Male Libido

[mommyhopeful2]

Ladies, I need help.

I love my husband to death, but the man has about a -50 libido. We have tried Viagra but it just made him depressed. Short of dosing him with extacy, I am at a loss for how to get him to ....

HELP

 

[CaliDreaming]

Has your hubby had a sperm analysis done? Low libido and sperm issues often go hand in hand. Unfortunately, when couples have problems conceiving, not enough attention is given to men's fertility. If you look on this board you'll see a lot of women who spent years trying to conceive only to find out that there was a sperm issue.

 

[2ducks]

During my fertile window I give my guy Horny Goat Weed from nature's truth. Its hard for him to perform 3-4 nights in a row, not sure if it completely helps or not but it can't hurt. Also, after night 2-4 in a row of sex each night i have to put a lot more effort into foreplay.

I have also read great things about Korean Ginseng.

 

[ramibear]

Have you had his hormone levels tested? (Testosterone and estrogen).

 

[lisap2008]

Tongkat ali, tribulus terrestris & maca , these balanced my DH hormone levels and his drive increased alot , we used to fight about BDing alot ,thankfully not anymore. my husband cant stand taking too many pills so I found the supplements in powder form on ebay and mixed them with his morning smoothie.

 

[mommyhopeful2]

Thank you ladies. We have put in an order for him to get a full SA through the VA, but we are waiting for the call about the appointment because they have to outsource to a different hospital.

I think depression is the real problem, but I dont know how to help, he is taking his medication as prescribed, and we are going to his appointments regularly. But it doesnt seem to be helping much, I get that sometimes people can just not be in the mood, but we havnt even tried to do anything in 2 1/2 months even though Ive been taking my Clomid.

 

[2ducks]

Some anti depressants have decreased sex drive as a side effect. My OH takes citalopram for anxiety. In certain doses it causes a complete lack of sex drive. We were worried about it when he first started taking it but luckily he is on a low enough dose that he doesn't have that side effect. I would encourage him to talk to his doc about changing his meds, especially if the meds aren't helping his depression. Also, have you thought about taking a break from Clomid for a cycle.? I know that it doesn't feel fair to you but Clomid can have some nasty side effects. I would just hate for you to have these side effects without the chance of getting KU because of your husbands current issues. Its good that he's willing to move forward with the SA. I'm so sorry for your troubles, please keep us posted on your progress.

 

[LondonH]

My dh has a very low libido as well. It's tough so I feel for you

We recently discovered that he has really low testosterone and I think this contributes to it. There's not a lot that can be done (testosterone replacement reduces sperm count) but you can make some natural improvements. Low vitamin D can cause depression, sleep problems and low testosterone so having him take daily vitamin D is a good idea. Make sure it is taken earlier in the day with food so it doesn't alter sleep. Zinc supplements are a good idea too. Exercise (nothing that restricts the boys though), sunshine, and reducing anxiety helps. It's good that you are being proactive!