LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[pipilotta]

How exciting lorna! I'm so happy for you.
Once my dh is back in town we will do the scsa test, and I will try and ask some questions at fs.

 

[Myshelsong]

Lorna that is so exciting!
Hope everything goes smoothly and you get your bfp soon!

 

[pbl_ge]

Sounds like some good news around here! Glad you NZ folks in particular are doing well! I'll give a longer response later, but just wanted to give update about me (selfish! ). I went to the doc's this AM and my cyst is gone! I have to take a few extra days because we're going to the Cape one last time, but I'll get to start injections next week!

I'm going to need everyone singing Beyonce's "to the left to the left" more me, so I can bypass my non-functioning right tube.

 

[DBZ34]

Im glad your hsg went dbz. I think i would opt to ttc if i were you.

Been doing some research on the internet this week. I have a retroverted uterus and because of it i have painful periods especially in my back. And i am prone to constipation in the week leading up to AF. Anyway i was trying to find ways that may be i didn't know to help with the pain this month when i also read that women who have a tilted uterus can take longer to conceive. I am wondering if this could be the reason why it took us 19 months to conceive. I also found out that bding doggie style is supposed to be a better position to conceive if you have this and that you should lie on your stomach after rather than your back. Going to give it a try and see. If it works and i manage to get pg quicker than 19 months why could i have not found this out over 2 years ago when we started ttc!

Im also in the UK and its royal baby crazy in the media at the mo. When we all finally get our much longed for little ones do you think so much fuss will be made of us?

I think I might be horrified if I got that much attention, truthfully. And the way they're talking about her post-baby belly is kind of appalling. I mean, how are women supposed to look a day or two after giving birth?

I think changing it up and BDing a different way is good in general, keeps the TTC fun. Hopefully the change will bring a BFP! Good luck!

We are the troopers! We are so brave! We deserve a monument built for us!WE are going through all those medical tests, procedures and our Honeys provide only sperm.

DBZ, I am so glad that your HSG went smoothly. I hope yur righty is ok. You have hope and you should be very excited about this cycle.

About me,
I am calling my RE office tomorrow to set an appointment with a green firtility IVF Dr. I'll make it around August 9, by that time my period should show up. My mom asked me: "when are you doing your IVF?", I told her "July we'll do naturally.....and ..." she interupted me "July doesn't count!"
My hubby is the only one optimistic this month. He wants to do it naturally so baaaad! He feels the deadline is here. He wanted to BD every day. He even didn't drink alcohol before BD, first time I didn't need to remind him. WE played doctors. He checked my blood pressure, blood oxygen, temperature. He examined my pelvis. He masssaged all my body in and out WE orgasmed at the same time.
We used preseed for the first time.
In all 19 months he was so passive in baby making, "we'll get preggo don't worry,"but this month he "gave his life" for this little one. Finally he wants him. I told him many times you need to want it too really bad and we'll have it.

Funny, but yesterday during BD, 2 girl names came up to my head: Aurelija and Emilija. I told him and he loved them!

I beleave that baby making should be not a job, but fun too!

Congrats Kate and Will!

I'm so glad that your DH is giving it his all this month! It sounds like you two had a wonderful time connecting with each other. Hopefully July will be your luck month, despite what your mom says.

DBZ- I was not to told to wait either. Maybe she just had experience with an ectopic and related it to the HSG. Hope you hear your results soon, and hope both tubes look good.

PBL- Fingers crossed that you are cyst free on thursday!

Dov- Sounds like you guys are giving it all you got...and that is awesome! You will know whatever happens next... that you guys tried with everything!

AFM-
Had my WTF appt w.RE regarding failed FET. Went in to talk about existing embie quality, husband's SA and if it is really bad and if he can assure me that my fibroids aren't impeding with pregnancy. He said that the problem fibroid doesn't seem to be impeding on my uterus but since they are causing me a lot of pain, pretty much all the time, that not only medically, but also for fertility purposes, that he would take them out. 3 months after myomectomy, we could do the FET. He did mention that due to embryo quality, and my issues and age, that he would transfer all 3. Due to financial issues, we can not afford another round of IVF. We talked about going donor embryo route. My egg quality is poor with DOR and 1 fallopian tube patent. And DH's SA isn't excellent. He said he thinks another round of IVF w ICSI would be great, but he understands that a donor embryo is at greater odds for us. 3 round package with a refund option. Lots to think about, but I feel good because I feel like we have a plan. Just wanted to update you all and see if any of you have had a myomectomy and what were your recoveries like. I had a laparoscopy last year.

Thanks, cali!

