Living on my own with LO for the first time, will i cope?

[gracexxx]

Ive just moved out from my mums, where i lived with LO, My mum and 2 brothers. I moved back there when FOB left me at 7 months because i felt i needed the support. LO is now 8 months and ive felt it was time to move on, get out from under everyones feet and be more independent.
Its only been 2 days since i moved but its been lovely having our own space.
But i cant help worrying about whether after a while of being on my own ill struggle to cope? ive only moved to the next town, so i can always take LO to my mums if i feel its all getting too much and my friends have reassured they dont mind helping out.
How old was your LO when you were living on your own with them? how did you cope?

 

[DragonTamer]

I moved out of my moms when I was pregnant with my 7yo. I already had a 7yo and 5yo at the time so I was really nervous. I managed and didn't start having any issues until my baby was almost 2yo and that was just financial issues due to the fact that I didn't realize how expensive the health insurance from work really was. Around this time I was seeing a guy and things turned serious, he moved in and things got a lot better until last month when he went to jail. Now I've been thrust into single life again and because I wasn't emotionally prepared and I was less than 3wks away from my due date with my 4th child I have had a really hard time adjusting. Its been over a month (almost 2) and things are getting easier, not harder.

You should but fine, hun...especially with the support of your mum and friends...I don't have my mother anymore (she passed away from cervical cancer) and my friends support has been sporatic...

 

[jaytee146]

Lo and I moved out when she was six and a half months old. we moved less than two miles from my mom and visit at list 2 to 3 times a week for a little while. This week I felt a bit ill so I actually came over for a visit and stayed the night a few nights. I will admit it's not easy all the time but the peace of mind I've gained is truly great! I have a budget set forth and sometimes I go under or make ends meet until next time I get paid. I can't say I've gone without a meal and for that I'm thankful!

I've learned to appreciate the little things, and if all else fells I actually left my king bed and a tv at my mothers so whenever I feel like I want a bit of company we just come back and sleep in my old room

You can do this... set a budget for all your monthly bills and see where you can cut back and save....

 

[gracexxx]

thankyou ladies, im a big worrier anyway and ive been worrying so much lately about alot of things just asking myself questions like will i be ok financially? will i get really lonely? i know my friends have said they'll help out but i know now more than ever what people say and do are two different things. i want to stick at this, and i do realise there are going to be tough times. But im sure ill be fine

 

[Dezireey]

I had to move back in with my parents but they go abroad for half the year, so technically I am on my own for most of the time. I appreciate them being around like you wouldn't believe, especially today, I miss them as I have a bloody cold/flu and it just irritates me to get colds and flu looking after a baby as you need to rest to get better but you can't and you feel like crap.So my advice is, yes its lovely having your own space, the place organised, the way you want it etc but I highly recommend having at least one person (family / friend etc) who can or could come over and help out if you get ill.Everything else appears to be manageable on your own, I've had no problems.

 

[Laura2919]

Of course. You will find a way to cope. At first the nights are quiet and lonely but eventually you get used to it.
Busy yourself, housework I am sure you are never short of because lets face it keeping a house is hard work

You'll be fine. xx

 

[Dream.dream]

You will be fine

It's a new experience and when I first loved on my own I did get lonley sometimes

But the independence I ha with my son was so worth it. Also there was alot of pride in being on your own