Legs Up The Wall Plan

[Desperado167]

Yes, baby making is completely formulaic for us. Nothing sexy or fun about it.

I have to do the sexy bit after the first 3-4 shags as oh losses interest

 

[sumatwsimit]

Yes, baby making is completely formulaic for us. Nothing sexy or fun about it.

you can say that again

 

[Viking15]

I tried the sexy thing and it's just a big flop. My DH clearly doesn't think I'm that attractive. I guess we've just been together too long now. I dunno. I'm working on being okay with that. It was really depresssing for a long time, but I'm back to working out, and this time it's for me. Maybe he will think I'm hot again someday? If so, it will just be a bonus.

 

[LLbean]

well when I got my BFP naturally in July it was LUTW and the soft cups! so who knows!!!

 

[Desperado167]

I tried the sexy thing and it's just a big flop. My DH clearly doesn't think I'm that attractive. I guess we've just been together too long now. I dunno. I'm working on being okay with that. It was really depresssing for a long time, but I'm back to working out, and this time it's for me. Maybe he will think I'm hot again someday? If so, it will just be a bonus.

Aw bless I bet u are bloody gorgeous too ,well I know talking to you that u are anyway ,

 

[Viking15]

Thanks Despie. I am sure I was a disgusting whale at some point, but I think I look ok now. I don't think I am repulsive, but I know that I'm still not what he wants in that department. Like I said I am working on being ok with that. We have had counseling, and that helped a little. Not much. Basically we don't talk about it anymore because it hurts a lot. Personally, I really blame all of the photoshopping, plastic surgery and porn... But I know I have a lot of work I could do to come closer to achieving a better and healthier body. So, I will do what I can for me.

 

[Desperado167]

Thanks Despie. I am sure I was a disgusting whale at some point, but I think I look ok now. I don't think I am repulsive, but I know that I'm still not what he wants in that department. Like I said I am working on being ok with that. We have had counseling, and that helped a little. Not much. Basically we don't talk about it anymore because it hurts a lot. Personally, I really blame all of the photoshopping, plastic surgery and porn... But I know I have a lot of work I could do to come closer to achieving a better and healthier body. So, I will do what I can for me.

Babes this makes me so sad and bloody angry ,u were never disgusting please don't say that And yes I agree the Internet doesn't help but surely your hubby loves u for wot u are ,that's why he married you and am sure he isn't perfect ,

 

[Viking15]

Despie, he does love me. I know he does. This is exactly what our therapist pointed out in our session when I brought this up. I don't know why I can't get more info out of him about this. I have asked him point blank, why are you with me if you aren't attracted to me. He answers because he loves me. I don't know. I think it's kinda sick... I am hoping to find that attraction again some day. It must have been there at the beginning. It helps to get it out on here, as I don't really have another outlet. You ladies understand and I appreciate that.

 

[Desperado167]

Despie, he does love me. I know he does. This is exactly what our therapist pointed out in our session when I brought this up. I don't know why I can't get more info out of him about this. I have asked him point blank, why are you with me if you aren't attracted to me. He answers because he loves me. I don't know. I think it's kinda sick... I am hoping to find that attraction again some day. It must have been there at the beginning. It helps to get it out on here, as I don't really have another outlet. You ladies understand and I appreciate that.

Of course he loves you and I am here any time to listen ,u know that rite ,love u babes,

 

[LLbean]

Viking we all feel that way...I struggle with mine too...he actually told me once (after beating it out of him) this "well when I met you you were the most beautiful woman I have ever seen...now you are still pretty but..." and let me tell you that is embedded in my brain and it hurt like hell!

 

[Desperado167]

Viking we all feel that way...I struggle with mine too...he actually told me once (after beating it out of him) this "well when I met you you were the most beautiful woman I have ever seen...now you are still pretty but..." and let me tell you that is embedded in my brain and it hurt like hell!

Babes u are gorgeous too and I am sorry but your oh is no hottie

 

[LLbean]

Viking we all feel that way...I struggle with mine too...he actually told me once (after beating it out of him) this "well when I met you you were the most beautiful woman I have ever seen...now you are still pretty but..." and let me tell you that is embedded in my brain and it hurt like hell!

Babes u are gorgeous too and I am sorry but your oh is no hottie

HAHAHA well he can be a hottie, believe me I have worked with him... I think he is anyway

He did not mean to hurt me but guys are very much physically driven

 

[Viking15]

Yes. I think men are very visual. At least my DH is. I try to be sympathetic to that as it is just honest reality. It does hurt. I think what hurts the most is that I will put a ton of work into looking great and then get nothing out of it. I end up giving up. I am thinner now than when I met my DH. Only 5 pounds, but that's 5 pounds. I have gone way up as you guys know, and come back down again. I don't feel like I repulse him anymore, but I don't feel like he has any real attraction or desire for me still. I think I'm getting there though He can't help it. I am sure he would change it if he could.
LL, we can do it! I know you can. You've got all the knowhow! And Despie, you are lucky, because your husband still has the hots for you!!!!

 

[Desperado167]

Viking we all feel that way...I struggle with mine too...he actually told me once (after beating it out of him) this "well when I met you you were the most beautiful woman I have ever seen...now you are still pretty but..." and let me tell you that is embedded in my brain and it hurt like hell!

Babes u are gorgeous too and I am sorry but your oh is no hottie

HAHAHA well he can be a hottie, believe me I have worked with him... I think he is anyway

He did not mean to hurt me but guys are very much physically driven

Well if he hurts u again u send him over to Belfast

 

[dachsundmom]

OMG, I haven't seen this thread in forever!

 

[LLbean]

HAHAHA I really honestly believe that self confidence is the biggest thing that they are attracted to Viking, hate to say it but if you feel good about yourself it shows...no matter what size you are. I am working on that too

Despie thank you

 

[Viking15]

Have my legs up the wall right now! Been up to close to a half hour. I think my work here is done.

 

[LLbean]

way to go Viking!!!!

 

[Desperado167]

Have my legs up the wall right now! Been up to close to a half hour. I think my work here is done.

 

[Indigo77]

Have my legs up the wall right now! Been up to close to a half hour. I think my work here is done.