Male doctors

[Pulirula]

My usual Dr is a woman, ( she's not really a Dr but a drs assistant?) but during pregnancy I have to see all the maternity Drs and 2 of them are male. I had to do it with my first pregnancy also and I wasn't married then and I was also 7 years younger. Now I'm horribly uncomfortable with having a man poking around downstairs. The next nearest hospital is 45 min away and i have never been there. I like the nurses and everything about my current Dr except the fact men work there. Anyone else feel this way? I'm not saying men are bad drs but I don't feel like they should be gynos

 

[BB1982]

I'm sure if you let the surgery know you can make all your appointments with the female dr, I wouldn't of even thought you'd have to give a reason.

 

[luz]

I felt this way with my first pregnancy, but then when I was rushed into the hospital fully dilated and i had the entire L&D staff in my room ripping off my clothes and helping me deliver, I realized it doesn't matter. All these people see so many whoo-has a day that they probably don't tell one from the next. However - if it is a concern to you, i'm sure you can call and make appointments with female doctors. There are a lot of offices around that have only female doctors, that would ensure when you deliver you have a female doc. delivering.

 

[Stacip]

I'm not saying men are bad drs but I don't feel like they should be gynos

I hope you're joking. If not, this statement is super ignorant. Just because you personally don't want a male OBGYN (I would prefer a female as well) does not mean they shouldn't be able to practice the discipline...silliness.

 

[Weebles]

I have a male obgyn. He doesn't always do my yearly exams but... I want him to deliver my child. He's a fantastic doctor, truly cares about his patients, will advocate for them, and really has a passion for delivering babies and is clearly the reason why he is in practice. I have a difficult time during exams and such, a male or female doctor doesn't make a difference to me. I guess I don't quite understand the reasons for why you feel the way you do but bottom line, you should ideally be comfortable with who will be delivering your child and if I felt strongly about it I would look into other options.

 

[Pulirula]

I wasn't looking to start anything stacip. I was just saying men shouldn't be able to tell woman anything about body parts they don't have. I wouldn't tell a man anything about his penis problems. If you have issues with what I said you know where you can stick any further comments.
Thanks to the rest of you. I will go to my next appt and if after that I don't feel comfortable I will find a new Dr.

 

[Talia12]

I think you're totally within your rights not to want to see a certain doctor for ANY reason (especially if you are paying for it) but there's definitely no reason men shouldn't be gynaecologists. My husband's life was saved during his birth by a male gynaecologist who went on to deliver both his siblings too and my mother in law says he was the most capable doctor she has ever known.
Of course, you should be able to - and can, at least in the UK - request to see female doctors only. But I personally would be fine with male doctors/midwives or whatever - it's just a job and it's 0% sexual.

 

[Talia12]

Also the thing about men "telling women about body parts they don't have" is that actually those men know a lot more about our vaginas than we do, because they are specialists who studied and practised for years and years. That's like saying a female doctor who's never had children can't tell you anything about pregnancy, or a general practitioner can't talk to a diabetic person if they themselves don't have diabetes.
I'm not starting anything either, just pointing out my personal view.

 

[Stacip]

Completely agree, Talia.

 

[Pulirula]

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[Stacip]

Well, that escalated aggressively quick haha.

 

[luz]

one more thing- it's not sexual to them. Not at all. My husband is a nurse and has to help women all the time, often seeing them partially naked, he just sees it as body parts he is trying to get better.

 

[Kiwiberry]

For me personally I had a better experience with male doctors than female doctors. The male doctors I saw actually cared the female Dr kind of brushed me off in a way. I had three male doctors and two female doctors for both of my pregnancies. Female doctors may be able to relate to you more but male Drs are much more sympathetic.

 

[Kiwiberry]

I forgot to mention after having 2 children and lots of doctors around me since they were both premature, I have decided that I prefer men over women gynecologists.

 

[DobbyForever]

Just remember they aren't there because they get off on it. They are there to help women. There are much cleaner, more fun ways to get some action than being a gyn. My brother just finished med school, and I know he had to do a round in gyn and delivery and all that. So I just tell myself it's someone's brother. I actually feel bad for them because the guy's who have examined me in the ER are clearly uncomfortable because they are used to women overreacting. Your female gyn could be bisexual or even homosexual and you might never know, so should they also not be gyns?

All that being said, your birth experience should be the most relaxing possible. If you really can't handle having a guy examining you, just tell them that you either would like to have appointments with female gyns only AND/OR that if you have to see a guy you would like a same sex observer. You are always entitled as a patient to have someone sit in and observe your appointments.

 

[DobbyForever]

Also the thing about men "telling women about body parts they don't have" is that actually those men know a lot more about our vaginas than we do, because they are specialists who studied and practised for years and years. That's like saying a female doctor who's never had children can't tell you anything about pregnancy, or a general practitioner can't talk to a diabetic person if they themselves don't have diabetes.
I'm not starting anything either, just pointing out my personal view.

yes!I'm a teacher well versed in child psychology and teaching methods, but if I had a dollar for every time someone's parents said I can't be a good teacher because I don't have children... Tell that to my class which is always the best behaved, happiest, and has the highest test scores. It's all about education, and trust me doctors go through a loooooot of it lol

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Just hoping that maybe you'll come around and give them a try. Like some women said they liked their male gyns better. But nobody can tell you what is right for your pregnancy experience. So hope it works out!

 

[Lumi]

I guess if it makes you that uncomfortable your only choice would be to change doctors, I actually prefer a male doctor and have no problem with them doing their job 'down there'.

 

[Farmgirlalee]

I had a female OB with my daughter but she wasn't on call when I was laboring so one of her partners delivered. He was great and I had no complaints. He got her out and that was all I was caring about at the time!! But in the months up to delivery I liked having a female OB. Not that a guy couldn't have done a great job it just made me more comfortable. I still don't know who I am getting assigned to at the OB so I guess the gender of my doctor will be a surprise! Lol

 

[LoraLoo]

I forgot to mention after having 2 children and lots of doctors around me since they were both premature, I have decided that I prefer men over women gynecologists.

I do too 👍 I specifically requested a particular male consultant In my last couple of pregnancies as he's great.

And yes, it's a bit cringey wen they do sweeps n stuff but it's just as bad with a woman Dr imo- they've seen it all before!

 

[loeylo]

I bet the OP is a barrel of laughs on a night out ...

In all seriousness though, this post really rubbed me up the wrong way. A persons genitalia does not determine their ability to do their job. Did you know that not all men a depraved sex fiends?

This post is disgusting. If you were on here saying that women cant be engineers or mechanics etc then you would be flamed for being sexist. You have personal choice to have a preference not to be treated by a particular member of staff, but to make a sweeping statement to say men shouldn't be gynaecologists is gross and reeks of sexism.

I also fail to see the relevance of you being single before and being happy for males to root around your vagina but now that you are married you wont allow it. It makes no sense to me.

By the way, I doubt any doctor, male female or otherwise, is getting off on you lying there with a Childs head emerging from your vagina, covered in blood, amniotic fluid and probably excrement too. It really isn't particularly sexy.

One of the consultants who potentially saved my daughters life was a male. Apart from having massive hands (ouch) there was no negatives - although I did request that the far more petite female consultant did my next internal assessment!