March 2013 babies - we all have our beautiful babies :)

[rose.]

Hi skeet, glad Carson is napping well and hope the constipation eases soon! I am trying to get Alfie to nap more - usually in the day he is really good but when it comes to evening he will not nap!! When he has a nap early evening he is fine for the rest of the evening but when he doesn't (most of the time) he is crabby and fussy and on/off the boob all evening comfort sucking.

Starting today I am going to take his Moses basket down early evening and try and get him to nap in that - maybe we will have more luck!

Some pics of my gorgeous little man..

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[AmyB1978]

Rose, he's so cute! Love the toes in he sand! I can't get a picture of Emily smiling... She smiles plenty but as soon as I pick up a camera, poof, smile gone! Lol

 

[JenJen80]

Not much has changed here Martha still refuses to sleep in the day and really fights to stay awake. She still feeds all the time a cries a lot which is quite draining as I still can't get on and do anything.

On the plus side she slept 8.30-2.30 then 3.15-7am over night so at least i'm getting sleep. Going to talk to the HV today about her not sleeping in the day.

Well done to those who are sleeping well at night.

 

[rose.]

Thanks Amy, Alfie always stops smiling when I put the phone in his face, I've got over 1000 pictures on it and only about 10 of them are smiley ones! He always does a huge grin and by the time I press the button he's stopped!

Jen I know how frustrating it can be to need to get things done and not be able to! Have you got a bouncy chair? Alfie loves his and it vibrates too although we haven't used the vibrate bit yet. Often he falls asleep in it.

How does everyone try and get their LO to sleep? Night times are fine but often I struggle in the late afternoon-evening. I usually let Alfie fall asleep on me but should I be trying to get him to self settle or is he still too young? I am more than happy for him to fall asleep on me and then be transferred to his bouncy chair or basket but I don't want him to end up relying on it (although I do love his sleepy cuddles!!)

 

[AmyB1978]

Jen, Emily is just starting to have better naps, sometimes! For her it seemed that as soon as she started sleeping better at night her daytime naps became a mess. I'd like to see if I can get her on more of a schedule soon, not super strict, but more structured then a free for all! She's been sick, for like 3 weeks now, so I am doing some things but also just figure that whatever works to soothe her right now is ok.

Rose, I THINK they are too little to consistently self soothe just yet, but I wonder the same thing... Emily will only go to sleep if held (typically she actually just falls asleep nursing), rocked, walked, patted, etc. She will sometimes fall asleep in her swing (she has the baby Bjorn bouncer seat so it doesn't vibrate, but all of you talking about sleep and your lo liking their bouncer vibrated seat makes me kind if want one for Emily.) I can transfer her to her crib or bassinet after she is asleep but I don't think we are anywhere near her going to sleep on er own, especially since she is still in swaddle blankets so can't rub her head, suck hr fingers, etc. I need to get her out of the swaddle at some point too...it's so hard to know how long things are ok, it's working well now but I do worry how to know when we need to change it. Luckily there are times she wakes at night, typically from her reflux and she can go back to sleep on her own, I tke that as a good sign. Being a first time mama brings sooo many questions.

 

[JenJen80]

Martha was great until she got thrush and it completely unsettled her. At the moment I am struggling to take her anywhere as she just screams the whole time or is stuck to my boob. She won't go to anyone else either and I just have to leave her with OH to deal with for half an hour.

Have also been trying to give her a bottle of expressed milk but she's never hungry enough to take it and screams at that.

 

[AmyB1978]

JenJen, sorry things are tough right now. It's hard when you have to be Mama 100% of the time all the time... When baby doesn't want or settle for anyone else.

 

[JenJen80]

JenJen, sorry things are tough right now. It's hard when you have to be Mama 100% of the time all the time... When baby doesn't want or settle for anyone else.

For the 1st time in weeks she's asleep (on me) but no way can i put her down lol as she will be wide awake!!!!!

 

[sethsmummy]

so sorry to hear some of you ladies are having a hard time with the napping situation!

I feel really bad to admit it but ethan generally self settles and has done so from day 1. He used to just fall asleep in his swing until we got a bouncy chair with vibrate. Generally he falls asleep on his own but sometimes we have to bounce him a little to get him to nod off. And i can put him in his crib awake and just rock it gently and 9 times out of 10 he will goto sleep by himself 1st time.

We do have some days/nights where he doesnt do it though... like last night for example... he SCREAMED the place down at 9:30pm till 10:30pm... i bounced him in his chair,, held him, walked with him, patted his bum, swayed, spun from side to side shhhhing him and Nothing worked. I had to gently blow on his face for 5 mins to calm him down (i know weird child lol) and then put him down into his bouncy chair. Couldnt take him into the bedroom and his crib as his screaming was waking and scaring Seth. Finally he nodded off but stayed a sleep for at most around 20/30 minutes before waking crying again. He was like this ALL night.

so cue my DH moan! He said at 10 when he went to bed.. if your up all night ill get up in the morning. So since i was up all night i went through at 6am and asked him if i could goto bed "Why?" ... so i just said never mind and came back through... he bloody fell back asleep then moaned at half 7 when i woke him again.. took him till 8am to come through to the living room... i got into bed... 8:15am just after i nod off... he bloody waked me up to tell me a parcel came!!! then Seth woke whilst he was in our bedroom so of course seth sees our door open and comes in.... so POOF there goes any sleep for me Im so pissed! I'm going to be like a zombie all day and i wont be allowed a nap or he'll get in a mood

 

[rose.]

Jen I did the same thing this morning! He was peacefully asleep on me and as soon as I moved him to his basket he woke up!

