light hearted ttc

[skyraaa]

Hows all our bumps getting on?

I'm apparently 10dpo and got a bfn this morning so won't be testing again now til Monday 😒

Early days as yet I only ever started to get a really light just noticable line at 12dpo still hope do u feel pregnant?

 

[ricschick]

I'm not sure I've had a pulling sensation when I move quickly today and a little cramps.
I no my body is quite slow when getting a positive on a test so we shall see!

 

[hello_kitty]

I'm not sure I've had a pulling sensation when I move quickly today and a little cramps.
I no my body is quite slow when getting a positive on a test so we shall see!

Good luck Claire!

 

[ricschick]

Af turned up 😒

 

[josephine3]

Aww sorry rics. Georgia has the dreaded chicken pox! Just hoping by some miracle jamie doesnt get it. Matts not had it either so its not gonna be a fun few weeks i feel!!

 

[ricschick]

Oh no but it's likely Jamie will but best to get it over with! Mine had it one after the other so for 4 weeks I had it in my house luckily dh didn't catch it as he hasn't had it before either.

 

[AC1987]

Wow! I haven't been here in a while..

Congrats Lily!!

And I hope the other pregnant ladies are feeling well!!

AFM I am happy for not being pregnant anytime soon, I feel insanely overwhelmed with just my 2 I am content, and things are horrible with my marriage, I just don't want to be with him anymore, but I have to since I have no where else to go
I did however look something up! My kids can get Canadian citizenship because I am Canadian!! So that is something to keep in mind for whatever the future holds.
I am back in Canada visiting, its a bit stressful my dad is in pain from a couple hernias and its making him very short fused.

If I could never ever go back to NC I would be overjoyed... I just hate it there, and I hate being married.

 

[josephine3]

Aww ashley hope you are enjoying the break at least is it just u and the kids? Maybe sone space will do u good xx

 

[ricschick]

Why don't you stay there ?

 

[hello_kitty]

Sorry for af showing up Claire.

I remember getting chicken pox when I was in first grade. It was so horrible! Hope Gerogia will be able to overcome it soon Jo.

Hi Ashley! Nice to hear from you and that you're getting a break in Canada. Thanks for the congrats. It does look like you are going back to Canada more often now. Is there really no way you can be straight forward with him and even your parents if you dislike him that much? There's really no point being with him if you dont even wanna come home anymore. Marriage is made up of good and bad days but by the sound of it, it looks like you're more miserable than happy and it doesnt look like its just a phase anymore.

 

[AC1987]

Yea its just me and the kids. I can't enjoy myself when my DH is with me because he is always moody over EVERYTHING!
Its hard though, my parents adore him, my sisters like him... but its like they don't live with him so they don't see the real him.

And I can't just stay here, for one I have all my stuff left in NC, and also I have no where to stay here and no money..

I keep telling myself that the years will get better, but I just don't know HOW.

I'm sorry to rain on everyones happiness I am happy for you all!

 

[ricschick]

Hun you vent away!! We are all here to listen! And help if we can. How long are you away for? Maybe talk to your family about what's going on ? Ok they like him but they love you! Xx

 

[hello_kitty]

I agree with what Claire said. You need to get it across with your parents. This is not going to work out if you are feeling like this day in and day out. Its going to get worse through the years. They've known you for all your life, how long do they know him? He SHOULD NOT be placed above you. My mom likes my husband but when I got married she told me that if for some reason if things dont work out, or if we get in a huge fight, she will always open her doors for me, and if I have no place to go she is willing to support me and my kids. I am sure your mom is a great mother, but really, thats what all moms should do, defend their own daughters, not their son in laws, especially if he has a problem.

I am starting to feel bitter for you, you need support at least from someone. You're way too young to be this miserable.

 

[ricschick]

I agree with what Claire said. You need to get it across with your parents. This is not going to work out if you are feeling like this day in and day out. Its going to get worse through the years. They've known you for all your life, how long do they know him? He SHOULD NOT be placed above you. My mom likes my husband but when I got married she told me that if for some reason if things dont work out, or if we get in a huge fight, she will always open her doors for me, and if I have no place to go she is willing to support me and my kids. I am sure your mom is a great mother, but really, thats what all moms should do, defend their own daughters, not their son in laws, especially if he has a problem.

I am starting to feel bitter for you, you need support at least from someone. You're way too young to be this miserable.

well said! there must be a family member you can confide in? you need some support otherwise you will send yourself mad

lily hows the pregnancy going? x

 

[hello_kitty]

I have some acid reflux, back pain, bloating, and my right boob gets super sore sometimes. I've also been very tired because I have to work at 5 am, but only for this week only. Starting monday I will only work from 7 am - 10:30 am. I have my first pre natal appointment next week, cant wait to see baby for the first time!

 

[ricschick]

ah how exciting I love all that stuff!!

 

[hello_kitty]

ah how exciting I love all that stuff!!

You want what you dont have. Before I got pregnant, I had baby fever on and off. some days I was dying for a new baby. Now that I am, I am not as happy as I thought I would be...probably because I had decided to wait until the end of the year and ended up getting pregnant sooner...I dont know some days I feel so happy, other days I just feel meh. Pregnancy hormones I guess.

 

[ricschick]

yeah I think that's normal as your not feeling great and your hormones are all over the place.

its been a year and a half that we have been discussing having another baby and we are still not 100% and its doing my head in!! logically it would be easier to stay as we are for so mamy reasons but my heart says otherwise I just don't no what to do for the best!

 

[hello_kitty]

yeah I think that's normal as your not feeling great and your hormones are all over the place.

its been a year and a half that we have been discussing having another baby and we are still not 100% and its doing my head in!! logically it would be easier to stay as we are for so mamy reasons but my heart says otherwise I just don't no what to do for the best!

If you can make it work and its really what your heart wants, I'd say go with it. Before I had any babies, I planned to have my kids close in age with a max age gap of 2 years, well as you can see this baby will have over a 3 year age gap from the last. If I want a 4th, the age gap will be even more (at least 4 years) because we have to look into buying a house to fit all of us. We currently live in an apartment and the max is 5 people anyway...so yea given our circumstances, I cant go with what my heart desires. Also since the 4th will definitely be our last baby, I want to wait a bit longer so I can cherish it more.

 

[josephine3]

Hey ladies how are we all? Just fancied a chat! Ashley i been thinking about u and ur oh.. all i can say is when my oh suddenly realised that he stood to lose his kids, hes bucked his ideas right up. ( altho i still didnt get a valentines present which im a bit bitter about but still..) im not saying giv him an ultimatum, yet, but its gotta be time for a proper talk about where u guys are headed. Does he see the problems or is he fine with how things are? Me and the oh have had to bite the bullet a few times recently, sit down and really be adult about the situation. Hard to do tho i know. Is there any sort of financial support system where u live if u were to decide to leave him?