Last name dillema.

[samanthaaa]

I just found out yesterday that the father of my son had gotten arrested Thursday night. I talked to him earlier today for the first time since and from the sounds of it, the outcome doesn't look good at all. Especially with his record and the charges against him, he's probably looking at 1+ years. We had agreed on our son taking his last name, but with him in jail... I'm not so sure I like the idea too much. I don't know if we'll make it through this together. I'm not even sure what my plans are with him being allowed to see my son when he's born but that's a different story.

Anyways, if I do want his last in my son's name would something like Rian Michael *his last name* *my last name* be weird? I don't really like the look of our names hyphened together, but I figure if I did it that my his last name is still in his name but my last name would be more prominent, basically the only time FOB's last name would be used would be for legal documents or if FOB got released, stepped up, and we got my last name dropped.

 

[kelzyboo]

I'd just use yours for now since you don't know at the moment how long he will be in prison or even if he's going to be involved at all. If he does step up you can always change it further down the line but if he doesn't and your son has his last name you will need his permission to change it to yours, if he refuses your stuck with it!

Its your choice but thats what i'd do xx

 

[lou_w34]

Agree with above, i would give baby just your name. If you give LO his, and regret it, you need his permission to change it.

I have read so many stories on here from women who wish they had given their LO's their last name.

xx

 

[Marlarky]

I agree too. I almost feel like FOB tricked me into giving LO his last name, so Im fighting to get it hyphenated. So Im biased though

 

[DaisyDoodles]

My DS originally had his fathers name, when he walked away I changed it by deedpoll to my name but kept his fathers as a middle name so his name is now Daniel George *fathers name* *my maiden name*.

As much as I wanted his father wiped from our lives, I felt that leaving his name in meant my son still had that part of his heritage and could decide himself when older if he wanted to drop it - it also meant a lot to his paternal grandparents that their name hadn't been completely taken out... it's not their fault that their son is a complete arse!!

 

[bluelilly72]

i would give the lo your name i give my lo my exs name last name i was stupid he left and never saw his daughter but would not let me change it he got married i had to brime him so i could change her name so she has same name as my other lo but now i got new oh and preg i want to it to have my last name am i wrong cause where still together

 

[kelzyboo]

Blue, your not wrong to want your LO's to all have the same name, i would want that too! If your OH is understanding then tell him how you feel and why, if it all works out and you get married and he's a good dad to all your children it can be easily changed down the line, its not so easy if your OH's name is given and he doesn't want it changed to yours x