patch AGAIN so i dont know what to do make it stay in lol.And i cant remeber if that use to happen first time we were together when got bfp id love to know if it did happen lol

iknow TMI this thread girlsbut hey some of us needtips lol xx

 

[sweetchild]

This had me worried as well and I had asked my doctor about it, she said it's normal and as others have pointed out as long as you stay lying down for about 15 mins later the swimmers should make it to where they need to be. I tried the feet in the air thing and found it to be way to uncomfortable so I do the pillow under my hips thing and watch a few episodes of friends.. I also heard on another site that laughing after the bd is supposed to help in the implantation?!?! strange I know but watching a funny show and laughing is what I do right after haha!