Legit non-drinking excuses

[Kadiya]

I am currently 9 wks along with my first viable pregnancy, unfortunately I suffered two miscarriages last year. I have a friend's bachelorette party coming up, where I'll only be at 10.5 weeks along. With our past history it's much too early for us to share this with everyone. I have searched everywhere and am completely frustrated as I could not find a good list of viable legit excuses for why I won't be drinking.

The bachelorette party will be at the Blackhawk casinos, therefore going to the bar secretly won't work, drinks are free and cocktail waitresses will regularly be within earshot of friends also friends are known to try sips of everyone's drinks. Not feeling like it, being DD, having a cold, having hubs slip me virgin drinks, or telling my friends to F themselves when they ask are lousy and illegitimate excuses as I am known to tear the house down especially at events like this with my gfs and my hubs won't be anywhere near to rescue me. Yet I am not as close to these girlfriends as I used to be to give them the news early either. The only excuse that I have found that MIGHT work and it's tentative at best is the kidney infection excuse.

So I am hoping someone out there has knowledge of or has used a minor medical condition or other similar ironclad excuse that would be completely believable in this situation. Some good ideas would be greatly welcomed!!! Thanks in advance!

 

[KiraLeigh]

You could say you are taking antibiotics....perhaps amoxicillin?

 

[Nela]

You probably don't need to be so specific with the reason. Perhaps just saying you are taking antibiotics for an infection would be sufficient. If someone asks what infection you have you can just say "the kind you don't want" and leave it at that. Other things like you've been having migraines lately (though that would be much more convincing if you actually get migraines or bad headaches - you can say the meds cannot be mixed with alcohol) or are doing a sort of cleanse might help?

 

[FlatShoes]

I said I was doing a detox hahaha

No alcohol for a month and only fresh fruit/veg/meat

 

[lora123]

Could you not be designated driver or simply drive yourself there.

Early start the following morning so don't want to drink and feel rough?

Dental infection - the are only a couple of antibiotics that you actually shouldn't drink on. And metronidazole which works for decal abscesses etc is one of these.
The general 'I'm on antibiotics' statement wouldn't work for me as my friends and I are in the pharmacy field!
Amoxicillin is fine to have a drink or two on.

Erm headache?
Water infection - which isn't helped by drinking alcohol
detox?
Or just hide it by carrying a drink around but not drinking it.

It's hard to think of legitimate excuses where people won't guess that you're pregnant to be honest. Especially if these are girl friends. You'll probably find at least someone will ask!
Good luck

 

[TTC First]

How about saying that you were out at a pool party the previous day and you are still feeling bad from the drinking?

I do the, I am trying to loose weight for an upcoming vacation excuse.

 

[DoubleLines]

UTI! I am prone to them, and have used it as a (truthful) reason for not drinking. Between the antibiotics and honestly, the pain that alcohol can cause - drinking with a urinary tract infection is a big no-no. Any woman who has had one would immediately agree!

 

[Katie Potatie]

Most people won't believe any excuse and will automatically assume you are pregnant anyway. Lol! You poor dear, a bachelorette party is a pickle because its supposed to be a night of partying. I've found saying I have a hangover from the night before worked best though! Update with how it goes!

 

[curlykate]

I've used the "I'm sick" excuse before. It wasn't a bachlorette party though, just a small get together. When I was offered alcohol, I politely declined and informed the hostess that I had taken cold pills before arriving, which I didn't feel should be mixed with alcohol. No one even suspected, despite knowing that I was ttc at the time. Not sure if that would work for a bacholrette party though, when it's a fun night out as opposed to a small get together. It's likely that someone is going to see through your excuse, no matter what you tell them.

 

[petitpas]

I've used the bladder infection excuse before. I mumbled it apologetically and the response was always an eek, poor you, I've had that and it's horrible! Then I drink cranberry juice, go to the loo more often and throw in a few pained looks. It also helps for an early exit if you are tired. Most women will have had a bladder infection and know how uncomfortable it is. Remembering their own experiences will hopefully distract them from thinking about other reasons you might not be drinking.