I'm glad they're going to take care of those fibroids for you. Hopefully that will mean you'll be pain free and you'll get that BFP you've been waiting for in the near future. I'm so glad you have a plan. I hope it all goes well!

Hi all just an update. Have been a bit awol and just trying to catch up where everyone is at. We have a date for consent signing etc and picking up drugs so our wait is almost over. Cannot believe we will be starting IVF so very soon. As pipi said been a bit hairy in NZ last few days especially in teh areas where we both are with all the uqakes but all good so far .

Hope everyone is good and hope to see more BFP's soon

Hooray for IVF happening soon! Good luck! And stay safe!

 

[Myshelsong]

Hey Ladies how was everyones week?

So along with the soy I decided to try to improve CM and have been taking Guaifenesin (active ingredient in Musinex i bought the brand name of this ingredient only) and a little bit of Evening prim rose and HOLY COW DO I HAVE EWCM!

Not sure if this is the soy or everything together but honestly haven't seen this much in YEARS. Hubby even commented on it. Going to be a fun Sex Weekend!!!

Pebble: So excited your cyst is gone! I hate having a cyst it feels like everything is just on hold when that happens. Not fair or fun. Good luck on Injections, hopefully this will be the one!

Pipi - do you have an appointment for the SA yet?

 

[flou]

Hey Ladies how was everyones week?

So along with the soy I decided to try to improve CM and have been taking Guaifenesin (active ingredient in Musinex i bought the brand name of this ingredient only) and a little bit of Evening prim rose and HOLY COW DO I HAVE EWCM!

Not sure if this is the soy or everything together but honestly haven't seen this much in YEARS. Hubby even commented on it. Going to be a fun Sex Weekend!!!

Pebble: So excited your cyst is gone! I hate having a cyst it feels like everything is just on hold when that happens. Not fair or fun. Good luck on Injections, hopefully this will be the one!

Pipi - do you have an appointment for the SA yet?

Good luck, hope you catch the egg this month!

 

[pipilotta]

No date yet myshel, we will ring the fertility clinic once my husband is back in town. But because this is not a funded test I suspect we should get a date soon.
By that time dh is on fertility vitamins over three months, i'm curious to see as well if his sperm improved!

 

[Myshelsong]

like most of us without children me and my husband have a few animals we have a dog we got this year and we love she is a big mutt we wouldn't change a thing about her and we got to hilarious cat. So the other day we decided to buy a mixed breed dog DNA kit just because she's our baby we want to know a little bit about her.
so I told my boss at work when we got it because I thought it was kind of funny and I know that she has a dog so I thought she would be interested in it. What I was not expecting was her reaction. She ended up laughing at me and then told me "you really need to have children" and then that she said "When maybe the last time you went shopping and bought yourself some new clothes"
I just have no idea why she would say something like that when she knows that we're having fertility issues because we had to take some time off work to get lots done and things like that and she still that something so hurtful to me for no reason. I'm so annoyed so mad I just want to punch her in the face for being as insensitive and cruel I she's been. Who is she to tell me what I should and should not spend my money on and how dare she tell me that I need to have children because I am obviously bored and spending too much money on my animals.

Anyway I am still so upset about it I don't know what I should do. There is a part of me that just wants to quit because it would seriously f up her summer. anyways thank you for the rant hope everyone else's weekend is it doing a little bit better

 

[pipilotta]

I'm sorry myshel. People like her seem to vent their own unhappiness towards others, and hurt them to feel better about themselves.
It was unnecessary and hurtful as well as unprofessional if she is your boss. Let it not bring you down too much, people like her are not worth it.

 

[dovkav123]

How everybody is doing?


WE have a heat wave in Germany around 37 will spyke today. Yesterday was hot too. It was wonderful feeling when I felt some rain sprinkled on my skin. It was a very cooling moment! I am cooking nothing, eating veggies and berries and cold smoked fish. Last night at 1 am it was 30 degrees, beautiful, romantic night we had a dinner in the restaurant by the river with a vew of the castles. We drove convertable and I got my first pink sun kiss. More Vit D more chances for a miracle!

I called RE office and they told me to contact them when my period starts and they'll make an appointment on 8CD for ultrasound. I told receptionist that we are interested in green firtility treatment and he said:" Ya, what ever it's called" And I asked lots of questions and he said "I have no time to talk" When you hear this attitude, you don't want to have business with this clinic. The guy won't suffer, but the doctors will. They'll loose their patients. I am paying huge money out of my pocket and he thinks he is doing me a favor. I am the customer and I want be treated nice!
Anywa, I was unhappy when I found out that my clinic is closed on the weekend and if my O falls in those days, we''ll wait for another IVF cycle!!! Are they nuts? August cycle O is falling around the weekend.


