Hi,
I hope you don't mind me joining this thread. Until the past couple of months I one of seven girls who I knew to have TTC problems. Most of them knew each other and the support was great - we could bitch and moan together, but also be sympathetic to one another's problems.
So in February 2012 the first of us got pregnant after the removal of a significant cyst and an ovary. Her baby arrived in November. In September 2012 the second was pregnant, as a lean PCOSer and two early miscarriages. In January a friend with unexplained infertility found out she was expecting. In February 2013 my best friend got pregnant on IVF round 2, having had three rounds of clomid, again a PCOSer... and another who did not have problems got pregnant her first month, with TWINS having had sex a total of 3 times.
Then I miraculously found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were excited, terrified, it was completely unexpected, not least because I found out on a 50+ day cycle and I'd never ovulated naturally before. Sadly it was short lived and I lost my little one naturally somewhere between 5 and 6 weeks.
Cue pregnancy number 5 - a friend with a blocked tube had it removed and post surgery insisted that IVF was the only way forward for her. However, she must've known it was possible because she found out just after four weeks. I was the first person she told and we exchanged her good news for my bad. Her baby is due within a week of when mine would have been.
Somewhere between numbers 5 and 6 I found out I was pregnant again, but had refused to pee on a stick until I'd gone past 5-6 weeks. I started bleeding so I peed on a stick and sure enough it was a BFP, but it was gone again in the coming days.
Cue pregnancy number 6 - a really close friend has a series of fertility issues and has had six rounds of IVF and one round of egg donation, which she went overseas for. She had the most turbulent start to her pregnancy that I have ever known, but thankfully had a successful 12 week scan this week.
In addition to all this, one of my friends has just announced she's expecting her second. She had a mc at 12 weeks, so I'm delighted she's not had to struggle again.
Ultimately, I've been aware of problems since early 2011, got diagnosed with PCOS in November 11 (5 wks before my wedding day, what a lovely present!), but started TTC as soon as the GP referred us for tests and scans etc to see if nature was going to be kind to us. Nature is a BITCH.
So two years down the road, everyone is either pregnant or at home with their first or fourth baby. The ones with babies, whether they've had problems themselves or not, have told me it's a good thing I've miscarried because it means I can get pregnant. Oh right - you try waiting this long and miscarrying twice within two months when you thought your ovaries and uterus had packed up and left town.
More's the point, try going through this when all your friends are pregnant, when you feel guilty for talking to them because it's the last thing a pregnant woman wants to hear, but more's the point, the last thing you want is to be saying this stuff to a bump.
Bottom line is I have two friends left - one has just bought a 4 bed house with a view to TTC any time now and the other is single. Neither has a concept of how hard it is to be here.
While all my preggers friends say they're still here for me, they're really not - they're at home eating gingernuts, complaining about the heat, saying their tired, uncomfortable or need to save money for when the baby arrives. If the baby's already here, I'm viewed as free childcare and the pity means I get presented with a child/baby the moment I walk in the door - thanks. They think they've not changed, but each and every one fundamentally has. They've joined a club and I'm not invited.
I've been on and off and on and off the surgery list for ovarian drilling because I didn't respond well to clomid. The metformin cleared my acne, but did little else. Apparently they're not sure if I'm a good candidate for IVF because of the way I responded to clomid. I was supposed to have surgery last week, but it got cancelled because of the miscarriages. I'm now deemed a recurrent miscarriage risk and have had blood taken for genetic and antibody testing.
Bleurgh. Sorry, I feel a bit better for getting all that out.
I'm lonely and hoping to make some friends who can help me to get a grip on all this TTC stuff. PCOS is evil and it's ruled my life too long.
So hello. Thank you for reading. I hope I've not just drained all your energy and I look forward to getting to know you better...
A
. After I called off my engagement I started dating my current boyfriend and we have been trying now for 1& 1/2 + years and to no luck. My partner is 27 and epileptic, he is on eplim, dilantin and keppra to control hes seizures and im scared they may be a factor in our heart break 
for changing your lifestyle. It's so worthy for a little miracle. I like your plan. Find a buddy and you can succeed together.
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My OH and I rarely fight, but I'm furious with him at present. Long story. 
Trouble is he's supposed to start giving me shots tomorrow. Hmmmm....not sure how to handle that one. I know some of it started because hanging out with my niece and nephew is hard. Nephew even asked if we're going to have kids. 
Can't get mad at an 8 year old, but sheesh. And I definitely feel like things are on hold. It's so hard to plan! And it's so hard to do my favorite activity, which is backpacking. Can't dotrips during the FP because of cycle monitoring. Can't do long trips during the LP because it might affect chances. So, can't go backpacking. 
And for how long? 
Are you doing the progesterone suppositories? Those are no fun! 