Amy, I think I will just go with the flow and let him do what he wants for a bit longer. It's hard going from a newborn where you just do whatever works to keep them happy, to a more strong minded baby who might pick up habits! I think you're right though, they are too young for routine. I will just be grateful that he seems to have a good night time routine!

 

[rose.]

Don't feel bad Seths mummy! Make the most of having a baby who self settles I know alfie can do it as he has once or twice before but it's the rest of the time I'm thinking about! Sorry your OH ruined your sleep - my husband is useless when it comes to helping out at night. I don't complain as he has to go to work but it would be nice for him to help out at weekends a bit more. He says he's tired from work but I am tired from looking after Alfie through the night!! It's getting much easier now he's not waking for his night feed though!! Hope he keeps it up

 

[Kte]

Sorry your OH has been an idiot SethsMummy It's such a hard battle the 'I'm tired because of work vs i'm tired looking after the kids'. Yeah they may be going to work but that means in an odd way, they are getting a break! It's just not seen that way. I feel I was a much better Mummy to Chloe when I worked only because I wasn't run ragged all the time so I'd spend 5 min with her, now I'm desperate for 5 mins alone! Still tying to get that happy balance back!

Rose: Sophie is also a good self settler, at night I feed her, wind her and then pop her straight back into her bed and then leave her. She usually grunts and groans and farts for a bit (she is such a noisy baby at night time) and then slowly falls asleep. During the day I pop her down after a feed when she is dozing off and she then continues to fall asleep. I can leave her in the basket when she is awake but I feel mean she is being ignored during her awake time. She literally today for the first time fell asleep in her swing chair, all the other times she has cried to get out - I was doing some cleaning and came back and she was fast asleep, bit of a shock!

We have the HV here today *I think* I wrote it down on different days in my diary and calendar But considering yesterday was a bank holiday, I'm pretty sure it will be today.

to all the ladies having a hard time

 

[JenJen80]

I've just re tried giving her a dummy again as she has refused before and she seems settled and not crying.
I really must get a battery for the bouncy chair see if the vibrate bit helps.

 

[rose.]

I was just feeling sad that I didn't keep a pregnancy diary then I realised that I sort of did - on this thread!! I'm going to start going through and copying my posts in to word so that I can build up a diary of all things pregnancy/parenting related

 

[Kte]

I was just feeling sad that I didn't keep a pregnancy diary then I realised that I sort of did - on this thread!! I'm going to start going through and copying my posts in to word so that I can build up a diary of all things pregnancy/parenting related

PS I forgot to say - lovely pictures! Love the sandy feet one too - did he like it?


Well HV did come and Sophie is now 10lbs 15oz! She is still just above the 75th centile so there is nothing to worry about.

I was sooooo embarrassed! One of the cats went to walk behind the HV's legs and then the other cat darted at it, it looked like it was going for her and she freaked out a bit!

 

[skeet9924]

Rose- Carson only self settles if he has eaten a bit and is tired and in bassinet.. He won't anywhere else other then the car

Jen- I had a horrible time with Carson until recently.. He used to fight sleep so bad.. He would be awake 12-13 hours in a row and wouldn't even sleep on me. I ended up realizing his first nap of the morning is key.. And I have to put Carson back to bed within 1.5-2 hours if being awake.. I can't miss that few minutes of tiredness or I'm in trouble for the rest of the day. Carson doesn't like swing or bouncy chair so for him I do a bit of a bed time routine for the first nap.. Swaddle bottle bed. And he's in the bassinet in our room.

As long as Carson gets that nap I can put him down for one every 1.5-2hrs if not hes up all day fighting sleep

Seth- sorry oh is being like that..

 

[JenJen80]

Well the dummy worked and I got an hour and a half to myself and did my ironing.

Going to get her weighed in a bit and am looking forward to see how much she has put on.

 

[Amy_T]

Wow lots of posts today!

Glad there are lots of sleepy babies (mostly!).

How awake are your little ones in the day? Holly is 6 weeks today and still sleeps most of the time. I just noticed people saying about them only being awake for 1.5 - 2 hours at a time before needing a nap, Holly is hardly awake for half an hour let alone 1.5 hours! Getting more smiles now when she is awake which is lovely.

In terms of self settling... She doesn't really! In the car or carrier she will and occasionally in her swing but nine times out of ten she sucks to sleep so I am a human dummy a lot of the time. My older girls are rubbish sleepers and I really want Holly to learn to self settle early on as I think that makes a big difference but not sure when is an appropriate time to make the effort to 'teach' her.

Hope you're all enjoying the sunshine if you've got the lovely weather in your part of the world! X

 

[MrsChezek]

Kte I hope you have a nice smooth day tomorrow.


Have any babies started lifting their heads up yet??
Kaylee is very lazy for tummy time

Sorry this is late but Hayden is lazy when doing tummy time on our chests; I thought she was weak but it seemed odd as she has full neck support now when upright!!! But when I put her on the playmat, she gets very upset and in her anger, she lifts up quite high!!! So apparently she's simply too comfy on us and just relaxes just thought I'd share in case Kaylee is the same

 

[MrsChezek]

I am so behind!!! Hope to catch up today. My bbs seem to have recovered though they are still sore and tender, like they were bruised! Yesterday they got engorged again as Hayden slep until 6am and then wouldn't go back down. She was fussy, crying for more milk after being fed so u gave her expressed milk so then she spit up a tons she finally fell asleep at 8am so I passed put with her. She didn't wake until 11am!!! So my bbs that are used to cluster feeding in the morning, were ready to explode but luckily nothing got plugged Today she slept 9.5 hours through! She's sleeping so much right now as she also takes two 2 hour naps during the day! It's great but makes me we worried why she's so lethargic! Anyone else experiencing this? She's at 10 weeks...