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Making the most of our time?

kellyc1987

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I've recently gone back to work full time, Monday to Friday. I really hate being away from DS so much it there is not option of me going part time so I'm looking for ideas of how I can make the most of every moment that I get to spend with him, activities we could do together etc

Edit: forgot to add that DS is almost 10 months
 
Can you afford a cleaner as that would buy you more time?

Activities depends on your DS's age and what's in your area. I would generally say follow your DS's lead and do the stuff he enjoys with him, some fun days out to parks etc and messy play, dancing and singing etc inside
 
I couldn't really afford a cleaner but that's not really a problem because my other half is an absolute clean freak and he does most of the housework, I also try and do as much as I can when the little one is in bed like prepare our lunches, and his meals for the week, ironing, bathing etc
 
I would say try do jobs around the house on an evening so that when you've got your days off you can spend quality time together, it doesn't matter what you do, the time spent is the most important thing x
 
I would say try do jobs around the house on an evening so that when you've got your days off you can spend quality time together, it doesn't matter what you do, the time spent is the most important thing x

Agree with this - it doesn't matter what you do its just being together. My ds1 goes mad if we stay in all day so we had lots of picnics at different parks when he was little but ds2 is quite happy to stay indoors so we go out less but play with his toys more
 
Hugs Hun. I'm in the same boat although been back at work a while now. It's hard. We go swimming every week, go to the park if it's nice, bake, play with his toys, watch films and snuggle and have playdates
 
Find ways to involve him in all the things you have to do every day anyway. If you need to make breakfast and then lunch to take to work in the mornings, find a way to sit him at the counter to "help" you (you can give him things to snack on, play with, hold, etc.) or wear him in a wrap and talk about what you're doing. Same with dinner or after work household tasks. If you have big things you need to get done, save them for the weekend when you can trade off with your partner on one-on-one time, or do them in the evening. My daughter is a quite a bit older now, but I work full-time. We make sure both of us are home mornings and evenings, and one of us is always giving her our full attention (while the other does dinner, etc.), she also stands at the counter and helps with meal prep, or goes outside to help one of us in the garden. Basically, one of us is always actively with her. No tv or playing alone. We also as much as possible make weekends family time. We don't go off and do our own things on the weekends. We also rarely schedule playdates. She sees her friends all week at nursery. We make weekends about family. We're all together just as a family because we don't get much extended time together during the week. It means we don't get to pursue our own interests or activities alone or see friends alone very often. Maybe a couple times a year one of us goes off to see friends for the weekend or we do have to travel for work, but we really try to be together as much as possible, including sometimes all going away on work trips together. It means we don't get loads of adult time, but I think it's a worthwhile trade off since they are only little once.
 
A walk to the park and push onthe swings. We go to a soft play area and ballpit. Sitting and playing together. Maybee a little farm or something? Swimming? Reading books. Nice walks. Out for some dinner? Xx
 
My DH has worked away since DS was born so it's literally the pair of us. At 10months I was working full time. So when I picked him up from daycare we played for an hour give him his bath tea and bed. Then I tidied.
The weekend I just went with DS we went for walks we done messy play and just generally played all day mainly sensory toys. He started walking at 11months and loved walking around outside. Summertime is great take him to farms and look at the machinery. And they love water toys so you can fill paddling pools and have loads of fun.
 
I'd say it doesn't matter what use do as long as your phone is down, he feels involved and he has your attention. I'm sure he'd find anything interesting really. I can be bad at going on my phone and I notice when I turn off all distractions they feel much more involved even with the cleaning, gardening, washing up etc
 

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