I am lucky an appoinment with another RE 1,5 month ago, my friend recommended. They offered first free consultation. This clinic is open 10 hours a day and of course they perform IVF in the weekend by appointment only.
I can't beleave I will see a third RE this year!!!
.

 

[dovkav123]

I am having my green tea fix this morning and i am thinking about you all!
I am glad to see that you are all very proactive and doing everything to reach your goal!
Cali_kit,
You should have myomectomy done. It could prevents you from BFP. If it doesn't, you don't want to be in pain during pregnancy.

Steph 466,
I am glad you're taking clomid. I am sure you'll respond perfect and you'll get BFP soon!

pipi,your chart looks brilliant! Your temps are super high! If tries to creep up on you, she'll burn!

pbl_ge
I am so excited about your results! Your cysts are gone and you'll start your infectables. You changed my opinion about BC, it can be good too!
TO THE LEFT TO THE LEFT

MYSHELSONG,
I am sorry about your boss. I think you should tell her that she hurt your feelings. I know it hard but forgive her. Maybe she had a bad day or hormonal storm.

I am so happy that you are doing everything in your powers to get BFP before you RE appointment! Soy-primrose oil-musinex! Have a juicy this weekend!

Qiuck update from baby and bump
ICEQUEEN got BFP yesterday. She ttc since 01/01/2012. It was her natural and very patient one BFP. Stayhopeful ladies!
"I didn't do anything different this month, i just didn't stress about it anymore. I was just thinking that i will try to BD at the right time, but if i missed it then oh well..my time will come when it supposed to come and while ago i stopped taking punch of supplements i was trying, now i only took V-D3, folic acid, RRL tea and i did Castor oil packs almost everyday before O and i started working out. I see you do castor oil too...how often? DON'T GIVE UP 5MIN BEFORE MIRACLE!"- ICEQUEEN

 

[Serenyx]

Exciting news Lorna! Hope that your IVF cycle is successful

Very little news here - just more waiting. We had a hospital appt. last week where our consultant confirmed we have had all the testing required and so he filled in a form to send off to our PCT to see if they will fund us for IVF. He said it can take at least 6 weeks to hear back so I can't do anything but wait now.

Thankfully my husband read over the form before signing it as the consultant had made a mistake which would have meant we weren't eligible - we got the nurse to take the form back to the consultant and he quickly changed it (he wasn't really paying attention when he filled in the form, it must be so routine for him and he simply wrote Y for all of them without reading the questions and one should have been a N :/ ). I hope they don't send it back to him asking him to redo it since it now has a mistake on it.

We only noticed it ourselves as the hospital needed my husbands NHS number which I didn't have on me (I had all of my information, I didn't realise we would need all of his too!). We phoned the doctors and they refused to give it out over the phone so we had to take the form and drive all the way to the doctors to get it (upon arrival the receptionist asked why we didn't just phone and she must have seen the look on my face as I tersely told her we did call and they wouldn't give it to us ).

Nevermind - not much I can do now but wait and see if they agree to fund us, we meet all of their criteria but I still worry

 

[steph_466]

Thanks Dovkav123!! Im working on the staying really positive thing this month! So far its been really good, I Do however has some minor pain on my left overy, not sure what it could be being I dont have a tube on that side. Hopefully not another cyst, Im due for a pap this month so I guess we will find out then. Does it matter when to book a pap if your ttc or on clomid?? Aside from not booking it during the period?

 

[pbl_ge]

Hi Ladies!

Steph, yay for the positive mental attitude! Hope that sticks around. Not sure about the pap, but I'd be curious what answers you got. My guess is that early in the FP would be best?

Serenyx, hope you get to start the IVF soon! I hope the paperwork got sorted out. You're so lucky that it's paid for!

dovkav, when do you start your "Green IVF"? Will that involve any stimulation at all, or will it just be the retrieval of the single egg?

Lorna -- So glad you get to start soon! I hope that they get oodles of juicy fat eggs and that you have lots of gorgeous embies to work with!

DBZ, I need to check your journal. How are you doing? Glad the HSG went well. Looks like TWW right now, and I think you went for it, right? FX for you!

Pippi, looks like it's decision time soon! Hope the stays away.

Cali, I know others who had a myomectomy and got pregnant after. I don't think the recovery was bad, but they had to wait 3 months, too. It's a bummer. Exciting that you'll do the FET soon!

Myshel, I saw something about your boss/coworker on the other thread. I'll go respond to that soon. Sorry you have to deal with that. Hope O comes soon!

Flou, I know other people with retroverted uterii and I've heard about the doggy-style thing. Yay for experimentation! Hope that keeps it fun. Perhaps moving around a bit after is good, too?

