light hearted ttc

[josephine3]

hey ladies hope ur all well. I finally had another bleed that im assuming was my period. It was still fairly light for usual no big clots but lots of tiny red ones? It came a few days late based on my normal cycle before the crazy bleeding. I dont feel as pregnant anymore but i still dont feel myself. Constant headaches and grinding my teeth!! Which is getting annoying. So i0 def still going to the scan to see what is really going on.
I also miss being pregnant and i even think the birth part too and its a big reason why id like another i have to admit! Financially for us also it would be hard so plan is to wait at least a few years yet. Also maybe better to space them out so u still have some new baby days to look forward to again? Or will the urge pass when we start to get our lives back i wonder? Sure u can pick a number but what about 'oops' babies lol. I dont think i could ever bring myself to end a pregnancy, like ricschick says u can always regret not having a baby but u will never regret having one!so a few oops babies added to a few planned ones could add up!

 

[AC1987]

Its so funny when I'm pregnant I hate it like I'm always sooo achy and tired and frustrated over everything.. but when I'm not then I want to be! crazy hormones! Looking at newborn babies is the worst.. or seeing other pregnant women..
But I know its MUCH easier right now like going places while my kids are at this age so I'm enjoying it right now.

I just keep concentrating on the good of only having two kids at the moment. I'm thinking if I can get the hubby to agree then maybe the fall of next year is when we can try for another.

 

[josephine3]

i am thinking it might be nice when they are about 7-9 ish. Saw a programme last night with a little boy on whose mum was pregnant he was so excited he says 'i might get to hear the heart beat tomorrow, if i do im gonna go ballistic'! With a massive grin so cute. Would be lovely to have them share the pregnancy with u when they understand more.

 

[josephine3]

i forgot to mention during this latest 'period' i took an opk for the hell of it and it was positive??! Wth?

 

[AC1987]

Oh that's weird!!


Ahh these past few days have been crazy. Been having awful teeth problems, in need of a root canal or extraction of a tooth and no dentist will do it *sigh*
Also my older sis and her hubby came this Saturday and left today.
I'll miss them makes me sad living so far from them.

My younger sister is arriving this coming Saturday and will also stay until the Tuesday.

Then I wont see them until Dec when I go up there

 

[josephine3]

hi girls thought id best update. Ultrasound says not pregnant, still waiting for results off doc of internal scan. She was so fast tho with the abdominal must have had the thing on me all of 5 seconds says im def not pregnant and that was that.
So confused!! Guess i have to believe her tho!

 

[AC1987]

I guess you're not then? Do you feel sad or disappointed?

If I can get my hubby on board then maybe fall of next year we can try again.
I'd like my last two to be close in age.. so that's why I'm ok with the wait at the moment, but at the same time I don't want to wait too long.

 

[hello_kitty]

How is everyone doing? I just got back from my second Canada trip. It was a blast! Husband liked it so much he said we'll be going back every summer.

Jo - any updates after the scan?

Ashley - you are LUCKY that phil is ok with 4. Dh only wants 3 unless our next is another boy, he is willing to try for a 4th in hopes of a girl, but if next is a girl, thats it. I could always have a planned "accident" (wink wink) but I dont feel its right to bring a 4th child to this world that my husband doesnt want, not to mention that would be me tricking my husband into it...so I guess I should get used to the number 3.

I am so confused sometimes. I want as close an age gap as possible given our situation because no. 3 may be our last which means we cant plan around it like you (last 2 close in age) but I am loving all this free time and travelling without being pregnant that I dont have that urge to get pregnant. Which is bad in a way because if I dont get that urge and opt for travelling instead, it might delay our plans even more which means bigger age gap..

 

[AC1987]

Well my DH technically never wanted kids, he wants just a boy, but I think since we just have girls he is fine for trying for more. His reason for not wanting them is the cost, cause its just so expensive to have a baby
I asked him just for fun when he'd want to have another and he says not for 18 years
I'm fine with the bit of a break right now, Rose is at a very difficult age and I know I couldn't handle another baby right now.

 

[ricschick]

hey everyone hows things? how are you now jo? any news on the scan?

