Looking for some advice/thoughts....

[Hazelnut]

Hi girls,
I haven't been on for a while as I suffered a MC in July.
At my scan they said that I have a biocornuate uterus, which is when there is a dip in the uterus...some say it's like a heart shape. I was told it won't stop us getting pregnant but it may increase the chance of MC, and that I may need more monitoring.

Anyway, we decided we needed a break from ttc just for a couple of months and then start again.

Well, we have now booked a Carribean cruise in Jan for my 30th birthday, but i am really struggling as I feel like i am in limbo land if you know what i mean.

For instance, do we start trying again now, as we are both ready again and I've had 2 periods now. But what about if the doctors say I can't go on holiday? We have insurance but we do want to go away but I so much want to start trying again. We are also going with my parents so then if I do have to cancel then they will be left. Am i making sense??

I have an appt with my gynae consultant at the end of Oct and I've thought, shall I wait and ask him but then that's another cycle and we're just waiting.

Oh, I do hope i've made sense, and thanks in advance if you reply. x x x x x

 

[spoona]

So sorry to hear of your loss hun, sounds like you've really been through the mill!
I know what it feels like to desparately want a baby, and I know that you want it NOW, NOW,NOW! but My advice would be to wait, give your body time to recover, focus on preparing your body for conception, you want your baby to have the best possible home for 9 months, right?
Talk to your partner, talk to your Dr, and most important - try to relax and take time for yourself.
Good luck!

 

[Hazelnut]

So sorry to hear of your loss hun, sounds like you've really been through the mill!
I know what it feels like to desparately want a baby, and I know that you want it NOW, NOW,NOW! but My advice would be to wait, give your body time to recover, focus on preparing your body for conception, you want your baby to have the best possible home for 9 months, right?
Talk to your partner, talk to your Dr, and most important - try to relax and take time for yourself.
Good luck! [/QUOTE

Thanks for your reply hun. We have been having lots of time together and i've really looked after myself, as I had no idea the effect a MC can have on you, physically and mentally but I feel so much stronger now.
x x x x

 

[beccad]

To be honest, it's only four or five months. I would wait until after your cruise, or start trying whilst you're on it?! Then you can enjoy yourself without worrying about what's going on inside, if you did happen to fall pregnant between now and then. Plus you can enjoy a cocktail or two (if you drink).

I know what you mean about feeling in limbo. We're waiting until December for a variety of reasons, but I'm SO desperate to get going now rather than waiting the three months.

 

[Hazelnut]

To be honest, it's only four or five months. I would wait until after your cruise, or start trying whilst you're on it?! Then you can enjoy yourself without worrying about what's going on inside, if you did happen to fall pregnant between now and then. Plus you can enjoy a cocktail or two (if you drink).

I know what you mean about feeling in limbo. We're waiting until December for a variety of reasons, but I'm SO desperate to get going now rather than waiting the three months.

Thanks hun. It is only 4/5 months away but we were trying ince Jan 2010, so it's getting on for us...well thats how it feels. x x

I think if we hadn't have tried before and it was the first time, then I really don't feel it would be problem waiting...but we've been there and i'm hoping to feel that overwhelming feeling again soon. x x

 

[BabyQ]

I was in exactly the same place as you a few months ago, a month or 2 after my mc nearly 4 months ago.

I was SO desperate for another baby but I knew it made more sense to wait with our wedding planned for wedding next year (to me this meant I had 3 months to conceive or never as i didn't want to get married whilst pregnant, only after or before!), also I wasn't 100% sure I was ready. And boy am I glad I waited, everything has slotted into place with certain other things in life that has happened - scarily perfectly if you know what I mean?

Sometimes you have to listen to your niggles xxxx