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[hello_kitty]

Its much better claire, thanks for asking.

How are you feeling?

 

[josephine3]

Yay congrats rics!! Just came on bnb to see ur bfp lol great frer!! So exciting!! So fast too have u told hubby?! I wish i could convince mine u ladies are making me even broodier!

 

[ricschick]

Thanks jo!! Yeah told hubby I sent him a picture of the ic and he could see the line which is a first! And he said a warm happy feeling came over him. 😁

Lily feeling ok at the moment a little tired and some what yucky if I don't eat for long periods of time. X

 

[hello_kitty]

Aww Jo, I wish you will be able to convince your oh sooner. I was certain that I was going to wait until at least the end of this year. Even coming on here didnt make me stray from my plan but then SIL had a baby and thats when I got really broody. Anyway, this baby might possibly be our last if its a girl, I mean there's a part of me that says im done and a part that says Im not. Either way my plan is to wait at least 4 years before having a 4th of I decide to, lets hope I dont change my mind.

Claire - I felt the same way the first few weeks. I didnt feel like eating at all. For me, I think I was trying to wrap my head around the idea of having a new baby.

 

[AC1987]

I am SOOOO broody! However I know my DH and I have too many problems to even consider having another. Like right now I don't even want him near me so I don't see us having sex in the future
However I also know its not practical... and I don't want another debt. We JUST finished paying for the kids being born.

 

[hello_kitty]

Ugh my husband said we shouldn't have anymore after this one seeing how much pain I'm already having. Sharp pain in lower left back since last night and it's killing me. Don't know if it's pregnancy related or something else. I'm gonna go get checked out tomorrow if it doesn't get better.

 

[josephine3]

Lily what happened this time was it a moment of madness or broodiness that made u not use somethin lol? Has it sunk in yet? X

 

[ricschick]

lily it might be a trapped nerve or something hope it eases for you!

is it safe for me to do my pelvic floor exercises?

 

[hello_kitty]

Jo - it was definitely broodiness. I struggle every month right around O day. Once my fertile days are over, I go back to normal and happy I didnt get pregnant. During the 2ww, i told myself if i didnt get pregnant i would definitely prevent the same thing from happening next time...well i didnt get the chance. SIL's new baby really did it for me, i dont care much if friends or strangers get pregnant but when a close fam member has a new baby i get super broody and my dumb dh asked if he could let it out inside me (tmi sorry) and the broody me said yes. Anyways, it has sunk in. It was mixed emotions at first, but now its pure excitement. After this baby, i need to go on some type of bc because if it were up to my dh we'd end up with 10 kids.

Claire - it may be, idk. Getting better but not entirely better. Ibcan still feel it. Im still doing my regular exercises. My doctor said pretty much anything is safe in first tri.

 

[josephine3]

Im totally the same really broody around ov time. I thought ur oh wasnt up for more kids cos u were worried about telling him? Mayb i got confused! Cant believe ur 10 weeks already! Rics dont ask us ur the expert

 

[hello_kitty]

We were using the withdrawal method Jo. He wanted more kids but we agreed on the end of this year, I was afraid to tell him because I was trying to let it sink in. Now we're over that shock phase and it's became exciting.

My pregnancy was dragging at first because I found out super early, now it's picking up.

Are you using any protection?

 

[josephine3]

Yeah condoms but he knows we wouldnt if it was up to me lol

 

[ricschick]

Jo has he said why he doesn't want any at the moment?

Lily are you showing yet?
Mine feels like it's dragging at the moment! Going to try and get a doctors appointment tomorrow to confirm and get referred! Can't wait for my first scan!!!

Ashley how are things with you! X

 

[hello_kitty]

I am pretty sure after this baby, dh will not be so calm if we ended up having another one within 2 years. Its about time that we buy a house and having another baby before then really is unreasonable. We're planning on buying a house probably in 2 years. Hopefully I dont start to get broody again before this kid turns 2 lol. I cant imagine being broody though because 3 is a handful, I wouldnt have time to think about anymore babies at least for awhile.

Claire - my husband thinks Im showing but I dont think so. Its not noticeable. Its only noticeable when Im wearing something tighter like tank tops. I've purchased some maternity tops and do not look pregnant in them at all, looks like im wearing a regular top. I barely showed with zachary, and definitely showed with Jayden but it wasnt until 17 weeks. I also felt like time was dragging up until this week actualy when I hit double digits.

 

[ricschick]

I show very quickly now my body just gets right to it lol so not sure how long il be able to keep it a secret lol.

 

[hello_kitty]

Ideally, I'd like to keep it a secret until im much further along. Mothers day would be fab. I'll be over 18 weeks. If my mom asks I'll surprise her lol. We will be keeping the gender a secret though, i dont want people bringing up gender.

 

[hello_kitty]

My "bump" at exactly 10 weeks. As you can see, nothing yet except for the fatness lol. Its hard for bigger girls like me to have an obvious bump

 

[hello_kitty]

Apparently, my dh is taking this pregnancy much better than I am. He's already growing attached to the baby. Yesterday, Jayden found one of my fruit punch mix it was a pack of powder and happened to be red. He poured the packet into the toilet. Shortly afterwards, dh came home for his break and saw the toilet filled with "blood" he freaked out and started screaming "is that your blood?? why is there so much blood? Are you miscarrying? Have you called the doctor? I'm taking the rest of the day off, im bringing you in this afternoon" I was seriously bombarded with questions and didnt know what was going on until I went into the bathroom and saw what he saw. I said thats not mine and probably the powdered mix that one of the kids got into. He said he's never felt so relieved in his life. He said his heart sank when he thought it was blood. I told him this baby wasnt planned anyways so shouldnt he be relieved if I did miscarry? He said "no, i want this baby, it already formed and has a heartbeat. I just want it to be healthy."

I nicknamed the baby marshmallow since we dont know what the gender is, and husband has been calling it marshmallow since, he refers to the baby by its nickname so naturally like its an actual name.

Anyway, that was an endearing moment for me seeing how much he wants and cares about the baby despite it being unplanned. I know some guys who act like jerks especially when the baby was unplanned.

 

[AC1987]

Hey Ladies!

Aww Lily that's so sweeet!!


Claire how did your doctors appointment go?


AFM, things are blah dh is back to ignoring me, ie won't say good bye to me just leaves..
He is also acting weird, like he freaks out if I glance at his phone as if its this huge invasion of privacy yet he keeps trying to see what I'm doing on my phone or laptop, even though I'm not doing anything except chatting with my sisters or playing a game.
I'm kinda depressed about being back here, I miss Canada a lot of the time! But I am trying hard not to mope for my DH's sake, since I know I was overly miserable after summer last year.
A part of me is feeling like maybe I'm just crazy for thinking that he isn't nice, I mean everyone else seems to adore him and think he is wonderful so maybe its me that has the problem.

 

[hello_kitty]

Dont ever blame yourself Ashley. You are not the one with the problem. Usually abusers are really good at decieving other people and they can easily put on a fake charm. I think thats what he's trying to do, getting your family to adore him so that if you come out and complain about him, they wouldnt believe you. I dont know what else to say, because its going to sound repetitive. If I were you, I would find a way to get out by all means. He sounds toxic and its not good for your kids...unless he's a good dad, which we dont know. My stepdad used to be a jerk and still is. He didnt help my mom raise the kids while my siblings were growing up. He just went to work, came home, ate, and slept, was not involved with them at all. So if he's also a bad father, gives you even more reason to leave.