Patrice hows pregnancy with twins going??

im good, back on the pill and im happy with that (for now) Joanie is shuffling everywhere with the odd crawl thrown in pulling herself up on everything and standing unaided for short periods of time!
currently looking a secondary/high schools for ellie which is nerve wracking!!

ive started Christmas shopping!! determined to be done by 1st dec!! and im trying to lose some weight!

 

[hello_kitty]

Claire - sounds like you've got a lot on your plate! You have plenty of time to xmas shop. I usually dont shop til black friday when things go on sale (sometimes I dont even make the cut though and shop one week before xmas). Hs over here doesnt start til the kid is at least 14. I dont know how the system works where you live though.

Its difficult stage when they are beginning to walk isnt it? Jayden is turning 15 months in 2 weeks and he wants to walk everywhere! He started walking at 13 months but fell occasionally, he began walking steadily at 14 months and now we cant keep him locked up (we had an 8 panel play yard). He wants to walk evey where with his brother.

They fight over toys too, but Zachary usually gives it up.

My husband wants to try next year around April/May for number 3, but if its a girl we'll be stopping OR we can try in 5-6 years (so I can go back to school) and he'll agree to have 2 more with a closer age gap between the last 2. Having a hard time deciding.

What do you think ladies. I want 4 initially, but by the time number 3 gets here, Zachary will be 9 and Jayden 7. Is that really bad?

 

[AC1987]

I'm horrible with Christmas shopping.. I don't start until December I blame that on my hubby though because I don't get a chance to go out to shops until then.

But I'm HOPEFULLY heading back to Canada for two weeks in December so maybe I'll get my shop done there

My kids are driving me CRAZY lately I want to lock myself in my room sometimes! *sigh* Rose is now at a very difficult age.. like I don't know what to do with her.

 

[magicwhisper]

hi everyone!! i did a huge update on my journal here so will have to copy and paste when i can lol

 

[ricschick]

all mine walked between 14m-16m so its normal for us, I like them to walk a little later because they have more self awareness and less likely to hurt themselves!

secondary school starts at 11 here scary time!!

its hard to say kitty its a personal choice I liked the close age gap but you do have 2 close together so waiting and having another 2 close together would be nice too! I did like that when I had joanie there was a 4 year age gap as it meant I only had 1 baby to look after xx

 

[hello_kitty]

With zachary, I was really anticipating the day that he would walk. It eventually happened when he turned 15 months and thats when things got out of control. As soon as they learn how to walk steadily, they cant get out of anything!

With Jayden, I had less of the anticipation. I am totally more laid back and just though "ehh, he'll walk when he's ready." Also, the experience with Zachary was still fresh in my mind so I kinda dreaded him walking. Facing my nightmare right now, although he's cute as a button with his waddle, he wants to walk everywhere and pick up everything!

About the baby thing, we'll probably decide when the time comes around. I have until April/May to decide if I wanna pass or not. Right now I am just focusing on losing weight and taking classes.

Good luck with your school search!

 

[AC1987]

I'm SO freaking out... my period is a day late. And for no apparent reason
I'm guessing its due to stress. Because we didn't even have sex this month.
But I've been cramping for the last 3 days and its REALLY felt like it was coming but nothing.. like I even wore a pad the last 3 days cause that's how much it felt like it was coming, and its just cm.
Not only that I can't even take a pregnancy test for peace of mind because my DH will freak out. Like there is no way to even sneakily buy one

 

[AC1987]

I'm now 2 days late... *sigh* this is so frustrating! Like it still feels like my period is going to start but its just cm... and that HAS happened before getting my period but it has also happened during pregnancy I honestly don't think we even had sex this month though.. like I'd been trying to think if we did do it at all but I don't think so. And its not a question I can ask the hubby.. like Oh by the way did we have sex this month

 

[AC1987]

It came!! PHEW!! ahhh I'm so relieved. I wonder maybe if my iron is low if that's why it was so delayed..

 

[ricschick]

that's good news AC!!

 

[AC1987]

Heeyyy ladies.... how is everyone?? its so quiet here!!

Not much happening with me.. I'm so hormonal lately.. its like there is a part of me that is DYING to be pregnant again, then I think about it and I'm like no way not now