 

[LoveMy2Boys2]

I have been carrying a drink around, pretending I'm drinking it, slowly dumping some out here n there , drinking virgin drinks that look like real drinks.... Much easier than trying to find an excuse!!! I have had to turn down shots and that was a rough one..... But I simply said I have a busy morning ahead of me and trying to pace myself, maybe the next one ! It's rough :/

 

[Mintastic]

I am lucky - I frequently didn't drink before TTC due to medications so people are used to me saying oh I can't I took my meds today. Most people know it is rude to ask what meds so that was all I needed to say. I should be able to fake it for a while when the time comes.

 

[hanni]

You went out a couple of weeks ago, got absolutely wasted and made a total fool of yourself/were really mean to your OH/in a total state. You and your OH had a huge argument about it and he's asked you to lay off it for a while. You can't face it anymore anyway. You'd also rather not talk about it with them too much as it's a awkward subject.

Or the bladder infection could work!

 

[Radkat]

Ugh it always sucks trying to come up with an excuse. Depending on how informed/nosy your friends are, someone will suspect something and maybe even ask you if you're pregnant. So be prepared for what you'll say if someone does ask.

I had to do the antibiotics one when I was pregnant with DD. Everyone suspected, but no one said anything. One friend of mine gave me a look, which I promptly ignored and started talking to someone else.

Good luck!

 

[hanni]

When I was pregnant over my birthday in January/new year I used the excuse that I was taking part in "Dry January",where people get sponsored not to drink for a month, and we had raised money as a team at work.
Really back fired when people started insisting on sponsoring me 🙈

 

[dan-o]

Personally i would just say I'm not drinking because I think I might be pregnant (keeping is vague) but i don't know your circumstances. Maybe say you are on a cleanse/ new diet which means no alcohol?

 

[Kadiya]

Thanks for all the ideas! I thought that dry January sounded pretty good at first but yeah I could see how that would backfire! Unfortunately it's Friday night and we're staying the night and also luckily I've been stay at home baby maker this time around, worked out that way since we're moving, plus hubs thinks my last job's stress contributed to our miscarriages and his new job pays enough that I don't have to get a new position immediately.

I think my best bet may be the uti or bladder infection idea.

I really don't want to let the rest of our friends know about this pregnancy until we are in the no danger zone. The last miscarriage was a missed miscarriage so none of my pregnancy symptoms left just abated a bit and turned out the baby had been gone for nearly a month by the time we found out.

This time everything has been fine as far as the u/s from a week ago showed and I know I should be glad I'm in that minority with no morning sickness and none of the other symptoms but with the recurrent miscarriages it makes it a lot more nerve wracking. I just feel like I can't be happy or share this with our friends yet or I'll jinx it.

Thanks for the ideas again, I'll let you guys know how it goes. In fact I may have to use one tomorrow for another friend's 4th party luckily they're not in the same circle as those going to the bachelorette!

 

[bamluby]

Just to add to the uti or bladder infection story, maybe it would help to say that when you tried to have a drink on the antibiotics it made you really nauseas? I know if I told my friends I was on antibiotics or other medication that they would still try to get me to drink, because I'm not one to abide by "no drinking while taking this medication" rules. HOWEVER, if you said you wished you could drink but it made you really nauseas and sick to your stomach the last time you drank while taking the antibiotics (either the "night before" or for a "previous" uti), maybe they will lay off a bit? Just a thought! I'm not pregnant yet, but I know I would also have a tough crowd to try and convince with non-drinking excuses!

Good luck and I wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy!!!

 

[misspriss]

I'd vote for the bladder infection and then order virgin vodka cranberries all night

I've never been a heavy drinker though, I wish I could help out more! If I'm not going to be drinking, I just say so - "Oh I have to drive/work tomorrow/etc" and no one would question me! I'm on a diet right now to lose weight to TTC, so I'd just say "Do you know how many calories are in that?!?"

Oh I just thought of one! Say you are doing whole30 or doing the paleo diet! Alcohol is full of carbs, right? Less strict than a "cleanse", but still no alcohol?

 

[vickyandchick]

Definitely try the antibiotics and bladder infection one.
I tried using the "I'm still wasted from the night before" but it didn't fly as it's never been a problem before
Could try carrying a drink around all night and avoiding the bar x