lonely... feel like im on a different planet then all my friends. advice ?

[thecurlymama]

About two weeks before I found out I was pregnant I quit the school I was going to. I enrolled in the program running start with the community college which means I get to earn high school and college credits without having to go to the actual high school. That alone left me feeling like I was drifting away from my school friends, but as soon as I found out that I was pregnant I started ignoring everyone and when they come around to my house (my best friend lives with me and we have the same friend circle, so they're still around) I feel so awkward! Our house has always been the main hang out spot because america (my bff of 11 years) and i's room(s) are on the very top (third) floor and have become the hang spot for everyone. luckily i'm moved into the lower room (the guest room) now so I have my own space to nest and collect baby stuff and feel like I'm not crowded by all the weed smoking and mess of the rest of my friends....

ANYWYAS...
what has really been bothering me is the fact that everytime I'm around any of my friends from school or anything I feel like I'm on a completely different planet or a different time zone or something... I just can't connect with them anymore. Most of them don't even know I'm pregnant and I know they won't be very supportive when they do find out so as of now I just ignore them and try not to hang around them when they're over here anymore. It makes me really sad when they invite me to go out and party or something like that and I have to say no without any explanation or anything/:

I feel like I need some new friends that will support me and understand where I'm coming from when I say I just want to stay in and watch movies and eat and drink tea! My sister and my boyfriend are the only ones that really understand. My bf works all day and I spend almost all my other free time with him and my sister lives on the other side of the freaking country so I just feel so alone! Any advice would help so much! I just want some company from somebody who is on the same page and maturity level as i am (or at least trying to be)

thanks!
Emma x

 

[JWandBump]

Hey I don't know if I'll be much help, but I also am feeling very lonely. I last seen my 'friends' months ago. If I text or ring them they never reply or get back to me. When I do eventually see them we have nothing to talk about it can be very awkward. I mean I understand in a way, I already have a LO and they live for going out on the weekends :/
I don't know anyone else preg or have any mummy friends :/ it's very hard. If it wasn't for my OH and sister I would go insane!

Anyway I'm Jorja, I'm 21, I have a 2 year old and almost 17weeks pregnant if you wanna chat feel free to add me on here xx

 

[jozylynn896]

I know exactly how you feel. But in my opinion true friends don't dump you once you fall pregnant
You'll find more friends soon tho, and they won't care if you have a baby.
Trust me!

 

[lizmageeful]

First I would tell your friends, cause you never know and some might actually react well. Also, soon enough they will kinda figure it out when you have a large bump, and they might be hurt that you didnt tell them.

Secondly, I would look into any teen mommy groups in your area. Ive met some really awesome people in my city that are in the same or a similar situation to me and its nice to have that support.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

I think it happens to everyone to be honest. You either grow up beyond their maturity level or they just dump you as it's 'harder' to chill with a baby hanging around. Your better off staying away from the weed smell and people like that anyway. But I do know how your feeling. I'm rather lonely as well