Big hugs to everyone else I'm missing.

I took my last BCP this AM, so now it's just waiting for AF. We're going to the Cape again from Tuesday through Sunday, so keeping my FX that it's about 3 days until CD1. Then the jabs begin!

 

[pbl_ge]

like most of us without children me and my husband have a few animals we have a dog we got this year and we love she is a big mutt we wouldn't change a thing about her and we got to hilarious cat. So the other day we decided to buy a mixed breed dog DNA kit just because she's our baby we want to know a little bit about her.
so I told my boss at work when we got it because I thought it was kind of funny and I know that she has a dog so I thought she would be interested in it. What I was not expecting was her reaction. She ended up laughing at me and then told me "you really need to have children" and then that she said "When maybe the last time you went shopping and bought yourself some new clothes"
I just have no idea why she would say something like that when she knows that we're having fertility issues because we had to take some time off work to get lots done and things like that and she still that something so hurtful to me for no reason. I'm so annoyed so mad I just want to punch her in the face for being as insensitive and cruel I she's been. Who is she to tell me what I should and should not spend my money on and how dare she tell me that I need to have children because I am obviously bored and spending too much money on my animals.

Anyway I am still so upset about it I don't know what I should do. There is a part of me that just wants to quit because it would seriously f up her summer. anyways thank you for the rant hope everyone else's weekend is it doing a little bit better

Argh, found this story!

To me, this story is not someone who is intentionally cruel, just someone who is judgmental and tone deaf. Perhaps it would be better to pity her for a lack of social skills? I mean, that's an idiotic thing to say to someone with fertility issues. But I think she meant to say that she supports you becoming a parent, but said it as only someone who doesn't know empathy from a doorknob would say it.

But don't let her insensitivity cause you to be out of a job. She's not worth it.

I think it's FABULOUS that you're getting your dog's breed tested. My friends really wanted a border collie, so got one from the pound. Then it didn't act like a border collie ****at all*****. So they did the testiing and found out that he doesn't even have a little bit of border collie in him, but had a weird, random mix of other things that yielded a dog that looked just like a border collie.

Let us know what you find out!

 

[pipilotta]

I'm expecting af any time soon. Before this morning I had some hope, I got hot flashes and was quite dizzy when I went shopping on the weekend. This is really unusual for me. And then the high temps. But now it dropped, and it looks like the usual...but until she is here I keep my fingers crossed.

Dovkav, I think it's a good decision to change clinics. I hope the new one has better staff!

 

[LornaMJ]

Thanks everyone for your lovey comments, thank god we have such forums as makes this journey a little easier. The appt is in two weeks for consent signing etc and they will give me the drugs so hopefully looking at Sept cycle to have IVF. Will keep you all updates.

Pipi hope AF stays away crossing all fingers....any signs yet? Are you tempted to test?

ppl hope hope AF arrives for you soon, not often I say that and you can start jabbing away.

Steph so important to have a positive attitude.

Seren hope you get the funding. Be great to have an IVF buddy.

Everyone else hope all is good.

 

[faith2000]

Hi all, how comforting that there are others out there in similar situations.

Been with my partener for 8.5 years, TTC for nearly 2. Everyone around me is having unplanned babies which is really hard to deal with. First fertility appt today and felt really disheartened. I had an internal a few months back and was advised I had PCO, the counted 20 on one and 25 on the other ovary. Well was told today because my periods are regular I can't have PCO...which was a bit of a shock... I would have lent to annovulatory cycles from what I have read...well after having all these tests so the doctor would send me to a FS, she now wants me to do it again and my fiance to have his swimmers tested again ...so for 20 rushed minutes @ $220 for no answers... How was everyone elses experiance with their first appoitment?

If today felt this hard I am a bit wary on the future.

 

[flou]

Good luck with the appointment today Faith . I hope you start to get answers soon xx

 

[Serenyx]

I had an internal a few months back and was advised I had PCO, the counted 20 on one and 25 on the other ovary. Well was told today because my periods are regular I can't have PCO...which was a bit of a shock...

You are in the same situation I am in. I have polycystic ovaries but not PCOS as I do not have the other symptoms (hormone levels are within normal range, not overweight, no excess hair or acne, regularish menses etc). If you come to do IVF then it will mean you are more at risk of developing OHSS though.

Seren hope you get the funding. Be great to have an IVF buddy

So do I. If not we will have to go private but I could have already had an IVF cycle by now if we had gone private from the start It was our private consultant who told us to apply for the final tests we needed for funding. I will find the money for a private cycle from somewhere if i need to though. Sadly the getting pregnant part is only the first stage of my problems